Scorpio Woman And Cancer Male

Scorpio Woman And Cancer Male

I am quite confused about men in general. I am starting to think maybe it's me and they just can't deal with my feelings and emotions. I'm gonna try and not make this too long and drawn out but I need advice if someone is willing to give it to me. I am a Scorpio Female who loves a Cancer Male. We have been knowing each other for 14 years but strictly on a platonic level. This year for his birthday I decided to "step-up" our relationship a notch seeing as we were both attracted to one another. It was beautiful the first, second and third time around. But he told me something that kind of blew my mind. He said he didn't want to be in a relationship! It hurt me to say the least and now i am pulling back from him. He was hurt by his son's mother. They have been broken up for five years! Why do I have to suffer? I don't know what to do?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks 🙂

Respectfully...get a grip. The man didn't put the moves on you in 14 years? Obviously, he's just not that into you. Learn to recognise the signs and move on! For your own good.

Hope this helps.

Sun_In Leo

I'm sorry if it wasn't clear in my explanation but i never allowed him to put moves on me. I chose not to go that route. We were only in high school now that we are older and I thought more mature that i would give him the flag to proceed forward.

*sighs* why do I even bother to post? Archer_ it's already a done deal. Yes I am hurt but i am no fool. I don't push myself upon people who are not receptive. So thank you for your advice and insensitive answer.

Cancer males are way too feminine for me. There never is sexual attraction... we're better off as friends. They do make excellent friends though.

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If you have nothing to say about it, why post "no comment?" Pointless.

Wow, I'm the opposite. I'm always attracted to them like a moth to a flame. And the Cancers I've known are/were extremely strong, non-feminine types. Weird.

When i posted this it was my first time posting and i didn't know what to do. I did write a whole posting on it.
Thank you kindly...

Ladydane,

your story is very touching. I am a Cancer woman, and the deepest,most profound, unforgettable soul connection was with a Scorpio male. We are not together, but I will never forget the emotions he stirred in me until the day I die. Just to say that we Crabs also feel enormously for Scorps, I am sure that your Crab has you in his heart also. All the best.

I also had a very deep soul connection with a Scorpio male. We were together for 10 years. He will remain in my heart forever. I can't begin to describe the impact Scorpio males have on me. Ever since we broke up (7years ago) I have been looking for that elusive connection with another that I have just not found. I've tried both Pisces & Taurus. While both were awesome, they just didn't have that intensity that I crave. About 4 years ago, I met this kid and right away there was a connection. I found out he was Scorpio. At the time, I wasn't ready to start anything and him being Scorpio (same as my ex) I kind of pushed him away. Well, he has NOT given up and we have recently been trying to get to know eachother and already I feel like he is going to be in my life forever. I can't even explain it. It's more than whats on the surface. It's more deep and meaningful and has fully transformed me. Even if I wanted to push him away, I couldn't. He is already inside me. I just can't see my life without Scorpio in it. My best friend is a Scorpio, my father is Scorpio and the Sag boy that I have a crush on has Scorpio in Mars and Venus!

OMG! I thought i would never get an answer to this question. Well me (Scorpio Female) and the Cancer Male's history is very long. I have been knowing him for 14 years we were like brother and sister for the longest. But always attracted to one another. I never gave in for a number of reasons. One I was afraid and Two i just didn't think it would work. I should have never let it go beyond a platonic relationship. I decided since we were both single this year to give him a "special" birthday present. It was wonderful. But needless to say he informed me "He didn't want to be in a relationship"-That hurt because he didn't even give me a chance. I know it would work. He was "burnt" by his son's mother 5 years ago! That has nothing to do with me. Needless to say it has been 3 weeks now and he hasn't called me and nor have i him. You can't force a person to want to do something. It hurts me and i don't know if our friendship will ever bounce back. But Oh Well. I gave it a shot.

