Messing with my head

Why is he trying to get my attention when he let me go and has a girlfriend?

Prob wants the best of both worlds...

I don't think he does. Im sure he doesn't want me. But suddenly now im not interested hes trying to get my attention.

Thanks for replying its doing my head in.

I am trying. I'm ignoring him but I cant help but wonder what it all means. I messed things up with him. We were getting intimate and he said he was scared to death of getting into a relationship I asked him if he wanted to leave things and he said no I want to see where things go with us and he'll have to man up.

I got so scared that I text him out the blue and said if you don't know what you want then lets call it a day. He left it ignored me since. Now has a girlfriend! and has started trying to get my attention now that I am ignoring him! I hate men!

Why is he a douche bag? Im a bit confused by it all if im honest. And thanks for giving me your opinion I have needed to talk about it to someone.

Shell move on....It really doesn't matter why.

Would you want your boyfriend making goo goo eyes at another woman? Probably not, it's the googly eyed flirting even after he's moved on that puts him in the douchebag category.

Your gut instincts led you to end it, he'd do you the way he's doing her, crossing boundaries, so you saved yourself from heartache and headache.

Why, why does he care? If hes so happy with his new girlfriend why is he even seeing I am not interested in him ? Thanks its helping talking about it with you. Whats the best thing to do I pretend I don't see him and he pinches my arse whilst walking past stands beside me, texts me. Deep down I feel pathetic and further down I feel like maybe its meant to be??

block him. delete his number. keep ignoring lol..

he's either 1. not having a good time with his gf or 2. trying to set you up as a back up plan/plan b
..unless you two have been long time friends before this, his new girl came in.. if not, then it's simply not worth trying to figure out what he means.. actually, just keep ignoring him without deleting his number or blocking him lol.. just no text, no call (calling from your side or picking up his calls) ..let's see him seek the attention from you and let his gf find out.. and then well, all hell will break loose..

..but this is my take 🙂 lol
you may take other approach..and you make your own decisions.. but I don't think there's really any meaning to be deciphered as in why the guy is doing this or that..

just block him and delete his number is the best way to avoid future headaches to be honest.. 🙂

That does make sense. and I guess your right about the gut instinct. I didn't look at it like that. Why cant I just move on from him if its not right. I mean why is he making it hard too. I promise I am trying. Deep down I thought he was the one

Do you believe in fate?

shell how old are you guys ?

I also agree with what the others have posted. There are other guys out there that will treat you like you deserve.

sadly I am old enough to know better and not be played. Feel like such an idiot now.

Posted by Shell14
sadly I am old enough to know better and not be played. Feel like such an idiot now.

Do not feel like an idiot. He's a douchbag; he didn't get the cookie so no harm no foul right?!

We did sleep together. But that wasn't really him it was more me. After he said he was scared for us to sleep together frightened to death of a relationship blah blah. I think my gut wanted to push it to the end if you know what what I mean. Cos a few days after that I text him saying to leave it if he doesn't know what he wants.

I feel stupid now though. Before was different he was lovely to me and I messed it up then he turned into a douche bag ignoring me pretending he didn't see me. Then when I did it to him suddenly I am so interesting again.

He isn't scared in his now relationship! So what the hell. Did he just make that up? Or is being with her not scarey. As hes not exactly head of over heels for her worrying about other girls?? Or was I completely played. Don't understand any of it.

that's hurt a lot. I feel like an idiot. At least now when hes trying to get my attention il just ignore him and not think he gives a shit really

Posted by Shell14
that's hurt a lot. I feel like an idiot. At least now when hes trying to get my attention il just ignore him and not think he gives a shit really

don't feel bad about yourself.. like duchessedenemours said things happen to us.. don't beat you up too much 🙂
things will get better with time, I can promise that 🙂 just try to distant yourself from the guy and say no (of even fuck off lol) when he pinches your arse..don't let him do that to you.. 🙂

wish you a good day 🙂

Posted by duchessedenemours

Posted by Shell14
that's hurt a lot. I feel like an idiot. At least now when hes trying to get my attention il just ignore him and not think he gives a shit really

Happens to us all at some point both men and women. Can never control anyone else. Can only control ourselves.

Wish you the best!

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yep that's so true..at some point you have to think about yourself cause at the end of the day the other person only thinks of themselves. People will change and they will throw in your face that they have all the right to do what they want....I hope the best for you and don't worry you will find someone to treat you better...get out, make new friend, find new hobbies, invest more time in yourself. 😉

Posted by Shell14
Why is he trying to get my attention when he let me go and has a girlfriend?

because you are letting him.