beelibra
@beelibra
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Ive come to my breaking point, Cant figure him out
With some men you have to "out girl" him. Meaning, do nothing, LEAN all the way back, all ways be slightly out of reach, don't send him any masculine energy, meaning don't initiate anything, no kissing should be initiated by you, no sweet talk should be initiated by you.
So my suggestion would be to LEAN ALL THE WAY BACK. DO NOT INITIATE ANYTHING, not a call, not a kiss, not a touch, not a compliment and then you'll actually get to see if he's into you.
Instead of initiating any kind of physical intimacy, let him initiate it and you just receive. Stop complimenting him, STOP GIVING when he's NOT giving which creates BALANCE thus you won't feel as if you're the only one giving which can create resentment, feelings of being taken for granted which can make a small issue into a bigger issue.
Lastly, don't bring up your concerns with a hot and cold guy, doing that will only make him want to avoid you even more. If he's acting like a friend then be his friend, drop the expectations that come with boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and let things unfold naturally.
Try not to place so much of your attention on a hot/cold kind of guy, they really don't deserve all that much attention to begin with. Don't let his hot/cold behavior be YOUR issue because it's not, if he's hot/cold well let him be that way and you tend to YOURSELF/YOUR LIFE. You'll only waste your energy and drive yourself bananas.
If he does nothing after you alter your behavior then he's not that into you, move on.
So my suggestion would be to LEAN ALL THE WAY BACK. DO NOT INITIATE ANYTHING, not a call, not a kiss, not a touch, not a compliment and then you'll actually get to see if he's into you.
Instead of initiating any kind of physical intimacy, let him initiate it and you just receive. Stop complimenting him, STOP GIVING when he's NOT giving which creates BALANCE thus you won't feel as if you're the only one giving which can create resentment, feelings of being taken for granted which can make a small issue into a bigger issue.
Lastly, don't bring up your concerns with a hot and cold guy, doing that will only make him want to avoid you even more. If he's acting like a friend then be his friend, drop the expectations that come with boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and let things unfold naturally.
Try not to place so much of your attention on a hot/cold kind of guy, they really don't deserve all that much attention to begin with. Don't let his hot/cold behavior be YOUR issue because it's not, if he's hot/cold well let him be that way and you tend to YOURSELF/YOUR LIFE. You'll only waste your energy and drive yourself bananas.
If he does nothing after you alter your behavior then he's not that into you, move on.
Lastly Capricorns DO NOT go into love fast, they are very slow and you'll have to slow all the way down. They don't take love lightly, love is a serious thing and they just don't rush into it like other signs.
Cap males (unless he has a lot of fire in his chart) are not only slow but very reserved intimately in the beginning. I can't speak for all Capricorns but they don't really mean to hurt their partners, their just being who they are, a sure footed goat, he must feel secure before he'll display how he feels so CHILL OUT.
Your nagging and complaints only serve to show him what he's in for if he takes you into his life. An unhappy woman that nags about her feelings so don't nag & complain, you'll never get him being that way.
Lose control over yourself/your emotions and he'll be gone. You must be in control at all times during the dating process or he'll see and sense the instability in you and move on. Self control is a Caps secret weapon. The woman that displays self control wins the spoils.
BE PATIENT, I can't even stress how important it is for you to be very, very, very patient.
Cap males (unless he has a lot of fire in his chart) are not only slow but very reserved intimately in the beginning. I can't speak for all Capricorns but they don't really mean to hurt their partners, their just being who they are, a sure footed goat, he must feel secure before he'll display how he feels so CHILL OUT.
Your nagging and complaints only serve to show him what he's in for if he takes you into his life. An unhappy woman that nags about her feelings so don't nag & complain, you'll never get him being that way.
Lose control over yourself/your emotions and he'll be gone. You must be in control at all times during the dating process or he'll see and sense the instability in you and move on. Self control is a Caps secret weapon. The woman that displays self control wins the spoils.
BE PATIENT, I can't even stress how important it is for you to be very, very, very patient.
Dont worry girl he is slow and always be. As a Libra you want good mind stimulation, dirty talks and spanks in bum. For him as a Capri thats too much work. Its good to keep him as ur toy not for the long term. Hunt down a Gemini or an Aquarius you will never look back then.
Good luck I totally understand how you feel
Posted by tiki33
With some men you have to "out girl" him. Meaning, do nothing, LEAN all the way back, all ways be slightly out of reach, don't send him any masculine energy, meaning don't initiate anything, no kissing should be initiated by you, no sweet talk should be initiated by you.
