Would you tell your boyfriend....

when guys are hittin on you.. or if guys are asking your friend if you are committed?

Here's the thing.. I'm in a relationship with a Leo and theres an incident that makes me avoid any talk about guys.. I used to chat alot with some guy friend and my bf noticed and was quiet for a month or so.. until one day he asked me about him and I told him we are just friends.. he mentioned how i talk for hours with him and how its not normal.. (he was right though.. that guy was sneaky.. ) anyway we had a huge argument and i ended up telling him that i'll cut all contact with him, which i did.. (the guy was expecting it anyway.. and im not sad about it.. it was starting to get weird)..

I always talk with my bf about how my day went but i find myself excluding situations that involve guys asking if im single or any situation that involves a guy doing anything for me..

I read posts on how jealousy turn leo men on.. but with my experience ..its more like jealousy turned him into a beast for a day.. hes usually very gentle though..

what would you girls do? tell him or not? .. and what do you guys think when your girl tells you about someone? even if you know how loyal she is.. or how she told you she turned him down? will it make you feel she is more loyal or not??

If my guy had issues in the past with a guy or two, then I would try to tell him about any future incidents so he doesn't think I'm hiding anything. I don't support habitual insecurities, but if he were only this way occasionally, then I would want him to feel secure. Especially if it turned out he was right to be iffy about someone before. If I have friendships with guys and my guy doesn't like that, too bad for him unless the friend tries to come on to me or if I think it's a possibity.

Posted by Scenic
If my guy had issues in the past with a guy or two, then I would try to tell him about any future incidents so he doesn't think I'm hiding anything. I don't support habitual insecurities, but if he were only this way occasionally, then I would want him to feel secure. Especially if it turned out he was right to be iffy about someone before. If I have friendships with guys and my guy doesn't like that, too bad for him unless the friend tries to come on to me or if I think it's a possibity.

how would you make him feel secure? .. when i thought of telling him it was bec. i want him to know my reaction to such situations .. im insanely loyal and i want him to know that.. and feel secure about it

I tend to think.. he might think im tellin him to make him jealous or something. but its not for that reason ofcourse.. cause if he tries to make me jealous..it will turn against him

He knows I'm not the kind of person to try to make him jealous. If I was worried about it though, it's as simple as explaining why you're saying it. Some people who aren't quite mature or as understanding may take such talk the wrong way no matter what, but I haven't had to deal with those types

I wouldn't tell. Might come across as being a bit manipulative I think..?
I just shut down any and all inappropriate approaches from other blokes and my guy needs to trust that's what I'm doing.
Cos I am, and he shouldn't be concerned, which means he doesn't need to know -
and I operate on a 'need to know basis' as a general rule.

You need to find another way to show that you are loyal to him, telling him about other guys hitting on your is counter productive to the result you wish for

He doesn't like it and I wouldn't either if I were him...

Figure out a better way to convey your loyalty..sharing that every lil guy wanted to talk to you or tried is not it...

I see why he is not pleased with that..its a complete turn off

My ex and I would occasionally tell one another when others hit on us, but neither of us are the jealous type, and we weren't trying to show value/get a reaction or prove anything. It was mostly just something for us to joke and laugh about.

If you find that your BF doesn't react too well to guys hitting on you, then there's no real need to tell him about it. You should be perfectly capable of thwarting off those advances anyway, so he has no reason to be concerned. If you two have been dating for a while, then your loyalty should already be apparent to him by now. I would only bring it up if you feel like it's getting out of hand.

Posted by Fleshpot
My ex and I would occasionally tell one another when others hit on us, but neither of us are the jealous type, and we weren't trying to show value/get a reaction or prove anything. It was mostly just something for us to joke and laugh about.

If you find that your BF doesn't react too well to guys hitting on you, then there's no real need to tell him about it. You should be perfectly capable of thwarting off those advances anyway, so he has no reason to be concerned. If you two have been dating for a while, then your loyalty should already be apparent to him by now. I would only bring it up if you feel like it's getting out of hand.

yeh it was like that with my ex Libra.... we just laughed about it.. well it should be obvious that im loyal but his jealousy makes me doubt that he knows how faithful i am.. i wish i could know somehow

Posted by kalin
If my beau was a Leo? Then no. They hate that.

yeah well I decided to keep it that way and not say anything... to be honest I dont care if he knows how loyal I am.. I dont know what made me want to "prove" it.. but I dont need to prove anything anymore


Thanks all for comments

I don't like jealous, insecure men. I wouldn't date someone who gets their knickers in a twist over who talked to me. I'm not a flirt and I keep my word. I've never given a boyfriend something to be worried about. I also wouldn't tell a boyfriend about a guy hitting on me. Men hitting on women are a dime a dozen. Who cares?