Help!

Hi. I need your advice. I've been dating a Pisces man for a little over 5 months now and we've become best friends. Everything was so effortless so we moved REALLY fast. He brought up looking at a place and brought up the topic of moving in together a couple of times and I went with it. He also talked about marriage and kids with me. All of a sudden he gets scared and steps back. Keep in mind, I NEVER brought up any of this. I just went with it. Later he needs some space to figure things out (if he wants or is ready for this or not). He told me he wasn't ready for how quickly he let me in and he wasn't ready for me to be ready to move in with him, even though he brought it up. I don't understand. He keeps acting like he wants to be with me (forever) and then he fights it.
Now his ex is in the picture... They dated for less than 2 months and she left him with no explanation 7 months ago but they had gotten very close when they were dating... He saw her recently (he was in the hospital and she visited him...) and became even more confused because it turns out he still has feelings for her. Because she left him with no explanation, that door was never closed... He was hurt by her. Now he wants space to decide where she fits in. This just complicated things so much more. He's obviously attracted to her and he has been flirting with her the last few days... I feel like I shouldn't even be asking but should I just give him some space to figure things out? Isn't it likely that he'll just end up dating her or becoming physical/intimate with her while I'm giving him space?

I feel for you because your heart is caught up with a guy you thought was available...he may still be but he needs to work out this for himself by taking the time and space that he has asked for. You worry that if you give him the space he will go back to her...if you don't he still may after dragging you through more turmoil.

Let him be, let him sort it out in his own mind. If he comes back he is yours to plan your future with..if not he never was. Better now than 2-5 years later when there might have been a marriage kids and a house!

It won't be easy but you need to cut contact and look after yourself, don't revert to pressuring him.

I would give him space. If things dont work out with her, he'll be back, they always come back especially if you were good to them. Plus the full court press with a Pisces doesnt sound unusual. They wear their hearts on their sleeve then wonder why it gets crushed.

Do you really want to be a woman whom some guy had to take time to figure out whether he wanted to be with you or not? Have you such a low opinion of your own worth?

besides all of that, maybe he needs to figure out whey you were just going along with things rather than wanting them. Pisces aren't stupid and are very intuitive, they can see even the things you can't see about yourself.

Posted by celticlioness
Do you really want to be a woman whom some guy had to take time to figure out whether he wanted to be with you or not? Have you such a low opinion of your own worth?

besides all of that, maybe he needs to figure out whey you were just going along with things rather than wanting them. Pisces aren't stupid and are very intuitive, they can see even the things you can't see about yourself.

+1

Also, why do you want to be with a man who takes a step forward then 2 back and now flirts with his ex while you two are going out. PLEASE! A taurus tried this move with me. He said he was confused. I said, "I'll make it easy for you. Peace. Be with her and figure that out. No matter what, my arse is gone!

Dude you need to respect yourself enough to not want to be a side dish of a guy. TRUST ME as a pisces like celtic said we are not stupid. We know what we want and don't want and have no issues with going after that. We are enveloped with the object of our affection. A smitten pisces will see no other potential mate on the planet. It's just you and him, no one else matters. He doesn't see you like that, so you should see him. Yeah, he will come back if things doesn't work out with his ex... because why?! You will become a scab to heal his wound. Once it heals.... he will be gone.

Do you want that? I hope not.

Yeah, I decided a couple of days ago that I'm done. He's told me countless times that I am so amazing and that I'm everything he's ever wanted and blah blah blah. I'd like to ask him what has he done. I honestly cannot think of anything. Eff that. I deserve so much better than what he's given me. And it took me a while to realize what he was actually asking of me. I'm not going to stand back while he figures out whether or not he wants to be with her. I'm not a second choice.

A friend helped me realize that in his eyes, I'll always be around. I've literally been around through thick and thin and he really thought I'd just wait for him to figure things out with her. Not happening. We haven't talked in a couple of days. I know I deserve better. Thanks guys.