Guess the Sun Really Can Overpower The Moon Sign..

So I have a female Aries friend who is Cap Moon with Leo Mars. She is one of the nicest cool people I know. What I am about to discuss is out of concern for her as a friend. I want to stress I realize it is not of my business and I have kept my mouth shut, but am still worried.

She has been seeing this guy for the past year who is in his mid-late 30's I am guessing. I've only met him a few times and he seems like a good guy. However she turned 40 a few days ago (she calls me little bro as a joke since i was born months after her)

On her 40th birthday, her boyfriend proposed to her and she accepted. I had mixed emotions as while I am happy for her am concerned that its too soon since they have only been dating a year.

Some extra background - she has no kids and her last relationship was with a guy who had 2 kids. They were together 3 yrs but were doing long-distance. He traveled a lot for his job. She finally broke it off as their schedules just were not going to mesh.

Dude before him she was engaged to and they had been dating 3 years prior to engagement. That didnt work out because she realized they changed too much as people during the last 2 years.

I really want this to work out for her but am I wrong in thinking its too soon for marriage since they've only dated a year? I get the vibe she hasnt come out of the honeymoon phase of the relationship even though they live together already

The same thing happened with my Pisces friend where he moved in with his gf and talked about marriage 6 months later. But now things are rocky between them - AKA honeymoon phase is over.

I am being a good friend and being supportive while minding my business. Am just a little perplexed at the impulsiveness going on. I thought having a Cap moon would help her be more pragmatic. But maybe it could also be the general freaking out about hitting 40 and feeling she needs to get this area of her life handled right away.

I stress that I do like the guy from the times I've talked with him, but am concerned this is going to blow up in their faces. Do you think I am being a bad friend for minding my business and not talking to her about this . It's her life ultimately, just dont want to see her get brought down into a bad place if this doesnt work out for her

How are they coping with quarantine? If good, then I say why not.

It's been one year! Probably another 6 months till the wedding....

How is that too soon?

Just encourage her to do a long engagement so she doesn't feel rushed.

Posted by slowdive80

So I have a female Aries friend who is Cap Moon with Leo Mars. She is one of the nicest cool people I know. What I am about to discuss is out of concern for her as a friend. I want to stress I realize it is not of my business and I have kept my mouth shut, but am still worried.

She has been seeing this guy for the past year who is in his mid-late 30's I am guessing. I've only met him a few times and he seems like a good guy. However she turned 40 a few days ago (she calls me little bro as a joke since i was born months after her)

On her 40th birthday, her boyfriend proposed to her and she accepted. I had mixed emotions as while I am happy for her am concerned that its too soon since they have only been dating a year.

Some extra background - she has no kids and her last relationship was with a guy who had 2 kids. They were together 3 yrs but were doing long-distance. He traveled a lot for his job. She finally broke it off as their schedules just were not going to mesh.

Dude before him she was engaged to and they had been dating 3 years prior to engagement. That didnt work out because she realized they changed too much as people during the last 2 years.

I really want this to work out for her but am I wrong in thinking its too soon for marriage since they've only dated a year? I get the vibe she hasnt come out of the honeymoon phase of the relationship even though they live together already

The same thing happened with my Pisces friend where he moved in with his gf and talked about marriage 6 months later. But now things are rocky between them - AKA honeymoon phase is over.

I am being a good friend and being supportive while minding my business. Am just a little perplexed at the impulsiveness going on. I thought having a Cap moon would help her be more pragmatic. But maybe it could also be the general freaking out about hitting 40 and feeling she needs to get this area of her life handled right away.

I stress that I do like the guy from the times I've talked with him, but am concerned this is going to blow up in their faces. Do you think I am being a bad friend for minding my business and not talking to her about this . It's her life ultimately, just dont want to see her get brought down into a bad place if this doesnt work out for her

Most likely those people didn't change she just got to know them better over time. She sounds like a idealist in love or fears her options shrinking.

Talk to her and withhold your judgement. Dig and find out her reasons for the rushed relationships. Try to understand her reasoning and feelings on the matter. Try to keep the discussion centered on her after she is done gushing on her love interests. No personal attacks. Look at it like a exchanging rather then some kind of intervention.

