When a Scorpio goes ices you out

I'm current in a situation with a Scorpio man who has been completely icing me out. He has emotionally abandoned me when I was going thru a situation, but soon found out that his daughter was sick. So I put all of the pain and hurt he caused aside to help him with his daughter. After a week and a half of minimal contact, we were now in touch but the conversation remained causal or about his daughter. Now he has gone cold again. I asked him one last time after the silent treatment if he really wanted me out of his life for good, if he wanted it to be as if I don't exist. He said no, and to put it shortly, he has some "healing" to do.

Can't help but make me feel like I'm nothing but toxic garbage to him, that he has to heal before he can talk to me. I don't understand it and I have a feeling he'll come around after he gets back from his trip to see his kids/friends in a "comfortable" place. We had a rough go the first time bc we met online, but now we've had met twice and he moved to my state- for work.

All I wanted to do was be there for him, but instead I got half truths, bs excuses and some I think were lies - esp when when I called him to apologize for insensitive things I said out of anger in an emotional state. I asked if we could talk later, he said yes but then changed him mind and texted me that his phone was wacky from dropping in the sink. PFFT

I need advise on what I should do if/when he comes back around. He has hurt me and I've forgiven him for it, but he can't trust me he says bc I've been flighty in the past- but this was partly bc we met online. And I don't trust him to where I can express myself emotionally to him, to show any vulnerability bc he abandoned me last time. I forgive him but I won't forget this. I'm concerned bc I have heard that scorps do this multiple times, and that he will pull this shet again with me. I know I can't relive the hurt and pain he caused me.

Help ?

I am sorry you are feeling all this anxiety, but I'm having a hard time understanding how it is that all this drama has occurred and you have only met him IRL (in real life) twice. Do you think it will get any better? I say throw him back.

Posted by Sak1280
We had a rough go the first time bc we met online, but now we've had met twice and he moved to my state- for work.

You met in person twice? Before I got to that information, it sounded like you had a full on real world relationship! If he was this awful to you in the digital world, as you describe, what makes you think it's going to be peaches in the real world? If he does come around, my advice to you is stop with all the expectations. You say you blew him off to deal with your issues, and he's done the same for his daughter's issues. Give it a rest, and see what reality can bring to this relationship if any.

Don't be so hard on yourself. I don't think he sees you like toxic garbage.

If he needs "Healing", for whatever reason, that means he is not available emotionally.

If he called you "flighty", that is not good either.

Detach yourself from him. Why bother anyway? You don't need a man who is unattentive and you certainly do not need a man who doesn't make you feel good about yourself. Especially, in the beginning. It is clue.

Move on.

Posted by Sak1280
I'm current in a situation with a Scorpio man who has been completely icing me out. He has emotionally abandoned me when I was going thru a situation, but soon found out that his daughter was sick. So I put all of the pain and hurt he caused aside to help him with his daughter. After a week and a half of minimal contact, we were now in touch but the conversation remained causal or about his daughter. Now he has gone cold again. I asked him one last time after the silent treatment if he really wanted me out of his life for good, if he wanted it to be as if I don't exist. He said no, and to put it shortly, he has some "healing" to do.

And that's your answer.

Can't help but make me feel like I'm nothing but toxic garbage to him, that he has to heal before he can talk to me. I don't understand it

Nah, you're making your self feel that way. He's clearly stressed out about his daughter, and (from this post) all you're concerned about are your "feelings". Everything is about you and your feelings.

This says it all:

but he can't trust me he says bc I've been flighty in the past- but this was partly bc we met online. And I don't trust him to where I can express myself emotionally to him, to show any vulnerability bc he abandoned me last time.

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So you run away, talk shit to him, and hurt him (and try to just excuse that away/dismiss it), then get all caught up in your own feelings and and wonder why he can't trust you (while he's dealing with a sick child)...talking about you don't understand him...when it's a pattern you started (by your own admission)...

Grow Up.

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Posted by Sak1280
We had a rough go the first time bc we met online, but now we've had met twice and he moved to my state- for work.

You met in person twice? Before I got to that information, it sounded like you had a full on real world relationship!

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Somehow I missed this bit, damn lol. Makes this situation even more ridiculous.

Scorpios are very intense sign. Their ruler is Pluto. They are very secretive, and they feel very very very deeply. Just ask yourself if you really want him in your life. You are lucky he just ignores you, beware, scorpios are very vendictive when they feel you've wronged them.

You should be a doormat for Halloween.


...and Scorps are crazy. I mean, they're cool initially, but once something rubs them the wrong way, look out crazy town. It's ridiculous, really.

I feel in love online once......

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You should be a doormat for Halloween

sorry, but that was hilarious lol

@rocky, crazy town is right. i am an aries and one of my male scorp friends of over 20 years asked me out on a date. it was fun for about 30 minutes. then, he started trying to tell me which alcoholic beverage to drink and what i should order for dessert. i bolted 45 minutes later. he was too controlling.

anyway, to the original poster, go live your life and let him heal. life is too short for the back and forth bs games.

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