Cancer guy & Gemini Guy - Is it really that bad—

k i was wrting a crazy long story but it's too long so i'll cut it down

i work as a host at restaurant and gem guy (waiter) from work is 20 and i'm 23 - always thought he was cute but never showed interest - then 3 weeks ago i come into the restaurant wit a guy friend for dinner - gem guy was also off that night and i notice him having dinner wit a girl. anyway so it was just observance at the time.
now gemguy and i chitchat at work before but only workrelated stuff. however the next day at work - out of nowhere he comes up at my hoststand and blatantly asks me "so who was that guy u were with?" i think was too shocked to answer at which point he asked "is that your boyfriend?" i said no that he was just a friend. then i said that i'd seen him last night as well - i asked if he had been on a date, he said no that it was just a friend.

now weeks later he's been flirting wit me especially the last two days. he's insinuated that he wants to get wit me at which i've replied that he's too young, he replies that "so you can be my teacher". i looked at him and asked quizzingly, "and teach you what?" i smiled when he said, "anything and everything".

for the past two days especially yesterday he's come up to the hoststand more often that usual. at one point yesterday i leave the hoststand and spot him going over to it and talking with the other hostess. when i come back she tells me he came over and asked where i had gone then told her that he thinks i'm hot. later on i'm leaning forward on the hoststnad so as to stretch my back. all of a sudden i feel him stand so close to me, i think he intentially stood so close that the front part of his body was touching the side of my ass (which sent a rush though my body- damn him!) i looked up at him and sure enough his eyes were penitrating mine - gosh he's mischievious. i simply straightened out
and continued talking to the other host. he put his hand on the hoststand and started inspecting his jewelry. he wears this really cool ring and i held his hand as i inspected it for the second time. he discreetly starts caressing my fingers and i pull my hand away gently.

also a couple of times i found him positioned in a part of the restaurant leaning against a wall which conveniently is situated right where i am bound to look which is near the kitchen. twice when i looked i caught him staring at me like if he was trying to penetrate me with his eyes. i noticed though that when ever i noticed him walking around and made eye contact he wouldn't come to my hoststand but whenever i wasn't paying attention he'd just show up. he came up when no one else was there and asked if i missed him. i told him yes i did that he should come up more often since the other hostess had left and now i had no one to talk with. is he playing games??

see i know he wants me sexually and yes i am strongly attracted to him as well however I WANT MORE and i'm not sure if he just wants sex. how do i know what he wants? how do i court a gem guy—? come on help me!!!
when he found out we both finished at 5pm yesterday he asked if i wanted to have dinner with him, somehow i managed to not give him a straight answer. later as i was about to leave i bumped into him and he asked again. i told him i'd wait on him but wouldn't eat. i waited with 2 other girls and he came but had to sit at the only other available table which only seats two, one of the girls got up and sat with him (i know they're friends)- it appears he made plans to eat with her too. so in shock i sit and watch since i only stay because of him. so i say, "hey what's the deal? i'm here." his reply is that our table is small and that i should come and sit beside him (knowing that where he's sitting barely has space for me so that i have to squash in beside him). he openly flirts with me and i can tell that the girl with us has caught on cus she keeps smiling at me.
so the three of us start talking and he shares that he loves pleasing a woman and that he's not boasting but he has confidence. the conversation leads to more sex talk to which he states his opinion that friends with benfits is ok, the girl agrees to that nothing is wrong with it - so do i but because i want him to see what i want from him, i say that at this point in my life i am not into that and i would want something more from a person.
later as we're talking he says something in spanish (his bkground) to which the girl gets up, smiles and says she thinks she should leave us alone. he gets up to but comes back, i ask him to translate, he says, "i said i wanted to make love to you."

i'm flattered, shocked and embarassed all at the sametime and he sits for a minute and says, "not sure if u're interested but my friends and i are goin to a spanish club tonight, i dono if u wanna come." i guess he must have seen the uncertainty in my eyes and says, "take my number and gimme a call let me know" to which i insist that he takes my number since in my head i want to be the one being chased not be the chaser. he doesn't take my number and i don't take his and that's how that went.

so now i'm madly attracted to him but it seems we're so different in the way we play this game of love/lust. i'm naturally an agressive hunter at times when i want a guy but i feel that deep inside that if a guy really wants a girl he's hunt her. dats how u know he's really into you. but it seems he wants me to hunt him.
the other thing is that i'm more upfront and staight forward in what i want from someone and it seems that he likes to play games. he's a flirt for sure but what waiter isn't, i expect that. i just want to win him - i hate losing. i want to play his game and hopefully beat him at it but i really like him it's just that from everything i've read it seems cancer and gemini are a bad match. i feel that for me to win this guy i have to play games which is not me at all, i mean if i only have to do it at the beginning to win him den fine but if geminis want continuous game playing then i'm not cut out for it. i know what i want and just go for it, i dont play games i have no problem telling a guy what i want.

so any advice on how to give this any kind of a chance————————?

Well if you like him go out and have fun. But don't give it up so easily. Gemini men can be charmers.

This is too much I read quite a bit but I suppose that typical Gemini guys (Gemini rules the hands and fingers) like to wear rings have some fun with him this is the Gemini season give him a break.

Yeah have some dinner, have a nice chat, sounds exciting what you are talking about, don't do motels! You will get some stranger's crabs! try a decent hotel for the night > he must have saved some money but damn try and be nice and try to keep it from being too heavy Jesus.

Ok I read most of your stuff he's just trying to be provacative but he's not going to hurt you in anyway so try and have some fun this is the Gemini season which uhhhh actually blends eventually with Cancer > I wouldn't be surprized that when these two signs blend their auras its more colourful than a rainbow! I'm going to try to ask this Virg chick (looks like Beyounce) out to this ATL club for next week she seem's like she could be a lot fun! Just as looney byrd funny Cancer can be a lot of fun so uhhhh try and not be too too serious > thatz wuzz up.

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hahaha sorry guys i guess that was a long story - oops (embarassed)

yea i think he'd be fun - i think if i have the mentality that it's just fun then i'll be fine.

joe stickler thanx for the input - i hope you things go great with "beyonce"
you're right, i notice that my natural instinct (which can be very strong) when i'm interested in someone is that i always want it to lead to serious longterm. i honestly want to have fun with this guy - but i'm trying to get out of that habit ""wanting to always be serious"" habit

i've never really casually dated - can you guys gimme advice on how to just let loose and not get caught up anymore—
hey Mystic Dreamer, have you dated a gem guy before? what's ur sign??

he's definitely trying to seduce you...sounds like something I would do...