Thanks everyone for your help and advice on Cancererian Males and also Cancerian Tendencies in general. I really appreciate it. I thought time heals all wounds. I guess not when it comes down to Cancers 😢

The best relationships between Cancer and Scorpio often happen when they are in their late thirties,
early forties. So, grown-up, mature Cancers and Scorps. I tend to notice this a lot, that they meet
in the second half of life, and often stick together for good. Probably has to do with that neccessary
maturity, especially for a Cancer man to reach. Because, they very much ARE mummy's boys, I know that
very well, my brother is one of them. Always looking for MAMA...

Ladydane,

Hahaha, his sister coming around to stick her nose in...I pretty much think that the Cancer had sent her to investigate a bit.

I am sure that he still has feelings for you, not that it matters because you have obviously moved on. Because, sometimes love is NOT enough, people have to make an effort, too, and it doesn't seem like he did that.

But I know what you mean about "just having to fall in love" with Leo. With Cancers and Scorpios it happens so effortlessly, almost instantly, nothing beats that connections (perhaps sometimes Scorpio-Pisces comes close). With other signs, yes, it takes an effort, but I know *some* successfull Scorpio-Leo couples.
However, sometimes, it just seems that something is missing with this (Leo-Scorp) connection, this deep, intuitive, soul-merging bond. I don't know many long-term Scorp-Leo couples, but this is only in my environment, I suppose there are probably many out there.
But, all loves are different, and there is beauty in all of them. So good luck with your Leo, big greetings from another Scorpio lover.

My experience with a lovely cancer male who always said he wanted occasional dinners out for adult company-platonic only. Foolishly I fell for him anyway quite heavily thinking he would hopefully change his mind. He knew his own mind unfortunately so I am at the moment trying to extricate myself from this non relationship. I would like to keep him as a friend however but I am finding it hard to separate my feelings. This man will always have a special place in my heart whether he deserves it or not.

When I started this thread my Cancer had broken my heart. I think I have bounced back fairly quickly. I still love him but you know what. When a person tells you after you have been knowing them for 14 years that they donn't want to be in a relationship and can't take into consideration your feelings then they're not the person for you. We were like brother and sister for forever. I messed up and texted him last week to tell him "I Love You" which I do and always will. He called me back. But I wound up being so cold because I honestly thought i wouldn't hear from him or stupid me thought he didn't get the text. At any rate I guess when he called he wanted me to fall all over him. NOT-I love him but he decided he wanted to be by himself.

He has no idea what he is missing because I know in my heart we would be an excellent couple. I probably no him like nobody else does. But Oh well What's that famous saying " If you set something free and it comes back then it was meant to be"-Is that right? Oh Well you guys get the point.

Karima,

I agree with that saying very much.

And you know what? Whatever happens, it is for the best. All I know is that Scorpios adore Cancers and vice versa, mmmmmmmmm, just divine....

ladydane49...your Cancer's issues sound more like problems in his own personal values than anything to do with being a cancer. We have many faults but taking and not giving back is not one that is characteristic to us. If its astrological, that may be his ascendant sun or moon talking. Cancers are known to give a lot more than we expect back...and a lot of the "neediness" that we get a bad rap for happens when we don't stick to our own kind (pisces, scorpios, sometimes taurus) and we give and give and then want some of that back. If anything a cancer is more likely to be on the short end of the stick of giving in just about any relationship....unless its with another water sign. (This is on average everyone has their own valid experience)

I have nothing but good things to say about the Scorps - girls or guys.

My cousin, a pisces, recently married a scorpio, they live in europe so I was only able to meet them this past summer when I was on vacation. The moment I met the guy, it's like we were instant best friends.. no joke. We partied and hung out for most of the time I was there too.

