Why did he disappear and make no contact? :(

This is about a good friend of mine..who i've known about five years (read the past threads). We get on well, he's maintained contact with me for all this time and through plenty of ups and downs and a couple of breaks and arguments in between but regardless we always manage to get back on track. He likes me.and has made this clear for some time now but this to me isn't the point really as first and foremost we are friends.
I mean the last I spoke to him he was speaking about relationships and marriage, and I think it was all directed at me, so his disappearance now has not made any sense to me.


About two and a half months ago now which was the last we spoke we were on good terms and everything was fine..so he has no reason i would think to be annoyed at me or something..Although at the time i was sort of busy and he did call me a fair few times in the week but i didn't manage to get back to him till a lot later and even then the last conversation it was only for five minutes, so to him i may have appeared to have no time for him which wasn't the case it was just a hectic time for me. I do kind of regret it now though. given the circumstances.
A couple of weeks after the five minute convo i texted him...but he did not receive any of the texts. They were all unsuccessful, I found that odd so i called him only to find out that his number was not connected, it didn't ring and there was no voicemail..so i assumed it had been disconnected. He literally has not changed this number in years so it was a surprise to me. But obviously I thought well i'm sure at some point he will call/message me to let me know what had happened but two months later and nothing..

Also in that time i facebooked him..as this was the only way of contact..and told him i tried to ring him but could not get through..he actually read the message three weeks back now and did not respond at all..

I just can't understand it..i'm not some random person he's known for a week..then i'd understand maybe..i'm someone who he supposedly has been in to for some time now and has been good friends with for years so whats with the silent treatment

If i changed my number or something more or less straight away i'd let all my close friends know and i would think i would be in that group of people to contact first :/

I just don't understand why he would do this. I know how strongly he feels about me and how he wants to marry me and all of that so then why leave me hanging with no answers after his number being disconnected and him knowing i have no way to contact him other than stupid facebook

I've told you several times = the truth

you just blow me off, and once tried to block me .... because you are so absorbed in your ignorance that you cannot handle the truth.


And just as I predicted .. here you are still fucked up over shit



so be it .... suffer as you obviously wish to do, since you won't listen

GO AWAY

from candy10 sent on 5/22/2013 at 3:41:44 PM

WHAT IS IT WITH YOU STALKING ALL MY THREADS AND WRITING A PILE OF CRAP EVRY SINGLE TIME—

ARE YOU ON YOUR MENOPAUSE ?

EITHER THAT OR YOU'RE A MISERABLE OLD COW WITH NO LIFE, IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW MANY YEARS GAP I LEAVE BETWEEN COMING ON TO HERE..THERE YOU'LL STILL BE WITH YOUR NEGATIVE STUPID OPINIONS

TRUTH IS YOU DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS GUY OR ME AND YOU'VE JUST MADE SOME RETARDED ASSUMPTIONS

KNOW THE WHOLE STORY BEFORE YOU JUMP IN..
YOU JUST LOVE TO IMPOSE YOUR MISERY ON TO EVERYONE ELSE

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since you don't have the balls to address me in public, I'll drop this off here

Posted by P-Angel
I've told you several times = the truth

you just blow me off, and once tried to block me .... because you are so absorbed in your ignorance that you cannot handle the truth.


And just as I predicted .. here you are still fucked up over shit



so be it .... suffer as you obviously wish to do, since you won't listen

how is what you say the truth?
its A SUBJECTIVE BIASED OPINION
IF WHAT YOU SAY IS THE TRUTH THEN WHY IS IT THAT A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE ARE NOT SAYING THE SAME AS YOU——

YES I DO WONDER

Posted by P-Angel
GO AWAY

from candy10 sent on 5/22/2013 at 3:41:44 PM

WHAT IS IT WITH YOU STALKING ALL MY THREADS AND WRITING A PILE OF CRAP EVRY SINGLE TIME—

ARE YOU ON YOUR MENOPAUSE ?

