Age Difference

The less the better or the more the better?
Why?
How much?

I'd go for men that are 5 or 6 years older than I am.

I tend to attract younger men but I don't really like to dip below 5 yrs younger than me. I rarely find men the same age or older than me attractive. I think it's because I am often told I look younger than my age so if I see someone that looks a lot older than his age, I am not attracted ; which ends up being the case most of the time. Anyhow my last serious relationship was with a man 3 yrs younger and after 2.5 yrs of off and on drama with him I can see he is far more immature than my current love interest that is 5 yrs younger than me. The 5 year younger man just seems to have his shit together and priorities right. Anyone would probably assume the 3 yr difference would be a better match because he is closer to my age but that is not the case. So it really has to do with life experiences and maturity more than age.

What's age got to do with it? I have an arian male friend who told me about his friend with benefit woman that was 50 and he was 24 and had no where to go. They had sex but the lady couldn't have kids, and he wants kids and marriage life eventually...

He also asked me what if I were 49, instead of 34 and I said it has to do with where your at in life. Like maturity level, and depends on what kind of bond we formed in the beginning as well.

Alot given the experience. I can never picture myself with a 24 year old or can't picture a 45 year old relationship. I am 33. I am not perfect but I feel its the maturity level. Ask a 24 year old if they want kids and marriage. Hm probably not. Why because they need to be secure and stable and raise a properly. Have a job, car, place, and money. Ask a 45 year old, becasue maybe has kids already, may not want any more, but then maybe more stable movements. Or maybe not able to produce. If that woman wants kids. A deal breaker for some.

They were talking about this on a radio talk show not long ago. They were saying that statistically, the less the better. 5 years or less have more success.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by truecap
They were talking about this on a radio talk show not long ago. They were saying that statistically, the less the better. 5 years or less have more success.

Do you think possible it's a sign of the times? Maybe the gap was more successful back when things weren't instant?

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I think it has more to do with generational preferences. Such as similar interests in music, shared similar childhood memories, one ready to go to bed at 10 and the other wanting to leave to go out at 10, cultural influences, etc.

As we get older, we tend to want to "party" less, go out on the town less, social with friends less, get more involved in work (or less involved if achievements are already met), like less "loud" music and places, different eating habits, go to bed earlier, get up earlier, develop different tastes in television and movies.....

We can keep up with the younger people for a while, but we get exhausted a lot faster. lol! We learn to treasure quiet, relaxed downtime instead of socializing in large crowds.

Sucks getting older!!!

Posted by tiziani
I only ask because my godfather and godmother have been married for life (so far - well over 40 years now). He is ten years older than her.

It's definitely doable and there are a lot of successful relationships like that. 🙂

Age is irrelevant, considering humans aren't even meant to be monogamous.

Posted by tiziani

Age affects your social environment, and that in turn influences your experience.

I don't know whether you intended that to be a bad thing or good thing.

Everything affects your social environment, every relationship ... and therefore influences your experiences.

People tend to concern themselves too much with what is expected of them, which nearly always influences their experiences negatively because it goes against the natural order of things.

What is to be expected is the question??

Nowadays...

Either we are single by preference or we are with someone cause we found the right one.. whoa.

I think the expected is outdated or I am outdated and I am still old fashioned. I've been single 8 years with the few dates within year or so apart from one another. I learned to be open minded..and unselfish..that's really really impressive.. so now my expectations are if the bull in me can adapt. So can you.

My love interest is nine years younger than me (in her twenties) and she's more mature than most women my age. She's emotionally responsible and totally independent (and makes good money).

So its a preference... and it's ok to date someone within 5-10 years. What if they leave you for an older or younger person.

My husband and I have a 12-year difference (I'm older). Before him, I only dated within a couple of years of my age. But, out of everyone I've been with, my younger man is the most responsible, mature, and ambitious.