Lody
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I'm confused..
Aries ? Just the wrong guy for you I think. This one sounds like he is just an asshole... and I think that YOU can do much better.
I know a Cancer at the moment... that I 'could' be interested in... but I just can't seem to read her.
I was also with a Cancer some years ago... she told me that she loved me after only 3 or 4 weeks... which scared me a bit. Perhaps it is just that you exposed too many of your feelings too soon ? You are right not to give him 'one more for the road' ! F'er !
So... in the future... I think you should not unleash all your feelings in a single blow. In fact, I think for you... it would be better if a man was willing to be vulnerable... being first to acknowledge his feelings for you. If they want to play games like this asshole did with you... just DON'T play... and admit nothing.
I'm sorry that you were taken advantage of Lody... it wasn't very nice of him to do.
I know a Cancer at the moment... that I 'could' be interested in... but I just can't seem to read her.
I was also with a Cancer some years ago... she told me that she loved me after only 3 or 4 weeks... which scared me a bit. Perhaps it is just that you exposed too many of your feelings too soon ? You are right not to give him 'one more for the road' ! F'er !
So... in the future... I think you should not unleash all your feelings in a single blow. In fact, I think for you... it would be better if a man was willing to be vulnerable... being first to acknowledge his feelings for you. If they want to play games like this asshole did with you... just DON'T play... and admit nothing.
I'm sorry that you were taken advantage of Lody... it wasn't very nice of him to do.
Posted by David13
Aries ? Just the wrong guy for you I think. This one sounds like he is just an asshole... and I think that YOU can do much better.
I know a Cancer at the moment... that I 'could' be interested in... but I just can't seem to read her.
I was also with a Cancer some years ago... she told me that she loved me after only 3 or 4 weeks... which scared me a bit. Perhaps it is just that you exposed too many of your feelings too soon ? You are right not to give him 'one more for the road' ! F'er !
So... in the future... I think you should not unleash all your feelings in a single blow. In fact, I think for you... it would be better if a man was willing to be vulnerable... being first to acknowledge his feelings for you. If they want to play games like this asshole did with you... just DON'T play... and admit nothing.
I'm sorry that you were taken advantage of Lody... it wasn't very nice of him to do.
Thank you David13 for your reply.. Usually some Cancer women like to express their emotions very early to show the other half they are interested, which is a bit tricky. On the contrary, I find it difficult to open up quickly due to childhood experience (This drive my therapist crazy), and especially for this relationship I was very careful and he was the one who starts saying ''I like you blah.. anyway I think clearly he is one of those people who like get his cake and run..!
Posted by Lody
whenever I meet a guy he seems very pushy to be in relationship with me which it is a good thing. However, after a while they withdraw.
The confusion start when they blame me of being obsessed and possessive!
If this is what is happening each time then the problem lies with you and not the guys.
Posted by celticlionessPosted by Lody
whenever I meet a guy he seems very pushy to be in relationship with me which it is a good thing. However, after a while they withdraw.
The confusion start when they blame me of being obsessed and possessive!
If this is what is happening each time then the problem lies with you and not the guys.click to expand
What I meant is they come strong and rush into a relationship with me then they disappear!
how that could be my fault! if u mean I trust them easily No..I got my own life and stuff. Im not saying i'm perfect but if there is something I might done wrong, I don't mind admitting it and learn from it.
They push to be in a relationship with you, which you find good, you start to trust them too early, which they find bad, they also have told you your obsessive and possessive. They withdraw, its not your fault, it's the way you are, but you obviously have a problem with their reactions to you or you wouldn't be posting about it. If you want to change yourself then these are the things you need to look at, really think about it and see are you possessive and obsessive, maybe too understanding and supportive (men don't want mothers they want lovers). If you don't want to change yourself then keep on dating and meeting men until you find the one who likes you to obsess and possess him, to understand him and support him - we don't always have to change the way we are, just find the person who loves us the way we are 🙂
Beautifully said celticlioness !
Great advice celtic!
At first I was thinking it might be something you're doing, until you mentioned aries. If you think back to the other men who were pushy and then pulled back, what signs were they? What you described is classic aries man/cancer woman. They love the chase more then anything, and they're also controlling. And we typically don't show a lot of emotion at the beginning, with someone new. Which is intriguing for them but in my experience they like to test. He's lusting after you and you aren't reciprocating the attention, so he:
used to txt me saying '' I don't think you like me enough and blab blah'- all games. And for cancers it confuses us, making us think they actually are concerned about OUR intentions. Not the case. Anyway as David13 said, probably not the right sign for you. But if you do want another go with a ram, I'd stick to being yourself and don't change anything, especially for them. They respect that, just like all men. Once you can understand them better, they can be one of the best matches for us🙂
Just be yourself no matter who you end up with, if that means being laid back and not texting to much-do that. If you're busy, you're busy. Don't let them try to control you, really look at a person for who they are! Good luck 🙂
used to txt me saying '' I don't think you like me enough and blab blah'- all games. And for cancers it confuses us, making us think they actually are concerned about OUR intentions. Not the case. Anyway as David13 said, probably not the right sign for you. But if you do want another go with a ram, I'd stick to being yourself and don't change anything, especially for them. They respect that, just like all men. Once you can understand them better, they can be one of the best matches for us🙂
Just be yourself no matter who you end up with, if that means being laid back and not texting to much-do that. If you're busy, you're busy. Don't let them try to control you, really look at a person for who they are! Good luck 🙂
Posted by celticlionessPosted by Lody
whenever I meet a guy he seems very pushy to be in relationship with me which it is a good thing. However, after a while they withdraw.
The confusion start when they blame me of being obsessed and possessive!
If this is what is happening each time then the problem lies with you and not the guys.click to expand
Uh not true...sounds like shes meeting a bunch of indecisive assholes, who only want sex and think that gassing her up and asking her for a relationship will get her to drop the drawers quicker.
Posted by LunarMaidenPosted by harry99
*sigh* where are all the decent men?
Har they all died along with chivalry.click to expand
No they didn't and chivalry isn't dead.
Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by LunarMaidenPosted by harry99
*sigh* where are all the decent men?
Har they all died along with chivalry.
No they didn't and chivalry isn't dead.click to expand
Feels like sometimes. 😢 So it's just romance and courtship that has died then.
Posted by harry99
*sigh* where are all the decent men?
Decent men are in abundance and there is plenty around, maybe they need to be given the chance to show their decency 🙂
Posted by bkbella86Posted by celticlionessPosted by Lody
whenever I meet a guy he seems very pushy to be in relationship with me which it is a good thing. However, after a while they withdraw.
The confusion start when they blame me of being obsessed and possessive!
If this is what is happening each time then the problem lies with you and not the guys.
Uh not true...sounds like shes meeting a bunch of indecisive assholes, who only want sex and think that gassing her up and asking her for a relationship will get her to drop the drawers quicker.click to expand
How'd you figure that out? People meet people and date, do the rounds for a few months and then either decide to stay together or decide to part, or one of them decides to part, as the compatibility isn't there, that doesn't make anyone indecisive or an asshole, in fact probably makes them more decent than those who are too afraid to stop seeing someone as it may hurt them. Just because the men she has been in relationships with don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore doesn't make them or her bad, its all learning, and that what the OP herself is doing at the moment, learning, and through her learning of herself and her lovely nature she will hopefully come to accept herself for what she is and the way she loves and needs to be loved, and in the long run will meet someone who loves both these things about her. Having said that, the Aries sounds like a right dickhead 🙂
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