EITHER THAT OR YOU'RE A MISERABLE OLD COW WITH NO LIFE, IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW MANY YEARS GAP I LEAVE BETWEEN COMING ON TO HERE..THERE YOU'LL STILL BE WITH YOUR NEGATIVE STUPID OPINIONS

TRUTH IS YOU DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS GUY OR ME AND YOU'VE JUST MADE SOME RETARDED ASSUMPTIONS

KNOW THE WHOLE STORY BEFORE YOU JUMP IN..
YOU JUST LOVE TO IMPOSE YOUR MISERY ON TO EVERYONE ELSE

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since you don't have the balls to address me in public, I'll drop this off here

I DO HAVE THE BALLS TO SAY IT IN PUBLIC ITS JUST EVER SINCE I CAN REMEMBER YOU HAVE LITERALLY SABOTAGED EVERY POSSIBLE THREAD I COULD START

WHY DO YOU HAVE TO COME HERE AND DO THAT? ALL THE TIME??

GET THE HINT MAYBE

Posted by candy10
This is about a good friend of mine..who i've known about five years (read the past threads). We get on well, he's maintained contact with me for all this time and through plenty of ups and downs and a couple of breaks and arguments in between but regardless we always manage to get back on track. He likes me.and has made this clear for some time now but this to me isn't the point really as first and foremost we are friends.
I mean the last I spoke to him he was speaking about relationships and marriage, and I think it was all directed at me, so his disappearance now has not made any sense to me.


About two and a half months ago now which was the last we spoke we were on good terms and everything was fine..so he has no reason i would think to be annoyed at me or something..Although at the time i was sort of busy and he did call me a fair few times in the week but i didn't manage to get back to him till a lot later and even then the last conversation it was only for five minutes, so to him i may have appeared to have no time for him which wasn't the case it was just a hectic time for me. I do kind of regret it now though. given the circumstances.
A couple of weeks after the five minute convo i texted him...but he did not receive any of the texts. They were all unsuccessful, I found that odd so i called him only to find out that his number was not connected, it didn't ring and there was no voicemail..so i assumed it had been disconnected. He literally has not changed this number in years so it was a surprise to me. But obviously I thought well i'm sure at some point he will call/message me to let me know what had happened but two months later and nothing..

Also in that time i facebooked him..as this was the only way of contact..and told him i tried to ring him but could not get through..he actually read the message three weeks back now and did not respond at all..

I just can't understand it..i'm not some random person he's known for a week..then i'd understand maybe..i'm someone who he supposedly has been in to for some time now and has been good friends with for years so whats with the silent treatment

If i changed my number or something more or less straight away i'd let all my close friends know and i would think i would be in that group of people to contact first :/

You know why, cuz this nigga's a fuckin' asshole 🙂. Fuck him n do you.

"You know why, cuz this nigga's a treetrunkin' marker . treetrunk him n do you."

lol @ pisces princess....
do you really think so?because opinion has been so divided with people blaming my aloofness and distance for him disappearing now...

great..i've already not done me and ended up messaging him asking if hes ok and to get back to me...but that was out of genuine concern thinking something bad had happened with his phone disconnecting and all..

so now hes gonna think im all caught up

another PM

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whatever lol

from candy10 sent on 5/22/2013 at 5:55:35 PM

post what you like where ever you like..

you're insignificant really ... as much as what you do so
you're only proving my points ...

plus there have been people who have messaged me telling me how much of a weirdo you are

act your age not. your shoe size...you're old enough to be my grandmother.

for real, just leave him alone.
that whole situation is not good for your health.

Leave the guy alone!

If like you say he wants more and you are not willing to give it then isn't it just plain selfish of you to keep him stringing along?? Let him go and he will find someone to give his time to, someone that really appreciates him as a friend, lover and even husband!

You're not really a friend treating him like this!

You're holding on to a fantasy. If this were gonna work, it would have worked 4 1/2 years ago. At some point you gotta ask yourself why you're holding on to a guy whose not "on it like white on rice." Let go and move on, hon. There's nothing here but old memories and wishful thinking. You won't attract the love you seek until you let go of this man and the past. Good luck!

Love, if it hasn't happened now then it's not going to happen in the future...what so you are just going to turn on your feelings of love for this guy when you haven't got anyone else better??