Oh astrology wise that's sun & mars influence not just sun. Moon and her emotional needs isn't going to care so long as it is ratified. What is her Venus placement earth?

you can definitely express how you feel to her and that you are doing it only to look out for her. but other wise at the end of the day, its still her decision as to what she wants to do with her life, who she loves, who she wants to marry. whatever decision she makes, just be present...listen to her, support her. some times that is the best thing you can do.

also in regards to love and marriage. is there really an appropriate time frame? you can know someone for years, get married at an appropriate time and then a year later find that your feelings have changed. and then there is some people who know each other for less then a year, get married, and their marriage lasts a life time. A relationship only really fails when both participants stop putting effort in to it.

yeah thats all i got

As her friend, you should be supportive of her decision. Only give your opinion or concern when she asks

@LOSTTHOUGHTS &JADE -

This is her chart aside from what I have mentioned

Mercury in Pisces

Venus in Gemini

Leo Rising

Wasnt able to get more details about her venus beyond what is down below -



-26 Square between Venus - Jupiter

She is nonchalant, perhaps pretentious or self-important. She likes what is beautiful and sometimes ostentatious, perhaps spending money too quickly at times. She likes to please and can have numerous amorous adventures. She can undergo tribulations in love. May take things to excess, which sometimes interferes with a smooth flow.

She is big-hearted and warm, with an open heart and a tendency to want to give a lot to the people she loves. She can have some problems with following through on her promises, however, not usually because of any ill intent, but because she sometimes overestimates her personal capabilities, wanting to do more and give more than is actually possible. She may have a tendency to live beyond her means. She needs to be cautious about the tendency to feel overly-optimistic or overly protected. Moderation is the most important, and perhaps challenging, lesson in her life.

32 Trine between Venus - Lilith

This aspect suggests charm, beauty, attracting others by her magnetism. She is intense in love. Feelings are complicated. There can be brooding. However, she is inclined to embrace, accept, and understand the darker side of her nature.

I feel awkward talking about it with her because I dont want her bf to get the wrong idea and think Im trying to get with her. And that is not the case.

I kind of want to keep my mouth and let her be, just because she is an aries sun and cap moon, she may be closed off to what I say due to those types of placements always feeling they are right and everyone else is wrong.

if she asks my opinion, I am going to have super duper fine tune sugar coat in the politest way possible that she may be rushing And that is going to be tricky as hell

Like they say with most marriages, “When you know, you know”

Nowadays marriages are similar to relationships. So whether they are married 2 years or 20. It will still just be a relationship with paperwork.

I would worry about the particulars of the title “Marriage”

Posted by slowdive80

@LOSTTHOUGHTS &JADE -

This is her chart aside from what I have mentioned

Mercury in Pisces

Venus in Gemini

Leo Rising

Wasnt able to get more details about her venus beyond what is down below -



-26 Square between Venus - Jupiter

She is nonchalant, perhaps pretentious or self-important. She likes what is beautiful and sometimes ostentatious, perhaps spending money too quickly at times. She likes to please and can have numerous amorous adventures. She can undergo tribulations in love. May take things to excess, which sometimes interferes with a smooth flow.

She is big-hearted and warm, with an open heart and a tendency to want to give a lot to the people she loves. She can have some problems with following through on her promises, however, not usually because of any ill intent, but because she sometimes overestimates her personal capabilities, wanting to do more and give more than is actually possible. She may have a tendency to live beyond her means. She needs to be cautious about the tendency to feel overly-optimistic or overly protected. Moderation is the most important, and perhaps challenging, lesson in her life.

32 Trine between Venus - Lilith

This aspect suggests charm, beauty, attracting others by her magnetism. She is intense in love. Feelings are complicated. There can be brooding. However, she is inclined to embrace, accept, and understand the darker side of her nature.

I feel awkward talking about it with her because I dont want her bf to get the wrong idea and think Im trying to get with her. And that is not the case.

I kind of want to keep my mouth and let her be, just because she is an aries sun and cap moon, she may be closed off to what I say due to those types of placements always feeling they are right and everyone else is wrong.

if she asks my opinion, I am going to have super duper fine tune sugar coat in the politest way possible that she may be rushing And that is going to be tricky as hell

Your a concerned friend not competition. Your asking her to slow down even a long engagement. Not to drop him altogether. What are your real feelings about her? And I don't mean what you decided they should be.



if she asks tailor how you relay you concerns to her with her style of communication and word choice. Above all don't be judgy.