On the flight back, I met a scorpio girl who had the window seat right next to me. At first we were just talking casually but I got this weird feeling like she understood me on a deeper level. We clicked so well right off the bat I knew it wasn't just coincidence. There was definitely something there so I had to take a chance. First I just kept getting closer to her but she didn't visibly react so I took it even further and gently took her hand in mine and started stroking her hair. After that.. she practically pounced on me.. lots of kissing, touching, caressing.. for a moment I even thought I was imagining it.. it was almost surreal. Lets just say it was the best cross atlantic flight I ever had... 🙂

"CancerLA, I disagree.... LadyDane49 made some good points that I totally agree with,but I'll add this to the pot...
When a Cancer is being a little bleep,it's usually down to an ex,and they're making someone else take all their baggage...'projection' if you like...they know that they don't have the guts or decency to give it back to the ex because of those 'memories of the good times' ,so they palm it off on someone who they can milk for a bit,dump there butter on,then play victim or cut them out....it's a shame they aren't that sharp in hiding this though...."

I don't know enough about a wide enough cross section of cancers to agree with or refute that...I only know I'm not that way myself. I try to wipe the slate clean for a new person in my life...which includes ridding myself of as many things that are reminders of the ex. Although that has a lot to do with having had a personal expeirence of dating someone with an immense amount of baggage collected over a lifetime (a virgo) and that I caught hell for the in the relationship...therefore, I bend over backwards not to take old baggage around in a way that punishes my next person.

Reading all these things about Cancer Male's is turning me off. I haven't heard from my Cancer Male at all. He's an idiot...Well that's not true I did hear from him after I texted him and told him I loved him. He called me after he got the text but that was about it. He's still an idiot though. All my friends keep asking have i heard from him. The answer is NO! Whatever...

Don't loose faith guys.. just because there's so many cancers out there are little cry baby bitches, doesn't mean there isn't a handful good ones.

I thought I would throw this into the mix. I am a Cancer woman who's first love and most passionate partner, was a Scorpio woman. Ten years later we are still trying to figure out why we're not together if we are so obviously soul mates. I guess the signs don't lie, even for gays and lesbians.

wow we have so much in common goodjuju! I think im going through the same thing with my cancer guy. He's so manipulative . . . and i to turn a blind eye on a lot of things as well. I pretty much have come to the decision to fight like hell to get over him but I just know he's get this hold over me. I don't think I'll ever be the same! *CRIES*

I find Cancer men to be quite childish...

.........

My first love was a Scorpio girl. We only dated for my senior year in high school, but I still haven't had a relationship that comes close. I haven't talked to her in years, so I had my Taurus friend message her for me because I was too scared to talk to her myself. Once he actually got ahold of her, I chickened out, because I felt silly for holding on so tightly to a relationship that ended 8 years ago. Every time I read about Cancers and Scorpios, my mind goes into overdrive, fantasizing, convincing me that she's the only one for me. I could write a book about the bizarre plans I've concocted to get her back, even though she could easily be a different person by now (I know I've changed remarkably since we last spoke). I wouldn't even want to talk to her unless I knew I could have her back.

Anyways, I'm living proof that Cancers never forget, especially when it comes to Scorpios.

hey,
i'm a cancer male.
i hate to admit it but i care too much too fast.

well, you see, i have recently started going into relationships recently, which was a year ago, halfway through my senior year in high school. since then till now, i've only been in to two relationships. the first one lasted almost two months and the second one lasted one month and a week.
my first relationship ended because she liked this other guy. you see, before i asked her out, she was already attracted to this guy at the same time as me. three days before i asked her out, we were complete stranger. actually not total strangers, we just didn't talk. but i began noticing her so i decided to talk to her and we clicked right away and i fell for her. in that a little over a month of relationship, i fell so hard. i gave it all the care i had and love. well, that's to be expected since i was new to the whole relationships thing. i didn't know how to get over her until i began talking to other girls again. she was a leo by the way. anyways, i tried looking around because i craved that feeling of loving and being loved by someone.

in six months time, i've been rejected twice but i found her. she's a taurus, her name is Ali. she was just simply amazing. i've known her for 3 months before we went out because she was with my really good friend, henry. i had feelings for her while she was with him but it wasn't big enough that i would dare to let anyone know. anyways, he ended up leaving her because he had feelings for this other girl. but i was there for her. i was there when she cried when nobody was there to hold her. but i didn't make any move because it wasn't right. so i waited almost a month being by her side and supporting her.

