3SOMES

Just curious..how do you guys feel about 3-somes?

1. Let's say you were in a committed relationship..would you be okay if your partner asked you to engage in a 3-some?
-If so, would you have any rules/specifications about it? (For example, must be a person you both know)OR (Must be with 2 women instead of 2 guys) OR ("My partner can only touch/do certain things to the 3rd person"
-Would it depend on how long you've been with your partner?

If NOT, why not?
-Do you see 3-somes as a "Free cheating" pass?

Have any of you had any bad 3-some experiences?

-Even if you're NOT in a current relationship and/or never been asked to have a 3-some, how do you think you'd respond/react if this was asked of you?

I've met so many women/men who are willing to have 3-somes for different reasons:
1. To please/fulfill their partner's fantasies
2. B/c they see this as a way to still experiment & to live out all the fantasies they didn't get the chance to live out when they were single
3. And many more!

I've also met so many women/men who've had HORROR stories about the 3-somes they've engaged in for different reasons:
1. Strong jealous and/or insecurity became a problem AFTER the 3-some from either partner's side
2. 1 or both partners continued to engage in sexual relations with the 3rd person even after the 3-some was over, which could be strongly considered as cheating.

I'm just really curious to know how you guys feel about it, whether you're single or not.

@Sea: Def. understandable. Personally, I'd prefer my partner get certain fantasies (cough: 3-some) fulfilled & out of the way before he commits to me. Behind every fantasy is a deep deep desire & it's kind of confusing to me that you can be committed to someone but yet have a deep deep desire to share your goodies with someone else, even for just 1 night.
I personally don't like "Sharing" either & I'd feel that way whether I'd heard all the horror stories or not.

And plus, there's always the notion that it'd only make sense (moreso for SAFTEY reasons) to engage in such an activity with someone my partner & I BOTH already knew. It'd be quite strange to go out one day & have my partner pick out a random woman to bring back to our house & "Play" with, & especially considering there'd have to be a tremendous amount of trust there for my partner AND for the 3rd person. Even though I can trust my man not to engage in any further sexual relations with the 3rd person, I still wouldn't want to have to worry about the other person & their intentions/motives, persay they liked the 3-some a little "too much."...so much so that they want more. THAT is what I wouldn't want to deal with. In other words, I wouldn't want to start something I couldn't finish and/or open up a can of worms.

I've heard far more horror stories than good. And idc what people say about "Trust." There is nothing cute/satisfying (in my opinon) about seeing my man all over another woman. That wouldn't be fun whether I trusted my partner 100% or not. Just b/c you trust someone doesn't mean that there aren't things that could potentially bother you.

From what I've heard, 3-some are either the start OR the further progress of insecurities within a relationship. It'd wouldn't even be that I wouldn't trust him, it'd be moreso that I wouldn't know if I'd be able to trust "her" afterwards. And that's why choosing someone both my partner & I know could be a curse in disguise, b/c sometimes 3-somes ruin relationships just like rooming with buddies does, for example. It just never seems to work out

"Usually though, if there are restrictions it reveals insecurities that will lead to drama one way or the other"

I completely agree. If 2 people are going to agree to engage in a 3-some, there's no point in having a list full of rules, in which doing so will almost take the fun out of things. If there are a whole bunch of restrictions (all geared to decrease future insecurity) then that couple would be better off just sparing themselves the trouble & NOT having the 3-some.

A friend of mine's boyfriend asked her if she'd be comfortable having a 3-some with his ex girlfriend. Of course, my advise to her was to not only say NO but to also escape a relationship with any man whose trying to use his desire to fulfill his fantasies as a cover up for still wanting to fulfill his ex!

Another friend of mine actually agreed to have a 3-some with a mutual friend of theirs. She claimed she was "down" but yet her list of restrictions & rules were that her man 1. Couldn't touch the other female & 2. Damn sure couldn't sleep with her. In this case, I felt like her agreeing to the 3-some in the 1st place was a complete waste of time. Not being able to touch all parties involved completely DEFEATS the purpose of the THREE-some (Keyword: THREE)!

