Gemini girl needs help with Taurus guy!

I started talking to this Taurus guy 3 weeks ago and we talked everyday. we had maybe missed 2 random days without talking. i went over to hang out with him after him wanting me to for a week and a half. before i went over he called and facetimed with me for about an hour. then we layed together on the couch watching tv and we kissed because he started tickling me. we moved upstairs and kissed more. he then got a call into work, so we had to go. he texted me apologizing about it saying he felt like an ass now saying he was looking forward to hanging out with me. i said it was okay, but i felt disappointed. I thought that'd be the last i'd see him. we then text more and I see him a few days later because he asks me to come over again. he even asked me to sleep over one night but I couldn't. we get intimate the next time I see him, and all we can talk about is how amazing it was for the next few days until I come over again to see him. we usually lay together and talk and joke each other and he tickles me, then it turns into more. and I go because I can't stay long. I went and saw him saturday morning and it happened again, but he was hungover, we talked, he tickled me and we got intimate and i left him. that was the second time that week. he texted me a few hours later and said "hey", but never responded to me and I asked if he was okay, no response. Then i text him again just asking how his day was, i get nothing. So i decide i'll leave him alone for now. THEN, he randomly texts me the next day (last night), to which i respond shortly with a "maybe". Thinking id get his attention because i dont respond like usual. But after that he says nothing again. It's driving me crazy! I really do like him and want to spend more time with him but with him working alot usually til 8pm every weeknight it's also hard. I would just like him to know I like him and want to know where I stand. Should I talk to him if I see him again about what we're doing? or wait and keep going with how things are? and also wait for him to text me back? what actions will he show if he likes me too? I've been reading about Taurus men disappearing and reappearing is common, but why do they do this?

This isn't a Taurus man thing. This is a horny man thing and trust me they come in all zodiac signs. By his actions he's showing you that he was in it for the sex. Men do this all the time, if we allow them. Come on strong in the beginning and fizzle out not longer after sex. Sweet talk is real cheap and translated into man-speak means "I'm horny and want to get laid as fast as possible." Besides, you shouldn't even be asking "where's this going" after only knowing a person for 3 weeks. If you want a real relationship, you need to give it time and don't "fast forward" the relationship cuz this is what happens. Sorry but this situation isn't even hard to call. Been there/done that and never felt good after the fact. Cut bait and swim.

Posted by xvll27
Taurus guys are always busy at work I have few friends at work they do not attain their ph calls or text back to home when they are at work or even when they got free time they make a short call

You should take it slowly and kindly do not respond him with ''May be '' type of stuff ...


This may disappoint him a bit stay positive if you really like him

A man who really digs a woman is never "too busy." That's an excuse, not a reason. I mean he was texting her every day before they did the deed. Now he's "busy." Oldest trick in the book.

Okay i wont be so negative to mean if he texts again. I'm just not sure how to talk to him now that he feels different to me.

But he texted me even everyday after the first time of "the deed". But its gradually gotten less and less i guess :/

:::: shakes head ::::



Why does she have to be told this by strangers?

Posted by xvll27

Posted by Este8
This is a horny man thing and trust me they come in all zodiac signs.

Dear Este8

I do agree with some of the stuff you wrote above but each men think differently sex is not life ..sex is a part of life ...

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I hear what you're saying, especially the part where men think about this issue differently. Herein lies the rub, no pun intended. Honesty, I got no issues with women "hitting it and quitting it" if that's where they are at in their stage of life. However, what women do over and over and over is jump into bed too soon, catch major feelings and then get majorly let down. To be honest "fast forwarding" a relationship is a two way street and problem. When you hop into bed before establishing a solid connection to a man you might well be harpooning the chances for success. A man might be really interested in a woman but it progresses too fast and he gives into his sexual urges and then fears he got in over his head. If the woman took the time to develop a strong bond of friendship first, he might not be freaking out post sex. And yeah, I do think men love the chase and taking away that courtship ritual also harpoons our chances. Generally speaking tho, it's easier for men to separate sex from love than it is for women. I've been where she has back in the day and ya know experience is the best teacher, if we're willing to learn. It's live an learn for us all. Namaste.

Posted by xvll27
Follow your mind but

You know ..you don't need to get intimate easily ...your only 22 and a young Gemini
You should not have to throw your self to any body like this after knowing them just for 3 weeks
but I can understand if you start to like some body you want to know more about them

Best thing you could do ask him short question like
Hows is going at work ?
Hows your family ? lunch etc

If he respond none wait for him like a week

Do you have a control over your sex drive ? what's your intuition says about this guy is he in to friends with benefit type relationship ?

I mean there are people whom I can read very well with initial conversation or just by observation

I know, i understand all of what you all are saying. but what's done is done now. i had thought differently back then about him. i thought we were trying to establish a relationship. i know that is what he initially wanted. unfortunately i have not have much experience with this. but i guess leaving him alone right now is my only option. i guess my feelings are just so confused right now that i forget people do need space and people are busy. because of me, being the talkative gemini i am--i loved that he was talking to me everyday. he does work 4am til about 8pm almost everyday i've talked to him, but he always had maybe an hour or two to talk after he got off and sometimes even throughout the day. but i will just try to keep busy and wait..
i just don't know if i should talk to him about us when i see him (if i do) ?
and what i should do when he texrs ?

Thank you all for your advice. It has really helped me think a lot lately.

& He has texted me in the past few days. But then ends up not responding eventually. And its not like the conversation is too long. He'll start texting, respond right away for a bit, then not reply to what i ask then text me again the next day. But i don't bug him to reply to me eventually, i just leave it. It's seriously weird what he's doing :/