Letting go or waiting

Hello,

I was wondering if I should move on from this man.

We met on Tinder and talked for a few weeks before meeting. On our first date we clicked and decided to keep on knowing each other. The next week, we started dating. Everything was good until I saw that he was wishy-washy about us. I gave him space and we eventually went back together. I introduced him to my mother and he was happy about it, he talked to his parents about me and I met his friends, everything was fine.

Fast forward, this week, he was stressed out because we had to have an STD test and he was really annoying. Thursday he was at my house, Friday we went to do the test, and we had an argument in the hospital. Initially my question is was :" do you want to be with me" but he took it as a "do you love me?" Now, we have been together for over a month, I know it's not about love but about being in the relationship. So he said he did not know. So I got angry and stoped talking for 3 hours during which he was trying to get me to talk or to kiss me...

We went back home and he said he thought it was best for us to end here because he needed some space, he needed 0 complication and although he cared about me, he was scared of the future and thought everything would be harder if we stayed in the relationship. I begged and pleaded and he did not budge. I stayed over and next morning he said he would never look back even though he knew the decision was unfair.

During that time, he was either looking at me or looking for elsewhere. He kept saying that I was the nicest girl he has ever been with (he has been with a girl prior to me and that's it), that I was touching...

I don't know what to do or what to think. Should I give him space ? I know he told me he likes me and loves being with me but he wants to be alone and never comes back on his decisions.

Maybe you are right. I should not think about it. I don't know

Never thought about it that way. You are right. I think he does not like me. I am sad but I am used to it I guess

Well I think I have given up on love. It was the one too many for me. I am speechless

From your telling of things you come of to me as rather needy and clingy. Your doing too much too soon.

Guys will directly relate the effort they put in at the beginning to win your affections to your worth as a romantic interest. You all but falling into his lap with your eagerness and then demanding verbal overtures from him after only 1 month instead of letting things progress naturally.

I am 21 wins have been in a handful or two of bad situations. And I guess I am needy and I don't know what to do abou dating anymore. I don't want to date anymore because I end up giving everything but get nothing back. I do long for someone not completing me but being by my sides. I guess I look at my friends' situations and I want that as well. I am not made for those things at all

Why did you have to get an STD test?

WTF?

He wanted one and so I said yes

Yes too fast too soon. Get some grip. A month?? Time to dial it waaaaaaaaay back.

I know. I am actually find today. I don't care if he comes back or not. He said he don't look back so . Screw him

Good for you getting std tested it very important people get tested with new partners and only one guy at a time.

You could get stuff when one is loyal and then other is not. But only you know who you fuck.. stick to one guy and if you get something you know it's him. Not you. I learned that too.

Yeah to me, it's important. I really feel stupid though. I fell

Hard for him and I guess I lost him for good.

I have to see him on Friday though because we have to get our results together and he wants me to give his things back face to face instead of shipping them (my initial plan).

What I hated the most is that until the very end he was wishy washy. He did not know what he wanted but he said he wanted to be alone but at the same time he liked being with me!

Life is too confusing but I'll take this week to reflect, chill and do me! I will go to the gym and we will see what happens

Posted by Lola95
I am 21 wins have been in a handful or two of bad situations. And I guess I am needy and I don't know what to do abou dating anymore. I don't want to date anymore because I end up giving everything but get nothing back. I do long for someone not completing me but being by my sides. I guess I look at my friends' situations and I want that as well. I am not made for those things at all

Giving too much is a mistake. Men fall in love when they are the ones giving. Never ever give more than you get.

Posted by Lola95
Yeah to me, it's important. I really feel stupid though. I fell

Hard for him and I guess I lost him for good.

I have to see him on Friday though because we have to get our results together and he wants me to give his things back face to face instead of shipping them (my initial plan).

What I hated the most is that until the very end he was wishy washy. He did not know what he wanted but he said he wanted to be alone but at the same time he liked being with me!

Life is too confusing but I'll take this week to reflect, chill and do me! I will go to the gym and we will see what happens

You didn't give him enough time to know you well enough for him to know whether he wanted you or not. Takes time. Sloooowwwww down and don't be too eager.

That's true! I feel like I should give him space but I feel like he is over. I don't know, i feel like I am doomed for failure