Taurus Men & Women Opinions and experience needed!

I need your own personal opinions and/or experiences.. When you find yourself falling in love but have fears of committing due to failed and hurtful relationships from the past.. Do you distance yourself from the person your falling for.. fear of the same thing happening again? How do you deal with this situation?

@bellalove I'm seeing a Taurus who's extremely scared from his previous GF cheating on him amongst other things. He openly admits to me that he has major trust issues so when he tells me he trust me it means alot to me.

In his case I notice he'll kind of take 2 steps forward get scared and take 1.5 steps back. Like he'll tell me he is all mine but then a day later he'll get scared and talk about how f'd up he is and act a bit more distant. He's never disappeared (that's more my arena) but I'm starting to get used to his hot/cold behavior. It pretty much goes: Super lovely/romantic day(s) together followed by coldish push me away behavior for a day or so followed by more romantic gestures. It takes some getting used to and is not for the faint of heart. I'm learning to pay attention to the SMALL stuff with him, because that's where the truth seems to be. It's all very subtle: When he walks by me does he touch me? Does he wait for me or walk without me when we're out? Does he stare at me when watching movies? Does he moan like he's in heaven when we cuddle? And little subtle comments that fly right over my head until days later when I'm analyzing everything. That's how I read my bull. I hope this helps!

My Taurus guy is similar to yours the only thing is he disappeared on me. I feel in my heart he has strong feelings for me.. He's just scared and fear committing, because of his past relationships. I think he got hurt and feels like it'll happen again. We both told eachother " I love you" he told me I was worth being with. But when he gets close to me and affectionate he turns around and disappears.. What's a girl to do? I haven't heard from him in weeks.. I don't think he's moved on I think he got cold feet and suppressed his feelings because he got scared..

@bellalove Yea with the disappearing I really don't know how to handle that. My bull tried the disappearing thing when we 1st met. After 2 days (I can be impatient) I politely snapped at him and let him know if this is his way of trying to get rid of me please let me know as I don't speak in subtleties. This was before I did my Taurus research and found out they do this alot. Well he immediately apologized profusely for the rest of that night and he never pulled that disappearing crap again. I have a rule disappear on me for more than 1 week without so much as a hello and all you get from me is good-bye when you come back. (It's kind of hypocritical because I tend to do my own disappearing act, but I can't stand when it's done to me) I think it's ok to say something to them about this in the beginning to let them know you won't stand for it & keep it from becoming a habit in the future. But that's just my experience.

I think with the scarred bull, you might as well pull up a chair get a magazine and be prepared to wait...A WHILE. Nothing is moving until he's ready and every step forward freaks him out soo much he has to spend weeks/months coming to terms with the step he just made. With my bull I will catch this look of complete amazement on his face when he realizes I'm that much closer to his heart. It's like he can't believe this is happening to him and he's unsure if he wants it to keep happening but in the same token it feels good so he can't/doesn't stop it. He just slows it down.

Mine tricked ILU out of me. He'd said it twice but I couldn't respond as I wasn't convinced he meant it in a way I would need for words like that to mean when said to me. So the other night he's running off all these questions (really fast) to me while we're cooking and they're all "yes" questions. The last question is "You love (bulls name) don't you?" To which I responded yes before the question resonated fully. He kissed me and changed the subject. It was my turn to look amazed...Roller coaster ride that's all I'll say.

I've decided to just keep my distance and let him come to me if he decides to.. I'm just hurt that he couldn't tell me the honest truth this is a cowardly act.. I feel this is disrespectful to me as a person. If he decides to come back into my life I have to decide if I want him there.. As of right now my love for him is slowly turning into anger

I wish you ALL the luck in the world with this guy, they really have a way of crawling up under your skin and making a lasting impression. I think if he comes back it's ok to also address the disappearing as unacceptable, maybe ask for some sort heads up or smoke signal. I'm not sure why I keep reading that most people are just letting the guy come back like nothing happened. WTF is that? Dude you've been MIA for 3weeks and now you want to watch a movie? Are you on crack? (My response would sound something like that followed by my dial tone)

But seriously don't glaze over it or he will surely do it again...and again...and again. No bueno

