Have you ever...

Have you ever been talking to someone casually? But there were feelings involved on both sides, it's like you both like each other but don't want to date yet because you're not ready/too young/still in school.. etc. Well anyway that's not the point, the point is, you like someone, they like you back, it's been quite a while that the both of you have established feelings for one another, and see each other frequently (for me, we knew each other for a year, and were "talking" *before dating phase* for about 4 months). And then one day, you just screw up. You start acting distant, not making enough time for them, and acting cold. Your partner sees this and backs off, thinking that you just need space. But it's not just space, it's a horrible, unfair, cruel, and selfish phase that you are going through..

Basically, you hurt someone who you like, someone who is so innocent, charming, genuine, and deserving of a faithful partner. AND YOU HURT THEM, Betray them. Step all over their feelings, for reasons you cant even figure out yet.. You completely and utterly disappointed them. And you end up not speaking or seeing each other for a while, like a year or so.



And you miss them terribly.

SO The question is, "Have you ever regretted pushing the right person away, and ultimately fell in love with them while they were absent from your life?"

Sometimes people realize they have met the person who they have been searching for and the person of their dreams WHO DIDNT EVEN KNOW COULD EVER EXIST UNTIL IT WAS TOO LATE. Sometimes people need time alone, and sometimes we hurt people unintentionally, sometimes that person doesnt always give us a second chance. But time without them makes you realize ONLY AFTER WE WERENT TOGETHER ANYMORE that that person is PERFECT for you.

Has this ever happened to you?!
They say "out of sight, out of mind" I think that they couldnt be more wrong.

Please share your story.

Dang, I guess you dont believe in second chances or that everyone makes a mistake?

This happened to my Taurus friend and I(Cap). I pushed him away that one last time and he stopped talking to me for a year. Before then, I knew I had some type of feelings, but it took that silence to realize how deep my feelings were. I felt like I was having serious withdrawal symptoms. I always felt he would come back, and like literally one year later he did.

Its been a darn rollercoaster ride since our reconnection though. I use to feel that maybe we need one more year apart...just to get it right. I think its taken him a while to forgive me for not reaching out to him during that year, but I'm past the point of feeling guilty about that.

We are definitely deeply bonded, but I dont know if I feel he's perfect for me, although I don't want to entertain anyone else. Its just a weird situation thats not a relationship. I try to figure out how our dynamic would work of we ever wanted to define things. I don't think we are capable of having anything traditional with eachother.

why did you wait for him to reach out to you when you were in the wrong? and what are your sun signs?

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
why did you wait for him to reach out to you when you were in the wrong? and what are your sun signs?

I'm the type of person that, if you chose to walk out of my life I'm not going to stop you or beg you to stay. If I'm not offering enough of something and it makes you want to leave, I'm not going to stop you from finding happiness or someone more fulfilling. I'm not the most flexible person, so I wont keep you around knowing it's going to be hard for me to change.

Idk, I just kind of leave it all up to the other person when it comes to that sort of thing. I'm getting a little better. Now when he's a bit MIA I'll chase after him a bit, but if it gets to a point where I'm uncomfortable with the length of silence I'll let him know.

I'm a Cap, he's a Taurus.

but he chose to walk out of your life because you pushed him away... my guy did this to me too, and i obv walked away. why would i stay if hes treating me unkindly? not a taurus thing to stay, if you want space we'll give it to you because we can handle going periods of time without talking to you because we have the most patience out of the all the signs.

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
but he chose to walk out of your life because you pushed him away... my guy did this to me too, and i obv walked away. why would i stay if hes treating me unkindly? not a taurus thing to stay, if you want space we'll give it to you because we can handle going periods of time without talking to you because we have the most patience out of the all the signs.

Defintely some truth here, however when I stopped talking to me ex whom is a Taurus
he gives me space and time to cool off, but he admitted to me that he hates when
I do that, like dont speak to him for long periods of time, but accepts it because
he knows he deserves it when he does certain things.

Anyway, it's really hard to give you perspective on your situation since you wrote it
in 3rd party. lol. It's okay, you can tell us what he did and what your story is, none
one on here can judge.

Buuuut, if I'm putting myself in your shoes I'm going to go with the first response you got and say I??ve never completely turned my back on someone I loved or wanted in my life. I will fight tooth and nail as long as I feel it's a mutual fight, and I'm not fighting alone. If I start to feel like it's one sided and I'm the only one that wants it, my pride and dignity will kick in and I??ll leave that person alone no matter how hard it may be. I hate loving or liking someone and feeling like they don't want me in return, it's just downright depressing and I hate being depressed or sad, or even mad, anyone those brings about those emotions in me too often makes me want to run for the hills. Problem with me is, once I'm over you there's really nothing you can do to get me back to space I once was in. I??ll be your friend because I'm a laid back cool person, and once I'm over it I don't see why we can't be cool, the issue with that is the other person be trying to re-kindle I only to be friends and sometimes this brings about a conflict of interest.
Surprisingly my Taurus ex is the only man that has been able to hold my attention and keep me loving him like the very first time all these years. We have fallen out numerous times but he always goes out of his way to at least rebuild our friendship. I'm still very much in love with that man. I only move on because he leaves me no choice. I can't wait on him, and let others pass me by right? However, whenever I get with someone he makes it known that he doesn't like it but he understands. Recently he saw me out on a casual date at the movies, I'm bummed he saw me but I didn't see him. He texted me asking where I was and thank goodness I didn't lie, and told him I was at the movies. He goes —I'm here too, I see you on your lil date. How cute.?? Ugh I told him to shut up, and it's nothing big just casual. He took it however he took it I guess but it was the truth; dude I was with is not my type romantically but I wanted to get out the house. I was a bit ruffled that I might??ve upset Taurus but quickly straightened myself out, hell he wasn't taking me to the movies so why can't someone else? Lol

what is there not to get tizani lol

what even is your sign btw

you said that so beautifully and perfectly! spot on! 🙂 ^^^^

Comparing this with your post on Aquarius men being your favorite, I hope you realize most Aquarius men if they are going to love a woman period will fall in love with her at first sight, not develop it over time. You can't be wishy washy if you want to deal with an Aquarius man, if you want him, let him know that, otherwise don't play games with his emotions, you'll just make him insecure and a pile of mush.