Pisces& libra... I really need feedback

I am a 25 year old libra and I've been seeing a 33 year old Pisces. We have been talking for two months now and I expressed my interest in persuing something more. He said he wasn't looking for a relationship and i respected it. He says hes never been in a relationship or Fallin in love. Now I'm getting mixed signals because we have started to cuddle a lot more. He calls just to see how I'm doing and he isn't a kisser but he's started to kiss me. I know this doesn't seem major but with this pisces it is. He's very stubborn but hes been more open minded lately as well. I don't know whether he's just playing on my emotions or what. It's really mind boggling though because as much as he says he doesn't want a relationship. He gets extremely jealous if he sees me with a male friend and he throws out statements like"if you were my woman this" or " if you were my wan that. I'm having a really hard time trying to read him. I'm a very sensitive libra. I try to be open minded myself but I'm very baffled at this point.

Posted by 92686DIVA

He says hes never been in a relationship or Fallin in love.

Posted by Theultra79

... if he's as old as he is, and has never allowed himself to be in love

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First thing I want to address is the Falling in Love concept that nearly every person has except the Pisces.

We don't fall.

to say we haven't fallen in love doesn't equate to not ever loving ... and Pisces are fully aware of Love and difference between loving to it's fullest .. and falling.

People come in here everyday to talk about their sorrows, pain, and emotional torment due to falling for a person to the point where once the relatinship ends they cannot pick themselves back up .. and this is due to emotionally falling into being emotionally dependent upon the other.

Pisces aren't like that. We love so hard, and so deep (sometimes) that you'd think you'd found your soulmate for sure ... but, we haven't emotionally fallen for you. If you leave, we are perfectly capable of standing right up straight, putting it into the proper perspective of ... awesome and amazing experience over, time to move on and carry forward.

we won't spend a second wallowing in emotional pain, rather spend every living second relishing in what was great about the person and the relationship .. and we are able to do that because we never "fell" in love.

So, as the responser implied, "never allowed himself to be in love" that in doing that is a bad thing, somethign to be leary of, is a comment which shows that there is no comprehension of what loves means, except what is in her definition.

Pisces people aren't so cut and dry ... you can't take YOUR definition of something and apply it to the Fish, because our shades of gray are so enormous that we can't hardly give a straight answer.

People think we are indecisive because we are ditzy .. in reality, we see so many sides to any situation that's it nearly impossible to make to pick a side.


It's typical of a Pisces to have this kind of response ...



You: Do you love your mother

Fish: What's love?

Posted by 92686DIVA

Now I'm getting mixed signals because we have started to ....

I don't see how that is mixed signals, considering life happens as it progresses, and isn't in a box in which a person stated before developing.

In other words ... he stated how it was before, then you two start feeling each out, and during this feeling out period, he begins to express care for you, and instead of you realizing that relations develop, you look back to what was said before, according to his past .. and think that you're getting mixed signals?

How is being affectionate with you have anything to do with his past?

I'm not looking for another man, either and I would tell you that ... but, if I ran into a new one tomorrow, that would have nothing to do with looking for it.


If you saw a gorgeous shirt in a shop window that you wanted, how would you not looking for a new shirt have to do with what you're feeling now when looking at this shirt?


It just makes no sense, at all.


If the two of you are doing great and feelings are developing .. then leave the emotional burden of doubt alone and let the two of you grow.

Also, it's not uncommon for a Pisces to express themselves according to your comprehension, eventhough that's not how they feel. And that has nothing to do with being deceptive, rather, on the Contrary.

People have a hard time understanding that concept, because it appears to them as being deceptive if we are stating something other than how we feel or think. And I will try to explain this, though, you might not get it, though every Pisces will no doubt get it.


Let's use a relationship as an example, since that is what this post is about.


You want a relationship according to your understanding of what a relationship is .. you have (specific) terms, conditions in which defines to you what a relationship is, so that you will KNOW you are in one.

So, when he speaks to you about relationship, he is going to express himself according to YOUR belief of what a relationship is, so that YOU understand where he's coming from.

However, he might not actually view being in a relationship the same as you, and so for him to say he doesn't want to be in one might not be entirely true as to how he feels, and he only tells you that because he acknowledges your definition of one, and answers you according to what you can comprehend.

If you are going to date a Fish, then you better plan on understanding one, otherwise you eill be left ouyt in the cold, scratching your head, trying to figure out what just happened.

A Pisces doesn't have to physically live love with another, to actually experience love .. and that is complicated.


We don't have a (need) to share this physically with another. We can, and usually do, fantasize about love, and that is perfectly acceptable to us, considering we don't seek approval from others to validate us.


We could have a love affair going on in our heads for YEARS, and it be all in our head ... and we would be perfectly content and happy because we have no need to share this with purposes of validating that we love deeply.


That's hard to grasp, I know, especially for earth people ... but, you need to get concept if you want to understand your man when you think about his age and never having a relationship. AND him telling you he has never been in one, because from your comprehension of reality, which includes the physcial plane, he will speak to you according to your understanding of reality ... when he has likely had many relationships in his waters, but, he's not going to tell you that because you aren't going to understand.


To us, that's not being deceptive ... it's just that we get that non-Pisceans cannot usually grasp what they cannot see, touch, hear, taste ... so we speak on your terms, for your understanding.

I said what I said, and didn't say your words .. those are yours.

Well, I never really understood Pisces so I'm interested to hear it from P's point of view. My dad is Pisces and he is extremely thick skinned. I don't consider myself all that sensitive (although I have Scorpio placements - lol)but he can be quite hurtful, even if it is unintentional. I don't like to dismiss people just because of astrology, but he has a lot of work to do to prove he is worth it. I agree with TheUltra79 - tell him how you feel. If you don't get an answer that makes you feel loved and wanted, I'd walk.

Us Libra don't like confusion.