Advice from a Taurus man needed! I just had my heart broken by a Taurus man for the second time in the last 3 months since meeting him. We have a great chemistry but met in a local bar. He has done the typical disappear and reappear act multiple times. He has claimed to be falling in love with me on multiple times and within days disappears leaving me questioning everything. He even went so far as to inform the owners of the bar that we met at that he was thankful for them introducing us and we would most likely get married within a year. I have asked him not to say things like this unless he is ready for a real relationship. He looked at me and promised me he meant every word. Within days he got distant again. He sent me a text stating, "Remember I need to take things slow, I'm a work in progress." I took this as back off so I did. Days later he is sending me pictures from his job and asked me to dinner for Valentines day. I was so excited! He called me the day before to confirm the date and he proceeded to tell me he told everyone at the bar we were together and not to feel weird going to the bar. I thought that was great as we had been keeping thing on the down low. So the night of the date he was sweet but quiet and almost appeared nervous. First thing he did was order a beer and I had water. He seemed uncomfortable with the fact I didn't want any alcohol. Well the conversation and dinner went okay but he didn't hold my hand or show the usual amount of affection he normally does. He walked me home and was again awkward with his kiss good bye. Well the next night I popped into the bar, knowing I would see him and not at all worried since he informed me that he told everyone at the bar we were an item. Well, I showed up (very excited to see him) and he did NOT share my enthusiasm. I sat right next to him, told him about my day and he started to ignore me and asked for his tab within 20 minutes!! He had told me 2 weeks prior that we would never NOT leave that place together! Sure enough he was getting ready to go and told me he just wanted to go home alone....I was crushed and felt like a fool! I left right after embarrassed and sad. I sent him a text saying, " I thought we were working towards something.... if we are just friends he was confusing me." I received a text the next day telling me,"I don't think that things are working out. Your pressuring me and wanting things to move faster than I do. We have different definitions of dating, etc" ??

@LeoLeo18 this ones tough and you might want to post in the Taurus forum so the more seasoned Taureans there can give you some advice. Here is my humble opinion based upon my experiences with my bull:

"He sent me a text stating, "Remember I need to take things slow, I'm a work in progress."

This is a CLEAR Taurus notification that you are moving too fast for him. He said REMEMBER as in he's already said this before and now he has to remind you again that he needs to move MUCH slower. So we can assume that in his mind he's feeling the pressure big time and this is not a good thing in the world of the bull. For me I tend to only believe 30% -50% of what my bull says in matters of the heart and 100% of his actions. I think some Taureans speak like a puppy would if it could talk. They are just all over the place and they say what they "think" they feel at that moment; but that's just a fleeting feeling it doesn't make it real. In that moment he was so happy with you he said all of those things then he saw something shiny and fell in love with that too and forgot ALL about what he just said to you. A clear indicator of this is the fact that you say its only been 3 months. There is NO WAY he really would mention marriage (like in a real way) after only 3 months...not happening. He's speaking in the moment. To date a Taurus you must quickly learn the difference so that you can both store this info (just in case) and ignore it (so you don't let it influence how you behave towards him).
He's still disappearing/reappearing so he definitely hasn't chosen you yet. Not to say that he won't but he's still assessing you and trying to figure out how he really feels and what category he wants to place you in. The pressure you add to this will not help you two move towards a future together. I would DEFINITELY have advised against popping up at the bar, from what I've seen Taurus men hate change and unexpected surprises. You showing up felt more like control and pressure to be with you than a happy coincidence, this probably put him in a fowl mood hence the leaving early and the subsequent text. You're a Leo so I know your definition of slow is vastly different from a Taurus; there slow is the equivalent of watching trees grow...it's slow. Put it this way I've been seeing my Taurus for over 6mos & yesterday was the 1st time I saw that jealousy/possessiveness everyone keeps talking about. These past 2 weeks were the 1st time he's making efforts to spend crazy time wit

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IMO the best way to date a Taurus is to really not overly concern yourself with them in the beginning. Have a full on lyfe and focus on that, stay happy with yourself and your lyfe, see him when you see him and don't bother him when you don't. Slowly if he's interested he will begin to come to you more and more. Let him make his way to you in his own time and don't be afraid to have something else going on. He kinda has to work for it but not too hard (Taureans are essentially lazy). But above all pay attention to his actions, they will show you how interested he is or is not.
In your case 1st decide if he is worth the hassle that you??re about to take on to deal with him and believe me it's a hassle. Anyone else and I would tell them to take a midnight train to hell. If yes essentially all you can do is apologize for pushing things, agree to move at his pace and then fall waaay back to the point of silence until he contacts you again. If he does contact you again remember the word of the day is SLOW! Think of it like this: path to dating a Taurus- 1st become acquaintance; then friend; then best-friend; then lover; then relationship. You HAVE to go through each step to win the heart of a Taurus and each step takes time??_lots of it. I hope this helps. See what the other Taureans have to say.