The only threesome I'll be participating in is Me+Pregnant Wife. 😉

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
I was a redhead when I met my ex,he was a sucker for blondes too until then 😉
not sure if it's the red or the aries in me.either way....watch yo sef 🙂

You know, I like reddies but...I keep getting into these ultra-realistic dreams with a brunette.

Shaka his teeny bober and his dream of doing one of my sheep

By the way they are all sold to a farmer over the wye, he will pick them up saturday.

Threesome? Three words. OH HELL NAW!

i've been asked by a number of different friends to be in threesomes. i think mostly because they know i'm bi so they figure i'd be down. i've been in one, but it was kind of spontaneous and it was with two friends, non of us were involved with the other. me and my bf have talked about it, when it comes down to it, i'm just not into sharing the person i'm intimately involved with, nor do i really want to be with anyone else. i think it's easier and more fun to have one when no one is attached to either participating party.

Posted by cancergem
i've been asked by a number of different friends to be in threesomes. i think mostly because they know i'm bi so they figure i'd be down. i've been in one, but it was kind of spontaneous and it was with two friends, non of us were involved with the other. me and my bf have talked about it, when it comes down to it, i'm just not into sharing the person i'm intimately involved with, nor do i really want to be with anyone else. i think it's easier and more fun to have one when no one is attached to either participating party.

i feel the same way. i've done the threesome thing, and it was a good experience. however, it was also when i was single. the thought completely goes out the window when it comes to being in a rel for me. i don't want to have sex with anyone else but my S.O. i also don't like the idea of sharing.

Best way to do this is with two people you will neeeeveeeer see again.

^^Sounds like a trip to Hedonism Resorts, Sea Siren 😉 LOL!
GO there, do what you like, and NEVAH' EVAH' see those people again!

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I'll book a room for you Bella. I, of course, am merely researching for informational purposes. ::ahem::

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Posted by Sea Siren
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Of course, but a view of what pray tell— 😉
I'm going next year.

Posted by Sea Siren
I'll book a room for you Bella. I, of course, am merely researching for informational purposes. ::ahem::

Riiiiiiiiiigght! I hear ya' Sea Siren.

But see this is what I don't understand sometimes. People are SO quick to use the line, "Well if you trust your partner, it shouldn't matter" but yet when it comes down to 3-somes, all potential trust goes out of the window.

Technically, a woman would have to TRUST that her man would only see a 3-some as a 1 night experience/fantasy vs. a free way/cover up for him to get away with sleeping with/messing around sexually with another woman. What happend to women who claimed it was all about being "secure," and/or "trusting" their man to respect whatever boundary lines are put into place?! I mean hey, I'm not for 3-somes at ALL, & especially not during a committed relationship. But come on, if you really think about it, it's probably alot easier to handle your man having a 3-some with someone else vs. him actually cheating on you b/c atleast 1. You'll get to see everything that goes down (vs. having to assume & figure out all the whos, what's, when's, where's & why's persay he actually cheated). Atleast during a 3-some you can clearly see the body language/tone of all those who participate vs. your man/woman cheating, & having/trying to figure out those very same things later on once the cheating has been discovered.

I posted a similar topic about "Bachelor/Bachelorette" parties earlier & so many people gave me bullshxt speeches about what it means to TRUST your partner & be SECURE with self & with the relationship. I kept hearing, "Well if I can't trust my partner to do the right thing, then I wouldn't even be with them." Welp, doesn't the same apply in regards to a 3-some. Men, committed or not naturally lust over other women; sure they may not get the chance to actually put those lustious thoughts into actions necessarily BUT everything a man can do during a 3-some are the very things he can do in his own head (OR behind someone's back). Technically, a woman should be SECURE & TRUSTING enough to feel/know that her man won't abandon her or betray the boundary lines put into place no matter WHAT! It's amazing that I'm not really hearing the "trust" speeches as much on this topic even though it involves she same scenarios: A man being put in an usual and/or "out of the norm" environment

Point being..if you can't even trust that:
1. Your relationship will survive a 3-some
2. Your partner will respect the boundary lines (And the good thing about 3-somes is that your'e RIGHT There, so it's not like your partner would be able to defy you w/o you finding out anyways), etc., then WHY be with someone that you feel will immediately do you wrong and/or disrespect any boundary lines once he/she's put in an unusual environment?