If you consider yourself a friend, a real friend, then let him go and let him find someone that truly wants him. You obviously don't and why should he wait around indefinitely for someone that will never fully be committed to him. And no, you don't have any right whatsoever of being able to know what is going on in his life. Your not his mother!

What you are suggesting and the way you think is purely "SELFISHNESS" meaning it's all about you and to hell with what he is going through!

I remember you now, I answered you once before and then you abused me through PM because you don't like the feedback..

You really need to open your eyes a little wider, I understand you are young but you can't be that young dumb and selfish..or can you?

You know what you should try...try reversing the situation and put yourself in his shoes...bet you wouldn't like it!

Is this the same man that chased you for 2 years and whom you basically blew off that whole time? and whom you then decided you wanted when he gave up? Wouldn't this be why he has disappeared and made no contact?

What P-Angel is saying is the truth and other people are saying the same as her, you are just choosing not to hear it.

Im not sure what your previous threads were but ill be honest. Being a victim of stupidity much like this where a guy tells you crap and then vanishes, hes just not interested. OR he's found something else for the time being. Believe me I know it sucks. I know you want to believe the things he told you are true. But if they were he would have made it happen, you two would be together. I think hes doing it to leave a line on you the whole bait and catch, give you just enough to keep you wondering and when things don't work out with someone he REALLY likes, he reels you in. Do yourself a favor and take him out of your phone, facebook, everything. There are like how many men in this world? The fact that youre wasting your time on someone who isnt serious about you sucks. Shit I know ive been there. Someone else will do what he doesnt. Save your effort for a man who deserves it. Moral of the story here is if he was serious you two would be together by now. Plain and simple. I had to accept that fact too with some of the guys I really liked. Playing games was their thing. Close the book and move on you owe it to yourself to free up some time for a man who actually wants to get to know you.

And P-Angel cut some people a break. I swear quit riding peoples asses so hard. Calm down.

Posted by Xin
Moral of the story here is if he was serious you two would be together by now. Plain and simple. I had to accept that fact too with some of the guys I really liked. Playing games was their thing. Close the book and move on you owe it to yourself to free up some time for a man who actually wants to get to know you.

And P-Angel cut some people a break. I swear quit riding peoples asses so hard. Calm down.

The problem here is he was serious and let her know for at least 2 years, she played the games not him, so now he is gone - the man who wanted to get to know her.

OHHHHHH.....Okay. Yeah im not sure what happened previously. Well then.

Posted by celticlioness

Posted by Xin
Moral of the story here is if he was serious you two would be together by now. Plain and simple. I had to accept that fact too with some of the guys I really liked. Playing games was their thing. Close the book and move on you owe it to yourself to free up some time for a man who actually wants to get to know you.

And P-Angel cut some people a break. I swear quit riding peoples asses so hard. Calm down.

The problem here is he was serious and let her know for at least 2 years, she played the games not him, so now he is gone - the man who wanted to get to know her.

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but he could be playing her now because she played him before....men are all about conquering....maybe he just wanted to conquer. and now that he knows he has he moved on...what ever the reason is, its better to start moving on from this point instead of driving yourself crazy wiht that whats and whys.

Posted by Xin
Im not sure what your previous threads were but ill be honest. Being a victim of stupidity much like this where a guy tells you crap and then vanishes, hes just not interested. OR he's found something else for the time being. Believe me I know it sucks. I know you want to believe the things he told you are true. But if they were he would have made it happen, you two would be together. I think hes doing it to leave a line on you the whole bait and catch, give you just enough to keep you wondering and when things don't work out with someone he REALLY likes, he reels you in. Do yourself a favor and take him out of your phone, facebook, everything. There are like how many men in this world? The fact that youre wasting your time on someone who isnt serious about you sucks. Shit I know ive been there. Someone else will do what he doesnt. Save your effort for a man who deserves it. Moral of the story here is if he was serious you two would be together by now. Plain and simple. I had to accept that fact too with some of the guys I really liked. Playing games was their thing. Close the book and move on you owe it to yourself to free up some time for a man who actually wants to get to know you.

And P-Angel cut some people a break. I swear quit riding peoples asses so hard. Calm down.

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