Thank you for the advice! Do I really want to respond to his break up text? Here is the full text as I couldn't fit it in my original post, "I think that being friends may be best. You are doing the same things that you did before and as i have said I am a very independent person. You keep on pressing me and want to take things much faster than I am prepared to take them. I need to gradually date someone and get to know them and you keep on putting pressure on me. We clearly have two different definitions of dating and taking things slow. I don't things are going to work out between us. Take care." I never responded; I was upset and didn't want to send him something emotional or argumentative. It's been 3 days since he sent me that and i haven't heard from him (not that I am surprised. I really didn't realize how slow he needs to take things after telling me all things he did(for the second time in the last 3 months)and taking it a step further by telling everyone at the bar we were together and the owners they would probably attend our wedding. It's so confusing! My intentions were not to pressure him, just to see him as I am a Leo and require affection and attention. My gut did tell me not to go but I did anyway hoping that given he had called me 3 days prior and told me NOT to feel weird or hesitant to go to the bar and that it was all clear. I had avoided the bar up until he told me this as I didn't want to add pressure. I felt like he was giving me the green light as well as creating the p! I know last time he pulled this on me he deleted my number but we also got into a big fight because I confronted him and was aggressive with him (I know better now and didn't do that again, or go near the bar). Do I continue on my path of silence or do I still send him a text as you mentioned before? Sorry for the continued questioning(I am trying to give you as much background info as I can). My fear is to appear aggressive and my other fear is to disrespect myself in chasing after him. I just wish he would have communicated his boundaries clearly rather than bail! BTW - We have been sleeping together for most of the 3 months and def compatible in that arena. He just seemed so cold on our Valentines date so being that Friday was the next day I wanted to see him; cuddle, etc. My best friend is a Taurus woman and she told me that I should leave him alone, not to respond at all and she thinks he will come back but possible not for a couple of weeks. Do you agree?

Yea that whole text is definitely a different level. So in the span of this 3 months he's had to slow you down several times? Everything he said is definitely right about a Taurus, you can't capture them at best you can walk with them. Right now you have to remove any and all sense of pressure from the equation and the best way to do that is to downgrade your relationship with him to the friend zone. That's if you think you can be his friend sans all the pressure and sans all the sex (I know that parts going to be hard) but its necessary. If you can; I would probably send him something along the lines of:

"Listen this whole thing is new for me and my feelings kind of caught me off guard, for that I apologize. While I really like you and would like for us to grow (keyword here is grow) into more; your friendship means more to me and I really don't want to lose it. I'm around if you ever need a friend." (Something along the lines of this in your own words; don't include the stuff in parenthesis)

Then silence; do not reach out again even if that means forever. Allow him to come to you in his time if he's ever going to do it. And if/when he does BE HIS FRIEND only (if you can handle it). If you guys are meant to be more you will naturally grow into from there. Nothing will be able to stop it. Just remember don't listen to those sweet spontaneous declarations (enjoy them for a moment then cast them away) always keep your pace slow and be prepared to do something you're probably not used to...Be extremely patient. Might want to consider dating other people while you're at it. He shouldn't be the main priority right now. At this point you guys will be starting from scratch and you already have marks against you so he will be extra cautious with you.

I will send something similar to that to him. I am so nervous and just wish we communicated better. I know him well enough to know that if he is done no text will pull him back. Hopefully he has had time to reflect a little and open at some point to being my friend. I just feel like if we are alone the physical attraction will take over because we have an amazing amount of chemistry. I will let you know what he responds with....if anything at all.

Posted by LeoLeo18
I will send something similar to that to him. I am so nervous and just wish we communicated better. I know him well enough to know that if he is done no text will pull him back. Hopefully he has had time to reflect a little and open at some point to being my friend. I just feel like if we are alone the physical attraction will take over because we have an amazing amount of chemistry. I will let you know what he responds with....if anything at all.

Remember these are just my opinions based upon my current experience. My advice would be to go with your gut instinct on what to do next. If you feel like sending a text would cause more harm than good or like you 2 can't honestly be friends than fall back and let the universe do what it will with the 2 of you. I really hope things work out for you. Even it's only for the friendship they usually do come back...some just take longer than others.

Posted by harry99

Posted by bellalove
I need your own personal opinions and/or experiences.. When you find yourself falling in love but have fears of committing due to failed and hurtful relationships from the past.. Do you distance yourself from the person your falling for.. fear of the same thing happening again? How do you deal with this situation?