After all, a man can see beautiful women all the time around him and/or be put into temptatious situations, BUT if it's about trust then technically most women wouldn't/shouldn't have to worry about their relationship crumbling after a 3-some. If a man knows his woman's worth & truly values the relationship, he will NOT mess that up and/or do the unthinkable after the 3-some, like continuing to engage in sexual relations with the 3rd person, for example. If it's about trust & being secure, a woman shouldn't/wouldn't have to worry about a sex/mutual friend being a potential risk to your relationship. And if that 3rd person IS a risk to the relationship, then so would that person's ex girlfriend/boyfriend and/or ANYONE that has the potential to knock someone out of their normal mindset the minute they are placed in an abstract environment.

^^^ 🙂 I'm actually going for business (not THAT kind of business 🙂 ), but I will somehow be able to have a little fun I'm sure 😉

@ OP - I, personally, don't think most people (male or female) can be in a 3some situation, and I don't really see the correlation between a bachelor party and a 3some, as a bachelor party is just that, a party; whereas, presumably, both people have agreed to be a part of a 3some, at least initially. I don't have too much more to add to that.

Let me restate, I don't think most people in a relationship can be in a 3some situation. Casual situations where there are no definitive relationships between any of the parties, yes, I think it can (and is done - quite often actually), but for men or women in relationships, I think that for the most part there is just too much insecurity/jealousy (as proven by the statements in this thread and the bachelor/bachelorette party thread), etc that will eventually come out which would not make this a good proposition for most people regardless of the sex. Just my opinion, regardless of what my personal beliefs may be on the matter, as I'm speaking in generalities.

Let's put it this way. I'd either have some damned fine mulch, or I'd make the suggestion that his '3some' could be a bottle of lotion, his hand, and a towel.

😉

@USC: I agree. In life there is 1. How we SHOULD/supposed to be & then there's the reality 2. How things REALLY are. We can talk all day about trusting your partner and/or being secure with yourself & partner but the reality though is that there are certain things that are considered big No-Nos for certain types of circumstances, like 2 people in a relationship for example.

Sure there are plenty of 3-some stories that turned out okay/good, BUT there is a REASON committed couples trying to engage in 3-somes have such a bad name. Sure, we're taught as women to trust & to not entertain jealousy BUT reality says though that jealousy is in fact VERY real & that sometimes it even shows up within the most securest person.

There's a philosophy that says it's okay to be jealous/insecure in certain situations. And in my opinion, I wish a man WOULD consider me crazy/too insecure all b/c I didn't think him sharing his body with another woman/man in front of me was persay "cute." There are natural-born insecurities that often started in childhood & then there are the insecuries that can be born at any second during the relationship if certain emotions/forms of disrespect are provoked. A woman might be VERY secure in her relationship & with herself before a 3-some, but I couldn't even knock a woman who completely lost that sense of security AFTER engaging in a 3-some with her partner. I couldn't even knock her. If anything, I'd be quite concerned if my man was okay with me being all over and/or sleeping with another guy & ESPECIALLY right in front of him.

People don't realize that the magnitude for which 3-somes can be so hurtful to relationships is b/c the sexual activity is done RIGHT THERE in everyone's face. When a man cheats, yes his woman will maybe even want to know some "details" BUT, it's a completely different story if she was standing there watching the whole time vs. having to IMAGINE What happend through way of someone's version of what happend. Even in regards to cheating, women act like they can handle the "details" but most really can't, thus to a woman who didn't realize she couldn't handle the 3-some until after it was too late, is literally torturing herself by sitting there & literally WATCHING her man sex down another woman.

Prob. is so many people convince themselves that they can "handle it" b/c society says they are SUPPOSED To be able to trust and/or be secure. BUT REALITY says, yeah right. Only a select few can

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It sucks even more that so many men/women don't even REALIZE they couldn't handle the 3-some until after it's over/too late. But yet before the 3-some he/she had to gas herself up & convince herself of all those "Oh I trust my partner completely" or "I can def. handle this" lines..kind of like having to take drugs or a sip of alcohol in order to fully be content in doing something. It's bull.