So my suggestion would be to LEAN ALL THE WAY BACK. DO NOT INITIATE ANYTHING, not a call, not a kiss, not a touch, not a compliment and then you'll actually get to see if he's into you.
Instead of initiating any kind of physical intimacy, let him initiate it and you just receive. Stop complimenting him, STOP GIVING when he's NOT giving which creates BALANCE thus you won't feel as if you're the only one giving which can create resentment, feelings of being taken for granted which can make a small issue into a bigger issue.
Lastly, don't bring up your concerns with a hot and cold guy, doing that will only make him want to avoid you even more. If he's acting like a friend then be his friend, drop the expectations that come with boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and let things unfold naturally.
Try not to place so much of your attention on a hot/cold kind of guy, they really don't deserve all that much attention to begin with. Don't let his hot/cold behavior be YOUR issue because it's not, if he's hot/cold well let him be that way and you tend to YOURSELF/YOUR LIFE. You'll only waste your energy and drive yourself bananas.
If he does nothing after you alter your behavior then he's not that into you, move on.
great advice!!!!
You will have to decide if his love language will be enough for you. His needs may be getting met but what about yours?
I left a venus in cap guy who did what you have described above and more. It got to be too much. I dont know how u can handle him being affectionate one moment and not the next.
I left a venus in cap guy who did what you have described above and more. It got to be too much. I dont know how u can handle him being affectionate one moment and not the next.
Posted by Lenore0908
Caps move slow. I dated 2, the first one took 1 whole year to finally let his guard down. It sucked because I assumed he wasn't interested and moved on! ONE YEAR of hanging out, every other month. LOl. I gave up on anything serious after 4 or 5 months but kept seeing him because I thought he was good company. I had no idea that he was still interested in me. By the time he confessed his feelings I had moved on.
I started dating another Cap after him and guess what...same damn thing! lol
Now i do believe it's a Cap trait, maybe even an earth sign trait. They want to observe you before making a full commitment. I think everything will work out for you guys if you are patient and confident.
The best move for you right now is to give him the gift of missing you. Take some time away from him. I promise he won't dump you over it. Sometimes you can't give a guy what he wants, you have to give him what he needs. Give him space so he can think about what he likes about you.
are cap moons the same way?
Posted by cancerbooPosted by Lenore0908
Caps move slow. I dated 2, the first one took 1 whole year to finally let his guard down. It sucked because I assumed he wasn't interested and moved on! ONE YEAR of hanging out, every other month. LOl. I gave up on anything serious after 4 or 5 months but kept seeing him because I thought he was good company. I had no idea that he was still interested in me. By the time he confessed his feelings I had moved on.
I started dating another Cap after him and guess what...same damn thing! lol
Now i do believe it's a Cap trait, maybe even an earth sign trait. They want to observe you before making a full commitment. I think everything will work out for you guys if you are patient and confident.
The best move for you right now is to give him the gift of missing you. Take some time away from him. I promise he won't dump you over it. Sometimes you can't give a guy what he wants, you have to give him what he needs. Give him space so he can think about what he likes about you.
are cap moons the same way?click to expand
****CORRECTION****
caps venus the same??
Posted by DMV
You will have to decide if his love language will be enough for you. His needs may be getting met but what about yours?
I left a venus in cap guy who did what you have described above and more. It got to be too much. I dont know how u can handle him being affectionate one moment and not the next.
my sag/sun-cap/venus guy is the same way!!!
Posted by cancerbooPosted by cancerbooPosted by Lenore0908
Caps move slow. I dated 2, the first one took 1 whole year to finally let his guard down. It sucked because I assumed he wasn't interested and moved on! ONE YEAR of hanging out, every other month. LOl. I gave up on anything serious after 4 or 5 months but kept seeing him because I thought he was good company. I had no idea that he was still interested in me. By the time he confessed his feelings I had moved on.
I started dating another Cap after him and guess what...same damn thing! lol
Now i do believe it's a Cap trait, maybe even an earth sign trait. They want to observe you before making a full commitment. I think everything will work out for you guys if you are patient and confident.
The best move for you right now is to give him the gift of missing you. Take some time away from him. I promise he won't dump you over it. Sometimes you can't give a guy what he wants, you have to give him what he needs. Give him space so he can think about what he likes about you.
are cap moons the same way?
****CORRECTION****
caps venus the same??click to expand
without me leading with questioning, how does your venus in cap in question act?
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