I pull away big time. I invoke my Gemini Moon and just get real cool and friendly then I cut ties completely.
I'm so over heartbreak... can't deal with it ever again ...or at least not for a very long time.

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Awww poor @harry99. Can't say I don't understand, it's still sad to hear though. sending you e-hugs

You have helped me more than you know! I feel like I should send a text so that he knows that at least I care. On top of being a cookie cutter Taurus he also has emotional/ abandonment issues towards women as he was given up for adoption and has already referred to himself as " mistake. " I have felt an instant desire to take care of him and show him love and he does require affirmation in bed...I should have known better than to show up at the bar. I let my heart lead me there rather than my head. I have been friends with exes before and as much as it would hurt to give up on him at this point I know that if he has wrote me off as a mate there is no changing his mind. I think he has a drinking problem as well due to the fact that I know he spends a couple nights a week at the bar and has built a part of his social group through the bar
(hence meeting me). I really pulled away from going as often as I was just going to spend time with him and found that I really just wanted to spend time with him and not at a bar. Nonetheless, whats done is done. As you said, all I can do is let the universe do what it's going to do. We live in the same small town, frequent the same small bar and I know I will see him again at some point. I know I need to fall off his radar though...if he comes back then even then I have to proceed with extreme caution. Dating sucks......that's probably part of the reason I was with my ex for almost 8 years ( Libra/ Scorpio). This is my first real love interest since I left him nearly 9 months ago. Safe to say.....My Taurus is NOTHING like my Libra/ Scorpio man. Literally polar opposites. Thank you again!

Oh yea if he has all that going on he DEFINITELY needed super slow...He likely wasn't even emotionally ready for a relationship. I'm glad this helped; send the text then move forward with your life. If he wants to be in it, he will find a way when he's ready. If you find yourself back in his good graces remember that you have a scarred bull (aren't they all) so his pre-existing Taurean self-esteem issues are compounded by his other life issues. You've gotta give a guy like that time...loads of time. As slow as you think you should go, go 10x slower than that and you might be at his pace. If you decide to send the text let me know if he responds. Good luck!

I'm curious when is his bday? or do you know his chart?

I totally agree dating blows. I was with my Leo prior to this off and on for 10 yrs. It took me that long to cut each and every tie with that man. Then I spent over a year alone, celibate and healing only to be hit by the mack truck that is a Taurus. Life is a funny thing!

Hey! So text was sent yesterday but no response....I know he may never respond but I feel much better. This one hit me like a truck too! I am avoiding him at all costs and moving on with my life (even though I really don't want to). I know he is really scared and my text was very sincere and friendly. I know in my heart he has feelings for me and sees me for me....but I don't think he has ever really been in love with someone. I on the other have 2 long-term relationships under my belt. At any rate I am hoping that the Bull side of him that hates change will no stay away too long and if he does I know he is done for good. He is a Taurus/ Gemini cusper (which I heard is the worst combo because of the 2 faces of Gemini's). He is like 3 people really; One way at his job, one way at the bar and one way when we are alone at his place. Sorry to hear about your Leo man...I heard the Leo men are the WORST! I am a Leo/ Cancer cusper so I think that takes the edge off of the stereotypical Leo Materialistic/ ego maniac tendencies...but I am def the loyal, lover Lyon and if you come after me I will ROAR and and defend myself. I know Taurus and Leo's are hard in the beginning but if they can communicate well are a great combo given the shared desires to settle down, make a good life and are very family oriented. A huge part of the reason I became so attracted to him. He isn't the most attractive guy, but his morals seemed to make perfect sense to me when we talked and shared things about ourselves and family. I am now in my official crouching Lion stance(again). It will all work out the way it is supposed to I guess.

@ Torro - I think that he may have insecurities for sure about his life style versus mine. I am very athletic and recently starting running 10k's and played on a softball scholarship in college. I thought that this was a connection because he played baseball in high school and was athletic but suffered multiple injuries which prevents him from being as physically active as he once was (I currently am). He told me he wanted to work out together, wanted to add me to his gym membership and pay for me. He told me he wanted to get married at his parents cabin and that he wanted us to have like 4 kids and live on a ranch ( same night he told me he was falling in love with me and felt since the moment he met me we were meant to be and and that he has wanted nothing more than to just be with me, blah, blah, blah. Hence the HUGE confusion in him needing so much space again so shortly after proclaiming all these things to me.....sorry....mini rant. I have done nothing but show him that I care about him. I was actually scared after he said all these things to me because I knew he wasn't ready but he insisted he was telling me the truth and meant all these things. As you know....there is no telling the Bull no or to slow down. ROAR. Should have never gone to the bar...famous last words I guess.