I can't deny that there are clearly success stories in regards to couples who've engaged in 3-somes & especially those couples who've done so MANY times. And then there's always the creed that if those kinds of couples break up later on down the road, it always makes you wonder if them having 3-somes contributed to why the relationship didn't work out.

I think it's fairly okay to NOT be okay with your partner loving down another woman, not only behind your back, but damn sure not in front of you! It hurts for most of us to imagine our partners doing that kind of "loving" BEHIND our backs. Good lord, I don't think I'd be able to see straight if I had to sit there & witness it going on in my face & ESPECIALLY since all parties are supposed to go "all out" in making sure everyone is satisfied.

That's why I don't believe couples who have all these "rules" should even have 3-somes. If the only way you'd be okay with your man/woman having a 3-some is if they can BARELY do/touch anything/anybody, then that completely DEFEATS The purpose of having the 3-some. If a couple can't go all out AND be 100% content in their partners pleasing someone else (I.E. THREE-some) then it's not even worth "testing" the waters by agreeing to the 3-some, just to later regret it. That's a BIG risk a couple would be taking. After all, whether or not you can handle it or not could make/break your relationship

And I DEF. don't support women/men who ONLY engage in 3-somes b/c it's their partner's fantasy. Boowho! A relationship is about TWO people & if 1 person isn't okay with something, there's this thing called sacrifice. And if the only way my man would be sexually content with me is b/c he's allowed to share himself with other women, even if just 1 time, then It'd be fair to say I'm with the WRONG person. Unless BOTH people have a deep desire/100% contentment in having a 3-some, I don't think 3-somes are healthy for any relationship.

A friend of mine was asked by her man to have a 3-some. She swore up & down she was only doing it b/c she was pleasing her man & didn't want him to think she wasn't down for going all out to sexually please him. My response? OH BULL! This is where the "If your man asked you to jump off a bridge too, would you do it?" creed comes into play. My partner can have desires/fantasies ALL DAY LONG BUT if I'm not okay with fulfilling some of those fantasies, I'd hope that he'd be okay & wouldn't lose any sleep over them. There's pleasing your man as in "Honey, dinner's ready" & THEN there's pleasing your man as in "Ok honey I'll sleep with a complete stranger just to make you happy." O give me a break! I can't knock ANYONE who feels that having a 3-some would be sexually fun/entertaining, BUT when it comes down to reality, most couples (BOTH partners) can't really handle it. And I say that b/c there's a very HIGH chance that 1 or both partners will come out of the experience either 1. Extremely jealous 2. Extremely insecure 3. NOT satisified (And ESPECIALLY if it wasn't their OWN idea)

Well, all I can say is that for those parties who engage in a threesome and then come out on the short end of the stick later on, it's their own bed, and they have to sleep in it. If two consenting adults go into a situation, and then later come out hating their decision, then that's a problem they will have to deal with. Regardless if he/she did it to "make the other one happy" or not, if they can't deal with the realities associated with the actions, then they probably shouldn't do it, but that being said, if we are dealing with adults, then they have no one else to blame about the outcome but themselves. I'm not the moral police to tell people how to live their lives, and as I've said a long time ago in respect to FWB's and now this threesome thread, I really don't think (most) women are emotionally equipped to deal with these kinds of situations; which, again, are reflected by the responses that most of the women are expressing in this thread and others that are similar to this one. It's not my place, nor do I care to pass judgement for those who are for or against a threesome or any other sexual proclivities, the only time I will get indignant is when a grown a $ $ person tries to complain about the outcome of a situation that they had every opportunity NOT to engage in, but for whatever reason, they decided to do so. If you are an adult, then you need to act as such, and sometimes that means being slapped in the face by the realities of life. I don't believe in making excuses; people need to be accountable for their actions and if they make poor/incorrect/bad choices, then sometimes they just have to live with those choices/decisions, and learn from them and move to live another day, and hopefully NOT continue to make the same poor/incorrect/bad choices.

