Soul mate synastry or painfully tragic?

Before I begin my story, let's go over the synastry aspects that I know of. I don't have his exact time of birth so im not sure about his houses or Asc,sorry. His birthday is Nov,11,1983 and I was born July,12,1987 at 11:48pm in Nj. I'm a cancer sun and he is a Scorpio. Our moons are conjunct in Aquarius. Both of our Venus to Mars sextile each other,my south node and psyche in libra conjuncts his Venus & Mercury in libra, his south node in Sagittarius conjuncts my Saturn.His Venus in libra falls in my my 7th house, his sun and Pluto in my 8th (Scorpio ). Our psyche to Eros sextile and trine both ways... I feel addicted to this man but I JUST met him! It feels completely silly and irrational yet I can't help it. I've had dreams about him , I can't get him out of my thought process. Unfortunately, I find him a bit scary too. His N.node conjuncts my Chiron in Gemini and his Neptune in sag conjuncts my Saturn. All I keep reading about the last 2 aspects are nothing but gloom and doom,"seperative",bad news bears etc.

Ok, let's start from the beginning. I met Mr. Scorpio via a dating site. He reached out,I found him attractive and funny,we exchanged numbers but unfortunately I blew him off for a couple weeks due to school and other obligations. The day of the date, I came ridiculously close to cancelling because I was having a "fat day". Yes,seriously. My bff talked me out of it and so I got myself together and off to the date I went. Our date was at a rooftop in midtown Manhattan and we literally came out of the elevators at the same time,making it sort of romantic comedy awkward. I found him cute but extremely quiet,semi awkward and inexplicably magnetic. After about 15mins of awkwardness we settled in to the lounge area and things seemed to take off. I felt like I knew him,understood him, wanted to hug and kiss him etc. Yes,this was our first date. Our date started at 6:30pm, we shut the place down till 2am. We laughed like crazy,spoke about our families,friends, business aspirations and my recent trip to Berlin. He explained that he has a friend not too far from where I stayed and is going for his birthday this year. We spoke about everything under the sun. I was attracted to him but in an unconventional way.In true Scorpio fashion,He kept staring me down when he thought I wasn't looking. We've been on two dates, on our 2nd date we got stormed in his house and I spent the night. Nothing happened except for some cuddling and making out but it was very intimate,not really because of that but just our conversations and the level of comfort and familiarity I felt. We discovered that we enjoy a lot of the same random shows and laid in bed watching "what would you do" on his phone the next morning. I knew him not to have an Instagram acct as that's what he told me when I initially asked. so, being a new IPhone user, I immediate pointed out the icon when I noticed it under his frequently visited when he opened his browser. He asked me to show him what

was talking about because he didn't have an account so I directed him to open up his internet where I could see the icon. When he did I noticed that the poor boy didn't have an app at all,he had found my Instagram and been frequently visiting my page so the the icon with my profile username showed up on his frequently visited browser on IPhone.He looked really embarrassed and I felt bad for unintentionally calling him out on stalking me. To make him feel better,I confessed that i had done my own "research" on him via Facebook too. I found the whole situation funny because if anyone else had done that I'd probably have run out of the house screaming stalker! Ok,maybe not but you get the idea ‚! I liked everything about him, he was so open and almost a bit vulnerable for a Scorpio. He's 31 and I'm 28. When we spoke of families, he mentioned that his parents were having a hard time (remember this part,it's important)

Ok, so fast forward to the morning after,he texts me a hour after I left to make sure I got home safe, we briefly spoke the next day then he starts to withdraw. I reached out to him 5days later and he text me immediately but then fell off all cold again. I spoke to him 2days after that and basically asked him where he disappeared off to. He said his parents are getting a divorce and it's distracting. Not to be insensitive but he's 31 and no longer living at home or even in the same state as them. I understand it may be distracting but is it really an excuse to disappear if you like someone? I told him that I was sorry to hear that and if he felt like he was no longer in the headspace to pursue anything with me or just wasn't interested in me in general that it was totally cool. I was lieing of course. He responded with a wishy washy "yea,idk. It's not that I'm not interested. It's just hard to even think about with all this going on right now. Makes sense? My heart sunk but I'm extremely prideful so I immediately texted "makes sense,take care". He responded with "u do the same and I deleted his # immediately. It's been almost two weeks and there hasn't been ONE day that I haven't thought of him,looked up some aspect in our charts, had dreams about him...it's frustrating. I just need him out of my psyche! Speaking of psyche, mine to his Eros trine, his to mine sextile and my psyche in Libra conjunct his Venus! I hate that I feel so inexplicably drawn to him! So, I guess my question is this, what do all these aspects say about a potential relationship if we meet again? Is my Chiron conjunct his north node in Gemini and his Neptune conjunct my Saturn in Sagittarius enough to ruin all of the other good aspects we have? I no longer have his contact info and if he's anything like me he probably deleted me too but our chemistry was sooo out of this world, I can't imagine never running into him again...I almost feel pain...like my heart is broken. Yes,I know how silly that sounds after having technically gone on two dates but I can't he

I can't help but feel like we'll meet again...or at least , I hope so...somehow,someway... I pray.

You're right, I wish I'd been more sensitive to his opening up ”

Bump

In my opinion I would consider it a toxic relationship it starts off hot and heavy then blah
You might be a bit too much for him to handle.
Are you controlling at all? Or overly busy??
Something as simple as flowers or a card saying how you appreciated the time with him would start him back up again.. some food for thought...

Does anyone have any experience with these kinds of connections? How did they affect you?