All I know is that you ladies better be careful. For three years my Virgo sis Taurus made up every excuse why he wasnt ready for a relationship.

Last month he reconnected with a highschool ex and it appears via facebook that they are now engaged. All of this within a month and a half of reconnecting.

If a person is too hurt about their past Id think they wouldnt entertain any form of a relationship at all. If he's not "too hurt" to have sex with you or doesnt push you away before sex, he is not too hurt to be committed.

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All I know is that you ladies better be careful. For three years my Virgo sis Taurus made up every excuse why he wasnt ready for a relationship.

Last month he reconnected with a highschool ex and it appears via facebook that they are now engaged. All of this within a month and a half of reconnecting.

If a person is too hurt about their past Id think they wouldnt entertain any form of a relationship at all. If he's not "too hurt" to have sex with you or doesnt push you away before sex, he is not too hurt to be committed.

I'm inclined to agree with you in some cases. However for me I am not looking to be in a full on relationship with my bull just yet. Where we are right now works for me. But I certainly let him know that if he isn't ready when I'm ready then I will take my cue to exit stage left. (And you better believe I'll be ready before year 3) I think as long as both parties are in agreement about where they stand with each other then all you can do is HOPE that something like what happened to your sister doesn't happen. I'm very sorry to hear that by the way; that would break my heart. What a douche! Did he even bother to break things off with her in a proper way? What does his chart look like? I want to compare it to my bull. I'm definitely keeping both eyes open with this guy...but for now I'm happy! One day at a time.

My sister started seeing other people a while back, so she is not heartbroken about it thank goodness. Of course, I personally believe that she would have wanted it to work out with him, but after a while I think she began to close her heart to him. She would occasionally say that she didnt want a relationship with him, but he would say he wasnt financially stable enough for one, so a lot of times Id feel she was protecting herself by claiming she didnt want one either. She made me chuckle about a month and a half ago when she told me they had talked and she was surprised about how open and honest he was for the first time in a long while. She said that they usually would both be on the phone telling eachother lies lol, but he quit fronting for once.

Not sure his chart nor am I sure why I added the last part. I just see that a Taurus, as well as any other man, will move if they feel the need and wont let a good opportunity for them pass. All of that "Im not ready yet" that they seem to do is bs imho.

"All of that "Im not ready yet" that they seem to do is bs imho."

I don't know that I 100% agree with this. I've dated plenty of guys who wanted more before I was ready to give it to them. It's their choice to either wait and date me at my pace or move on. A few waited and we did grow into to more, others moved on and I wasn't mad that they chose to do that. Not everyone's feelings or readiness grows at the same pace. Right now the bull keeps dropping the "L" bomb; I'm not there yet so I can't say it back. I don't think that makes me a full o' crap; I just need more time to for my feelings for him to grow.

There definitely are men (and women for that matter) that will use that "I'm not ready yet" or "I'm too scarred" as a tool to keep themselves from having to commit. I'll let you know if this guy is one of them...lol

Posted by neuroticvirgo
@bellalove I'm seeing a Taurus who's extremely scared from his previous GF cheating on him amongst other things. He openly admits to me that he has major trust issues so when he tells me he trust me it means alot to me.

In his case I notice he'll kind of take 2 steps forward get scared and take 1.5 steps back. Like he'll tell me he is all mine but then a day later he'll get scared and talk about how f'd up he is and act a bit more distant. He's never disappeared (that's more my arena) but I'm starting to get used to his hot/cold behavior. It pretty much goes: Super lovely/romantic day(s) together followed by coldish push me away behavior for a day or so followed by more romantic gestures. It takes some getting used to and is not for the faint of heart. I'm learning to pay attention to the SMALL stuff with him, because that's where the truth seems to be. It's all very subtle: When he walks by me does he touch me? Does he wait for me or walk without me when we're out? Does he stare at me when watching movies? Does he moan like he's in heaven when we cuddle? And little subtle comments that fly right over my head until days later when I'm analyzing everything. That's how I read my bull. I hope this helps!

Would you happen to be a Scorpio lady?
Sounds exactly like my relationship with my Taurus man.