*side note: I'm not intending to imply that all men are chomping at the bit to have a threesome or that a man wouldn't be jealous/insecure; however, a large majority of men (and this is a known fact) do NOT view sex in the same fashion as a woman. Meaning, there are a lot of men who can have sex with a woman they don't like and don't have ANY intention of ever having a serious relationship with; however, a large majority of women go into initial sexual encounters hoping/wishing/praying/expecting that the inevitable outcome will be a relationship. *

@USC: "however, a large majority of men (and this is a known fact) do NOT view sex in the same fashion as a woman. Meaning, there are a lot of men who can have sex with a woman they don't like and don't have ANY intention of ever having a serious relationship with"

Exactly. And THIS is where the problem starts. Women & men can sometimes look at sex from completely different angles. And since women see sex as something that deprives from the emotions, they can only naturally assume that if their man has sex with another woman, (3-some) that he will naturally react/attach his emotions to it, in the same ways SHE might..thus this is where the fear of a man continuing to engage in sexual relations with the 3rd person comes from.

And hey, it's true that sometimes men end up continuing on the fling much later after the 3-some behind their partner's back, BUT if this is the case, there's a chance that he was either 1. Already cheating before the 3-some OR 2. Already knew he was going to want to continue sleeping with the 3rd person before/after the 3-some. And in either case, it isn't the 3-some that can break relationships; it's the 2 people within the relationship not being willing to respect any boundary lines/their partner who make/break their own relationships

I also respect any individuals and/or couples who feel comfortable & content with having 3-somes. Hey, whatever floats their boat. What might work for 1 couple might completely destroy another. The same goes for polygamy; some couples actually claim to strive off of engaging in mutliple sex acts with others and/or even mutliple relationships OUTSIDE of their main relationship.

Me personally? Not something I'm into or can see myself consenting to, but hey for every 1,000 people with 3-some horror stories, there are another 1,000 people with success stories. If my man asked me to have a 3-some, I wouldn't "pretend" to be any more secure than I already am. If I'm uncomfortable with it, the answer is NO. If I know I couldn't handle it UP FRONT, I'd make that point very clear/known instead of allowing him to pressure me into something that only HE will probably benefit from, thus to only regret it later.

I'm quite aware that alot of men can have sex with a woman & not attach a single emotion to it. But see, that's not my main fear. Sure, my man growing emotionally/sexually attached to another woman while he's with me would completely SUCK, but even him having a 1-night stand with a woman, whether I'm there to watch it or not, would hurt the same.

I hate to see the couples who only THINK they can handle 3-somes, only to finally be honest with themselves LATER when it's too late. The woomen that I've met who've consented to having 3-somes just to later regret doing so, always & conveinantly love to say, "I should've trusted my gut." In other words, AFTER it's all said & done/too late, is WHEN they finally decide to be honest about their feelings in how they knew up front they couldn't handle it. I'd be quite upset if my partner sat & watched me consent to something he knew good & damn well I wasn't okay with, all for the sake of his own personal gain.

Posted by krysrenee7
I also respect any individuals and/or couples who feel comfortable & content with having 3-somes. Hey, whatever floats their boat. What might work for 1 couple might completely destroy another. The same goes for polygamy; some couples actually claim to strive off of engaging in mutliple sex acts with others and/or even mutliple relationships OUTSIDE of their main relationship.

Me personally? Not something I'm into or can see myself consenting to, but hey for every 1,000 people with 3-some horror stories, there are another 1,000 people with success stories. If my man asked me to have a 3-some, I wouldn't "pretend" to be any more secure than I already am. If I'm uncomfortable with it, the answer is NO. If I know I couldn't handle it UP FRONT, I'd make that point very clear/known instead of allowing him to pressure me into something that only HE will probably benefit from, thus to only regret it later.

I'm quite aware that alot of men can have sex with a woman & not attach a single emotion to it. But see, that's not my main fear. Sure, my man growing emotionally/sexually attached to another woman while he's with me would completely SUCK, but even him having a 1-night stand with a woman, whether I'm there to watch it or not, would hurt the same.