Hmm you are Kinda jumping ahead of yourself. Focus on her and understanding her before you bring in your own perception and thoughts. You might learn something about her that could change your view of it or a way to communicate your concerns without getting shut down. So again focus on her let go of your issue until it comes up. If you too busy trying to get your 2 cents in to really understand and get what's going on, you run the risk of missing something and not being taken seriously.

Posted by slowdive80

I thought having a Cap moon would help her be more pragmatic. But maybe it could also be the general freaking out about hitting 40 and feeling she needs to get this area of her life handled right away.

maybe she knows that getting a divorce is a thing, seems pragmatic to me.

maybe she just said.... "ah fuck it, why not" considering she got a gemini Venus and she (unimpressively) was the one to can the prior relationships, this time she want to try a different approach.

if you're so interested in all this, then instead of telling her what you think (when she haven't ask), ask her what SHE think about it, you know, her motivation on saying yes and all that fuzz.

Posted by slowdive80

So I have a female Aries friend who is Cap Moon with Leo Mars. She is one of the nicest cool people I know. What I am about to discuss is out of concern for her as a friend. I want to stress I realize it is not of my business and I have kept my mouth shut, but am still worried.

She has been seeing this guy for the past year who is in his mid-late 30's I am guessing. I've only met him a few times and he seems like a good guy. However she turned 40 a few days ago (she calls me little bro as a joke since i was born months after her)

On her 40th birthday, her boyfriend proposed to her and she accepted. I had mixed emotions as while I am happy for her am concerned that its too soon since they have only been dating a year.

Some extra background - she has no kids and her last relationship was with a guy who had 2 kids. They were together 3 yrs but were doing long-distance. He traveled a lot for his job. She finally broke it off as their schedules just were not going to mesh.

Dude before him she was engaged to and they had been dating 3 years prior to engagement. That didnt work out because she realized they changed too much as people during the last 2 years.

I really want this to work out for her but am I wrong in thinking its too soon for marriage since they've only dated a year? I get the vibe she hasnt come out of the honeymoon phase of the relationship even though they live together already

The same thing happened with my Pisces friend where he moved in with his gf and talked about marriage 6 months later. But now things are rocky between them - AKA honeymoon phase is over.

I am being a good friend and being supportive while minding my business. Am just a little perplexed at the impulsiveness going on. I thought having a Cap moon would help her be more pragmatic. But maybe it could also be the general freaking out about hitting 40 and feeling she needs to get this area of her life handled right away.

I stress that I do like the guy from the times I've talked with him, but am concerned this is going to blow up in their faces. Do you think I am being a bad friend for minding my business and not talking to her about this . It's her life ultimately, just dont want to see her get brought down into a bad place if this doesnt work out for her

I'm a cancer/Leo w/ a cap moon. So with your friend being a Leo, with a cap moon, maybe I can relate. In general, as an evolved capricorn gets older, they get more playful and they loosen up a lot. I guess they feel that all the heavy lifting and burden that's necessary to maintain a secure life for themselves and their loved ones is winding down (never "completely" done!) and it might allow us to give ourselves more of "a pass," if you will, to spend our time recreationally and let loose and enjoy things with a lot more ease. Also, since capricorn is associated with old age, the older capricorns get, supposedly the more comfortable they all are in their own skin. I know this is true with me. I've always been fine with aging; I've always felt I had a mature soul to me. Not in a boring way, but in a living life doing mature experiences, and adult hobbies type of way. How this applies to your friend, is that she may be experiencing the onslaught of this turning point; also, maybe this guy adds excitement and gives her a reason to interrupt a rigid work routine. Caps look for a partner that helps even out and soften the worry and heavy burden they feel towards building a secure nest egg.

Ok let me address a few things. One, I never had any plans to talk to her about as I mentioned I thought it was none of my business. All I asked was am I making the right move in doing that.

Also I have not talked to any of our mutual friends regarding this as I feel that would not be a good idea. Internet to me is fine though as you dont know her and it can be anonymous

Yep, how dare I have thoughts of concern? When you care about a friend and minding your business doesnt mean you dont worry.

And to one of the posters - its no feelings at all on my end. She is a good person, but we are too different as people and I see her like family. I was good friends with her ex-fiance to the point where I was supposed to be best man. But when the engagement broke off, he ghosted me. I guess he assumed I would take her side even though I wanted to be neutral by staying friends with both of them.

I am keeping my mouth shut as most here confirmed what I already thought. It's her life and decision and none of my business. Im just shutting my yap and being supportive.