when i thought she was ready, i told her my feelings for her and she felt the same way so i asked her out. we decided not to tell the ex about us since we felt we weren't obligated to do so, not right away anyway. but, the ex ended up finding out anyway because somebody told him before us. he got mad because he still had feelings for her and that we hid our relationship from him. he kept saying "bros before hoes". i got mad when he said that. he was implying that i should choose friends before girlfriends. but in reality, she was my friend also but more than that. i wanted to show her that i wanted to make our relationship workout and that i would stay by her side no matter what. so i ended up losing a good friend for the girl i cared about. for a month, everything was going great. i didn't see anything wrong. again, i ga

i gave my all for her. i dedicated myself to her. i willingly gave my heart to her. then after a month, she unexpectedly broke it off. omg, i didn't see it coming. she told me that she couldn't quite trust the opposite sex because of what happened to her past relationship. so i did what i felt i needed to do. i waited for her till the day she could trust me completely because she was worth it.
i waited two months with faith. however, i found out the she liked this guy and went out with him. i couldn't believe what she just did. she gave the trust i worked hard to get to someone else. but, i still waited for her hoping that she would come back. i didn't let any other girl in my life. i ended up waiting for another two month until i lost hope and gave up. several days after i gave up, they broke up. but i didn't think she would come back to me. so i didn't do anything. then this girl comes along one day, her name is Alyssa a.k.a Ally (couple days after they broke up). she was also a taurus (just my break). we started talking. and again we clicked so fast that two days later, i was with someone. the next day after i asked alyssa out, Ali talked to me telling me how much she wanted me back.
by then, my head and heart was in turmoil. i didn't know what to do. my feelings for Ali all came back in an instant when she said she wanted me back. several days later, i couldn't deny it. i wanted them both but i wanted Ali more. so i ended it with Alyssa to be with Ali. she understood. or at least i thought she did. while i was with Ali, i finaly gave her the promise ring i was planing on giving her earlier in our relationsip and also my first kiss (dammit). after a week, she broke up with me because she felt that being together is/was wrong. i was pretty shaken up that night. after we watched a movie together, she broke it off. again, i didn't see it coming. of course i did all i can to change her mind but with no success. that night was hell for me. life couldn't get any better than that. suddenly, i remembered Alyssa. i tried getting back with her. she felt the same but wanted me to get rid of my feelings for Ali. unfortunately, two days later, i was too late. she was with some other guy. that was my last heartbreak in the year 2007. i can't describe how my christmas and new year's eve went along. however, i tried being optimistic about the whole thing, telling myself "it's a whole new year, new experiences, and new crap." but as i'm writing this now, i can't deny

i can't deny that i feel so miserable.

but i must not lose hope. hope is all i have not. my trust towards women are almost gone. but i try hard to keep an open mind and try not to block off every girl that tries to get in my life.

well, that's my story.

I know several Scorp/Cancer couples and one Pisces/Cancer couple and they're all very happy and have been married for quite some time. In all those couples, the Cancer is male. It just reinforces my belief that water/water bonds can definitely be forever.

LadyDane,

I have to concur -- fully -- with everything that you said. I was married to a Cancer for 7 years, during which time he slowly and subtly took control of everything he could -- my thoughts, opinions of myself, until I was almost spiritually dead. He really was like a form of cancer that started growing on everything healthy in my body.

I congratuate you on your Leo. It is a very good match -- Leos are much more emotional than they let on -- and they are completely honest.

My healing took a while, and it seems that this has been the year of the air signs for me. I enjoy their communication skills, light delicate touch, and surprising passion. They, of course, love my emotional response to their lovemaking and my passion!

I also had two women friends who are Cancer who tried to start the same manipulative shit with me, until I blew their wimpy, jealous (they were both highly jealous of my success in life, and even my kids!) asses right out of my life.

Once bitten, twice shy. Having said that, my Cancer ex could be incredibly gentle, loving and nurturing. But I will never date one again.