I hate to see the couples who only THINK they can handle 3-somes, only to finally be honest with themselves LATER when it's too late. The woomen that I've met who've consented to having 3-somes just to later regret doing so, always & conveinantly love to say, "I should've trusted my gut." In other words, AFTER it's all said & done/too late, is WHEN they finally decide to be honest about their feelings in how they knew up front they couldn't handle it. I'd be quite upset if my partner sat & watched me consent to something he knew good & damn well I wasn't okay with, all for the sake of his own personal gain.

You've just described the movie "Indecent Proposal." They thought they made a collective decision, but in the end they couldn't live with that decision. Again, people need to be accountable for their actions. Sometimes it will work out and sometimes it won't, so they will have to accept responsibility for whatever part they played in the results. Whether they were a willing participant or a passive aggressive "I'll do it because he/she wants too," that was a decision they made and they must live with th

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I just said they must live with the consequences. Good, bad or ugly. We all must live with decisions we make, and I'm not just talking about relationships. Sometimes they are good decisions and sometimes they are not, it's called life.

@USC: Oh isn't that the joy of life. lol. Sometimes we can prevent ourselves from jumping into potentially BAD situations by merely watching others fall flat on their faces. Kind of like the crack cocaine example. Why would I try crack after seeing how it CLEARLY messes up lives & everyone in it. This is the perfect example of how there are certain things I don't even have to try in order to get the point and/or learn to stay away from it.

And then there are the bad situations that we all can't necessarily see coming UNTIL we actually get to that point (of no return). And in some cases, some women might've had 3-somes with ex boyfriends in the past & had NO problems, BUT the minute they try to live out the same fantasies with persay their actual HUSBAND (someone they love deeply), things change. Sometimes 1 thing might've worked for us in our early years, but later on that same thing might hinder/destroy us. Some women/men might not've experienced jealousy or the ruin of a relationship when they had prior 3-somes with semi-serious partners, BUT oh boy the minute they try to live out the same fantasy with someone they want to be with long-term, things can sometimes change.

It's all about the RISKS each couple takes. It's all about what each couple could potentiallY LOSE if certain decisions are made. Some people know up front & good & damn well that they can't handle having 3-somes. But just like with alot of other issues in their relationships, they'll suppress their true LACK of desire to do so, assuming that if they just "get it over with" those suppressed intuitions/gut will magically float away. If a person is NOT 100% content with having a 3-some BEFOREhand, there's a 99% chance that some form of regret and/or negative changes in the relationship will occur. I encourage people to just be honest & 100% upfront with themselves.

Sharing your body with someone else OUTSIDE of your relationship shouldn't be a matter of being "loyal" to your partner. And I say this especially towards the women who only agree to have 3-somes b/c it's their partner's supposed biggest fantasy. Ha. Screw that. He better come up with something different that involves only the TWO of us or he can get gone! If he wants something truly long-term with me he's gonna have to learn how to have fun & find contentment with just the TWO of us anways

@ Krys - I get what you are saying; however, by letting people know the pros and cons of a situation (some of which can mean death) does not deter people from making decisions of their own volition. I also don't necessarily think that people should just always take other peoples words for things, because then they wouldn't be living their life. If people learned from watching other people make mistakes there wouldn't be so many children that were born from unprotected sex, because presumably they would have learned from that first person/friend/family member that this happend too. There wouldn't be any people in jail, because presumably the first person who robbed a bank, etc, would have been the poster child for others to follow in the "what not to do category." There wouldn't be players because the first time they "stung" their first "victim", they would have been blacklisted and ostracized by others. The point is, all of these things are possible because people DON'T watch what has happened to others and then try to stay away from it; they think they are somehow above this happening to them, and that's fine, but they must be willing to live with the outcome too. I'm sure the first crack/cocaine/heroine addicts probably didn't think that they would become junkies. Just like the girl and guy who had unprotected sex would never think in a million years that they would have an unplanned pregnancy. We are all humans and make mistakes. We can be as careful as we want to be and live our lives to whatever standards we have set for ourselves, but we will ALWAYS make mistakes and oftentimes poor choices. Fortunately, most choices don't cause sudden death, but everybody has to live their lives to whatever degree they deem necessary, and again, sometimes they will lose some things that are near and dear to them because of sheer stupidity, but I bet they will learn a valuable lesson from that experience and hopefully NOT make the same mistakes again. If a person has a threesome and then realizes they really DIDN'T want to do it and they lose their person to the other participant, then they will be forewarned and should learn that maybe they shouldn't participate in that activity because the outcome is never guaranteed to work in their favor.

