I'm finally over him!!!!!

It took just a little over 6 months and for there to be someone else in my life to think about...so no longer do I get up and think of him in the morning because I'm exploring someone else interesting. No more silly fantasies of getting back together or him waking up and realising he was stupid and messed up!

It was a long haul but I continued on with my life and friends, silently hoping...but also wanting to get him out of my mind. The pain went several months ago and the thoughts slowly became less frequent.

Just thought I'd share this, as I know alot of you are struggling to get over someone & you may see a light at the end of the tunnel as I have...of course everyone is different & times, circumstances vary.

Well be careful b/c eventually all the excitement will ware off with this new guy & you're still end up having to deal with unresolved emotions. Healing doesn't happen just b/c someone else came along. Finding someone else is a great way to distract & supress your unresolved emotions temporarily but no matter what, no one can escape their emotions.

It's unrealistic to be up one night crying over you ex & then meet someone & then all of the sudden assume that you're over your ex. No, time, healing, forgiveness & personal growth aides in getting over a past lover, not someone new. Hence, that's where the term "baggage" came from. Hell, most people find new partners & new flings, but unless they've got all of that pain, bitterness & hurt out of their system from their old relationship, it's only a matter of time before the old feelings start to come flooding back (baggage). And they usually start coming back when 1. The new flame does something very SIMILAR to what the old flame did (whether it's good or bad)or when 2. The new flame doesn't last that long, thus leaving you single all over again with plenty of time to ponder over your thoughts.

I'm glad that you've moved on to someone new physically but be careful b/c actually moving on emotionally is a very hard thing to do. And most people don't realize this until they find themselves in the same or similar situation with their new flame that was just alike whatever happend in their past/with their old flame. It's possible to still be in love with your ex, but yet have fun & have feelings for other new people. But actually getting that person completely out of your system (healing) it's easier said than done & happens from within, versus b/c of another person.

I appreciate what you are saying Krys but, the over him part was/has happened way before my meeting someone else and it just dawned on me that I was no longer thinking about the ex. I have dealt with all my feeling through reading self help books and going through the processes to make sure there isn't any baggage going with me. And of course within this site and seeing others go through what I was too.

The exploring with someone else is just that at this stage and there isn't any sex yet and not until I am sure that it isn't just about that.

I was just feeling good about having put this other person to rest...so to speak!

Yeah The worst feeling int he world is wanting someone that doesn't want you back...or doesn't care how it makes you feel BUT that doesn't stop us from wanting to go down that track again...with a little more caution the next time round🙂

Thanks Guys

Funny enough I just looked at a pic tonight of him and it told a whole different story of what he might have been...funny how love can blind you to seeing what you want to see...

Good for you, hun! The best feeling in the world is to just wake up 1 day & notice that you could care less anymore. Being able to forgive & move on is the HARDEST yet BEST thing you could ever do in your life. Love is the strongest emotion known to man, so anytime you can overcome an ex love, it's like winning a marathon that you thought would never end and/or win

i agree, congratulations
im also on my way down the forgeting ex path.
its a long roud but i know that it is possible with the help of my family and friends
keeping busy helps, its a great time to work out and get in shape. or dive into work.
im not trying to find a new guy right away because i know it will be all bull-shi* so yeah, im waiting until those thoughts start to fade away

The thoughts still pop up from time to time but with no life in them!! Hang in there, it does get easier in time🙂

Congrats!

It's great when you can claim that you are over an ex. Truly over him/her and not just suppressing feelings.

When I am trying to get over an ex and reconciliation seems to not be an option - I long for the days of INDIFFERENCE.

When I love someone, I love hard. When I don't love them anymore - it's like they don't exist.

hoooray for moving on! 😄