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Posted by neuroticvirgo
@bellalove I'm seeing a Taurus who's extremely scared from his previous GF cheating on him amongst other things. He openly admits to me that he has major trust issues so when he tells me he trust me it means alot to me.

In his case I notice he'll kind of take 2 steps forward get scared and take 1.5 steps back. Like he'll tell me he is all mine but then a day later he'll get scared and talk about how f'd up he is and act a bit more distant. He's never disappeared (that's more my arena) but I'm starting to get used to his hot/cold behavior. It pretty much goes: Super lovely/romantic day(s) together followed by coldish push me away behavior for a day or so followed by more romantic gestures. It takes some getting used to and is not for the faint of heart. I'm learning to pay attention to the SMALL stuff with him, because that's where the truth seems to be. It's all very subtle: When he walks by me does he touch me? Does he wait for me or walk without me when we're out? Does he stare at me when watching movies? Does he moan like he's in heaven when we cuddle? And little subtle comments that fly right over my head until days later when I'm analyzing everything. That's how I read my bull. I hope this helps!

Would you happen to be a Scorpio lady?
Sounds exactly like my relationship with my Taurus man.

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Haha no I'm a Virgo who just happens to have a Scorpio rising raised by a Scorp mom so I know you guys pretty well! How are things with your bull? Good luck they can be challenging...lol

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Neuroticvirgo your advice was spot on - well done 🙂

Gracias chica! As I tell my bull, I'm a learning computer! lol

Alrighty! My Bull is back.....again! We are now going on 6 months of this roller coaster ride. The on and off is getting easier to deal with actually because now when I feel his wall go up I retreat and then let him come back. Which he always does.....seems like I am the one being trained by him :-) He will spot me out and watch me until he is ready to approach. Quite the Hunter this one is. He finally admitted to having high anxiety over an ex and being confused because she sent him a text the same day we went out on Valentines day and it messed him all up. So I told him to just go see her and get it over with already. He claimed he didn't want to do that but I told him if he didn't he would never be able to find out if she is playing games or really misses him. So he went down to San Diego and tried to see her and....low and behold....she blew him off again!!! I knew when he disappeared for 2 weeks that he was either back in the cave or testing out my theory. When we saw each other after he got back he admitted to trying to see her. I wasn't mad I was relieved! Now that I know Bulls have to learn the hard way it was easier to be secure in knowing it would actually help him in realizing that she is gone for good. Not only have they been broken up for 2 years already but she clearly just is playing with his emotions when it suits her to do so. So I asked him, "Have you had enough? Does it feel good to be hurt over and over? Or do you want to actually give yourself a chance at being happy with someone who will treat you with respect and kindness? He was very apologetic; told me how he knows that the best person for him is right in front of him (me) and he really cares about me and that trust and change is very hard for him. All things that I know now that I have studied his sign. I don't even get mad or sad anymore. I know once he is ready it will be game over and I know I can't chase him or force anything. 6 months is a long time but the courtship/ friendship we are building is more important to long term success. I am getting it now. It's not easy(I am a Leo 7/26/82)but the more we separate and come back together it seems to actually be building trust on his end. Hoping we can continue to grow since I know he is slow but steady to commit. Trying to be as patient as this little lion can be :-). BTW- He is a May 17th, 1981; is he a Gemini cusper? I feel like I have some Cancer traits in me that help when fire meets the earth. I want things to work with us.

Now we are off again....Got the famous break up text AGAIN this am. I am going through a death in my family (which he has been checking in with me to see how I am doing all last week. I asked to talk to him on Sunday after he was done with his family because my Uncle ended up passing away and he was suddenly not at all available. So I let it go and this am I woke up to the following message, " Hi. I hope you are doing okay. Sorry but I can't give you what you are looking for between us. I just can't date anyone right now. Can I come by and get my stuff tonight?" I mean....what is this all really about? Seems like if he really cared about me he could have waited a week to get his stuff if he really isn't interested in me? The constant roller coaster is so beyond my understanding. He always comes back and asks for another chance and within weeks does this! The definiton of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I keep on changing the way I react to him and he keeps on pulling the same stunt so am I the crazy one or is he? Are we both just crazy about each other or is he really over it and gonna leave me alone? We go to the same bar and he always hunts me down so I don't know what to even say to him. Do I let him come over to tell me in person?

He will play this game as long as you allow it. His heart is with another person. If your constantly goIng back and forth then he isn't sure about his feelings for you. Don't you want someone who is crazy about you? Not unsure about his feeling for you every week? Men create the back and forth on purpose, never want you getting too comfy.