@USC: Oh I completely agree. This isn't about me pre-judging or making anyone to feel bad/stupid for up front NOT being okay/agreeing to have a 3-some. Yes, we all make our OWN decisions & we all can determine ourselves whether we'll be the 1 who 1. Overcomes the statistics OR 2. IS a statistic. For every 1,000 people who have horror stories about 3-somes there are another 1,000 people with opposite view points on the very same thing.

BUT as for me, I know myself & I know that I wouldn't be able to handle it. Are there some that can handle it? YES. Some people perhaps even assume they can't handle it based on the consequences they've seen come about from other's experience. I agree that it's impossible to "Watch & learn" from others on everything. It's inevitable that each person will eventually make some kind of mistake/lasp in judgement that they will regret and/or wish they wouldn't have. And sometimes, in order to prevent yourself from making CERTAIN mistakes, it's not such a bad idea to watch & learn from how the MAJORITY seems to recover/lose from certain situations. And for me, the MAJORITY of those I know who've engaged in 3-somes learned to later regret it. Those horror stories coupled/added together with me knowing up front I couldn't handle it anyways is the reason I personally made the choice to steer clear from 3-somes. Sure, what 1 experienced (in a good OR bad way) might not be what I end up experiencing, BUT if in my life, a good majority of people end up losing more than gaining from a specific situation, it'd only make sense that I learn from other's mistakes instead of going down that road & falling on my face.

IN other words, some things are preventable. It's okay to take pre-cautions sometimes, especially if the common "reality" is that if you don't, you'll probably lose. And for me, the common reality (what I see when I look around) is that 3-somes usually backfire on couples. It sucks & everyone & what they can/can't handle is different, but hey, sometimes you can acquire the same amount of wisdom from learning from someone else's mistakes the same way you could by literally making the mistake yourself 1st.

My ex used to always tell me how much he wanted a 3some but i wasnt up for it, then the more i thought about the idea the more i started to come round to his way of thinking. I finally decided i would do it but only if i could pick the third person which he agreed to, what he didnt realise was that the third person would be male and one of his friends 🙂

He soon changed is mind about wanting a 3some haha i miss winding him up.....

It sounds fun to do. But I've I was in love, or had strong feelings for someone then... 0.o my heart would stop. My emotional side is confusing so even if I don't have serious intentions with a guy and we both know it and just want to have fun sexually, I still get a jealous feeling, like, I don't know. Only I can tell who I can do what with.

I'd do that with a legal prostitute, but ol' girl is going to have to lay the law down fo da hoe seeing as I'm a dude who won't mind how he gets his dick wet in that in that instance. The pro' can perhaps even show her a few moves to take home, you never know! I also don't see prostitutes (legal, that is) as some kind of 2nd class citizen or criminal or some bullshit like that. They're professional pleasers, and it's the oldest profession for a reason. You may argue that they're home wreckers, but to that I say "it's not his fault that you're not pleasing him. Fuck him MORE, fuck him BETTER, YA DUMB BROAD!!!"

Katt Williams is a wise Virgo man indeed!: http://www.pp2g.tv/vZXp6Y3E_.aspx

^^^A fellow Cincinnatian to boot!

Im thinking about becomeing a priest

Let me put this stright not a little boy burgering priest.

Well thank heavens. And Pan a priest, there's an interesting concept.

I've had threesomes with my friends and stuff and they were really fun.....I'm a friend orientated guy I love my friends but everytime I get a boyfriend he becomes the enemy instantly because he tells me to do things or trys to control me...If he asked me to be in a three way Id prolly use that in an argument against him in the future....but actually it does turn me on i would love to have a three way with my boyfriend if only he wasnt my boyfriend 🙂