I give up on promoting peace

I would also like to know what he said. let it all out, it will feel better and perharps we can help

"I once believed in forgiveness, until this day. My faith in people has died. And this... is yet another reason I close myself off from others."

"I endured long discussions trying to explain to him why I dressed the way I did, why I had friends of the opposite sex, why I didn't answer my phone, why I didn't call him, how I was 15 minutes late, and even why I didn't want to have sex (when I stayed up a total of 24 hours just to drive to his house to see him after a 12 hour work day). He never saw the things I did do for him. I spent at least $ 100 on gas a week to see him. I always paid for dinner when we went out to eat. And I was dragging my feet just to make it to his house after work. I was worn out."






Tsk, I'm just not going to read any further than the last quote where you were describing him to be a complete asshole in his treatment of you ........ as it relates to you expressing a total defeated attitude in the OP, as if to suggest that because of what he did to you, that you have no hope left for mankind .... when in reality, he did nothing to you .. you did all those things to prove something of yourself by choice.


People are incredible ... you would actually describe him this way and then make the implication that woe is you, how can you possibly carry on with life with any hope ... when you did all those things by choice?

But it's just seriously depressing to see the hateful words the world can spit at you. I once believed in forgiveness, until this day. My faith in people has died. And this... is yet another reason I close myself off from others. I'm sorry for such the negative post, but I just needed to let it out somewhere. I give up world.

LOL !!!! Sorry Lammal but dramatic much ! 😛
this is one person that you can't communicate with somehow. What have you done to get him to leave you alone?

Apparently he fell head-over-heels for me, while I was pulling my hair out over our differences.

phsss, possibly he's fallen for the idea of you and his love can extract some thing in return...

You gotta quit making yourself so available to this sort of abuse ya know.
You're treating him the way you'll like to be treated instead of analysing it and giving it the treatment deserving. I do agree with PA in this case, you and the scorp dude are both trying to prove something to yourselves --- him that his sting or whatever can change your mind, you that your niceness will change his mind. NOT going to work...

"I just told him that we were not compatible with each other and we stress each other out. "

That's pretty much all there is to it. You're simply not compatible. I think the worst people can do is trying to work a relationship when there is no compatibility. Both his and your concerns are valid, you're just simply not compatible.

what do you think will get through to him? you dated for a while... what gets through? you gotta pick something and stick with it, no wavering, no point trying to be nice, that time has gone I'm afraid...
If you keep wavering, you give mixed signals... I'm sure you have other friends and don't necessarily need the friendship with him, do you? are there kids involved?

Well, what you have to understand is that your Scorpio did the very same thing we Aquas do. We put up our "unemotional" & detached walls as a cover & veil for what we really feel. And Scorpios use "words" and their gift for verbal battle as their own little wall of protection.

Half of the time we Aquas feel & have emotions like everyone else. The difference is timing. We chose to cry in the dark, while others chose to sulk in the moment whether or not someone is watching or not. And we Aquas have a huge fear of showing emotions because we secretely fear that showing our emotions will cause others to neglect their thoughts on how "strong" and "independent" and "Secure" we are. And Scorpios have their own little tactics & their own ways of hiding or dealing with things too. The only difference is Aquas use distance as their WEAPON in battle & Scorpios use their mouths. We sometimes forget that we are not the only ones who know how to put on a show or protect our own hearts. It's unfair to us when the tables are turned but then again, we didn't show this side of us in the moment when they needed us & when they felt this very same hurt by us, thus after awhile, they feel no shame in giving us a taste of our own medicine because we showed no shame when it was our time to shine & show ourselves

Sometimes we Aquas put up our "distant" and protection shells as our weapons because that's all we are used to doing in the heat of battle. And hey, we ask for space all the time when we really don't want it. We distance ourselves sometimes when we really don't need it (we are just being stubborn & reassuring ourselves that we'll always have the upper hand) & it's no different than a Scorpio using the weapon of Verbal weapontry in the heat of battle.

Sometimes Scorpios lash out because they know that nothing stings the heart more than speaking those words one should never say. Sometimes they say things they don't mean (like we ALL do) & sometimes the best way for them to reassure themselves that they have the upper hand is by taking things too far & going ahead & punishing us with the verbal treatment. And they know it works (otherwise you wouldn't have wrote this post), otherwise they wouldn't do it. That's why I don't deal too much with anyone with a MARS or VENUS in Scorpio because their way of protecting themselves is completely the opposite of an Aquas. We back down, we back out & we walk away. But Scorpios, NO, they get in your face, they step up & keep it going until they are satisfied that their plan to win the argument or to upset the other person more than they are upset, worked.

Scorpios take alot of things that we consider small, very seriously. When we walk away or leave them high and dry, vulnerable & full of emotions they make sure we feel the sting of what we've put them through. Sometimes, they can over-do it but in their minds, it's about who wins. And in order for them to feel they've won, they have to come a little harder than you do. They have to overstep the boundaries a bit so they can show us that they are just as strong & cold like we are. And that's when the problems come.

Aquas don't necessarily love weak individuals who always need them for everything. But at the same time we Aquas aren't usually attracted to those who have the same constant battle that we do to win or be on top or to have the upper hand. We Aquas tend to use verbal battle when it comes to situations where it's vital & will prove a point to help someone else out. The difference between us & Scorpios though is that Scorpios use it to hurt or to stab the other person, whereas the average Aqua won't because we chose to do our stabbing by simply walking away from you & making you wish you hadn't made us walk away. It's a constant power struggle between Aquas & Scorpios; it's no wonder we're supposedly not compatible

That's why I have shyed away from Scorpios in the love department because it seems Aquas & Scorps spend so much time battling for the power in the relationship instead of just simply having a relationship & being in the relationship.

Aquas are cold hearted & unemotional but we're a certain kind of "cold hearted." We're not cold hearted on purpose for the sense of hurting others. We're this way whether we're in love or not. Versus Scorpios are cold hearted too but normally only bring this side out of them when they feel it'll help them to hurt the other person or "win" the battle. And that's the difference. Aquas can verbally persecute someone too but we don't mean to & we don't use our verbal abilities to hurt others; we might use it to put ourselves ABOVE others, but never to hurt them. Whereas Scorpios use their verbal abilities to purposely hurt others because it makes them feel that they are automatically one step above the other person.

There are 2 kinds of cold hearted. Aquas may not cry at a funeral because but it's not because we are too selfish or unemotional to cry. Oh, we'll cry, but just when we get home. Versus Scorpios may not cry at a funeral for their own selfish reasons. One thing about Aquas, we are always true to ourselves. How we deal with others in relationships is no different than how we deal with common strangers. Versus to one person a Scorpio might be this way but to another, he might be another way