Have you ever had to put the leash on someone?

As in you don't trust them around other women or guys so you had to lay down that you don't want them flirting with anyone else to give off the wrong impression that may lead to cheating. I feel like that when I'm ready to date again that I might just turn into one of those people. I've been cheated on way too many times in the past and the thing is, I was powerful enough to stop but I wanted someone to have their freedom. I don't want to become some totalitarian dictator who's in control of someone's life but I don't want to get cheated on. It happens way too much and I feel that I want to tighten the reins. I wanna hear advice from a few people on this whether you're girls or guys if you've had to do this. I never cheat, bottom line. Whenever I was in a relationship I would not even bother with flirting ( I take relationships pretty seriously). What do you think and what would you recommend?

Have you ever had to put a leash on someone?

Yes. Both literally and figuratively.

But I just read the OP and I don't think I interpreted it correctly..

Posted by Andalusia

Yes. Both literally and figuratively.

Posted by TMV

Posted by Andalusia

Yes. Both literally and figuratively.

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Agreed.

Yes, sadly with my ex husband who was always on the prowl, but it was a neverending battle and as someone said above, very exhausting. In the end he cheated anyway - and a good riddance that was.

If this is an issue you have in a relationship, you're better off without it. I know I'd rather be alone then have to put up with that sht again.

Not everyone cheats though. There are still some good people out there.

Posted by Sn1p3r187
As in you don't trust them around other women or guys so you had to lay down that you don't want them flirting with anyone else to give off the wrong impression that may lead to cheating. I feel like that when I'm ready to date again that I might just turn into one of those people. I've been cheated on way too many times in the past and the thing is, I was powerful enough to stop but I wanted someone to have their freedom. I don't want to become some totalitarian dictator who's in control of someone's life but I don't want to get cheated on. It happens way too much and I feel that I want to tighten the reins. I wanna hear advice from a few people on this whether you're girls or guys if you've had to do this. I never cheat, bottom line. Whenever I was in a relationship I would not even bother with flirting ( I take relationships pretty seriously). What do you think and what would you recommend?

Ask yourself why it happens way too much??_?

(the cheating)

I sure would like to know what has happened to people these days? We see this same concept daily, multiple times ....

:::: shakes head ::::

As a person, an individual, you're suppose to direct/guide/decide your OWN life according to what is in your best interest.

I just don't get why people fail to comprehend that if you don't fucking like .... don't live it.

That's it !!!

It's like people these days aren't independent ..... they need approval for every fucking thing. They don't appear to realize that they aren't suppose to depend on another person to make their life for them.

Was is it? Single parenting? The Earth has tilted too far on its axis? This modern child rearing philosophy in which no kid sits the bench?

I thought leashes were normal in relationships? 😛

I am jealous and possessive, definitely. I wouldn't go as far as saying it's a result of any specific insecurities, to me it's almost a question of principles and seem to primarily be linked to my ego. I don't like acting stupid, pretending I don't know or see what's happening. If there's something bothering me about my partner's behaviour or conduct, I will address it no matter how small or insignificant it seems to the big picture.

I couldn't just stick my head in the sand like some of you propose is the best way to deal with under-the-radar kinda stuff. And it's true, you can't stop a partner from cheating or whatever by putting them on a leash and constantly questioning their conduct... but to me it's about curiosuty and an almost sick need to understand my partner's thoughts and inner working in any given situation. Did someone say "control-issues"? lol

I can be like a pitbull who won't let go, until I get the answers I want. And I'm well aware of how silly I can come across, but I have no problem with that. It's just the way I am. And I've been put through it myself by my ex, didn't see it as creepy or weird as much as justified.

I guess I'm projecting, which basically means I'm the one who should be put on a leash! But having said all of that, I'm not really as bad as I make it sound... that is unless you have something to hide 😛

And I absolutely hate when gfs talk about sensitive stuff regarding us outside of the relatonship, without checking with me first, I mean I may not be ok with it. It's disrespectful.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
(the cheating)

And the answer to that is I don't freaking know. Never got a clear explanation.