Caia
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Are you a booty call or a boo? Confused?
Know their hopes and dreams? Boo. They never ask about you? Booty call.
Review all of the conversations you??ve had with your booty call — what were they about? Were they deep conversations about life, love and the pursuit of happiness? Boo. Or were they more along the lines of the next time he was going to eat? Booty call!
When we become friends with our booty calls, it's easy to slip into a —relationship?? mentality. But, come on! Booty calls are not there to discuss hopes and dreams — the depths of conversation shouldn't go further than what time you hope to hook up. Eff your dreams.
PDA in restaurants? Boo. Disappearing on Valentine's Day? Booty call.
When you??re in a relationship, you go out and partake in disgusting and uncomfortable-for-other-people displays of affection. A booty call won't ever do that! I want you to really take note of what happens when Valentine's Day comes around. Booty calls won't take you out for a fine dining experience. No, ma??am — you will be stuck at home waiting for that 12am booty to call in your best overpriced lingerie.
Review all of the conversations you??ve had with your booty call — what were they about? Were they deep conversations about life, love and the pursuit of happiness? Boo. Or were they more along the lines of the next time he was going to eat? Booty call!
When we become friends with our booty calls, it's easy to slip into a —relationship?? mentality. But, come on! Booty calls are not there to discuss hopes and dreams — the depths of conversation shouldn't go further than what time you hope to hook up. Eff your dreams.
PDA in restaurants? Boo. Disappearing on Valentine's Day? Booty call.
When you??re in a relationship, you go out and partake in disgusting and uncomfortable-for-other-people displays of affection. A booty call won't ever do that! I want you to really take note of what happens when Valentine's Day comes around. Booty calls won't take you out for a fine dining experience. No, ma??am — you will be stuck at home waiting for that 12am booty to call in your best overpriced lingerie.
Cuddled up after the deed for more time than feels obligatory? Boo. Swift exit in a cab after the deed? Booty call.
Some people mistake going to bed in each others arms after a ravenous night as a sign that there's —love?? there. Goodbye to that! Romanticizing a booty call is the problem — if you wake up beside him in the morning you might mistakenly gaze longingly into his eyes whilst him being asleep, then you??ll want to do something nice for him like make breakfast or —clean up?? so you can clear a space in your drawer for his things.
The only nice thing you should be doing for a booty call is google-mapping how he can take his ass home when you??re done.
All this said, if you still can't tell the difference, JUST ASK!
Some people mistake going to bed in each others arms after a ravenous night as a sign that there's —love?? there. Goodbye to that! Romanticizing a booty call is the problem — if you wake up beside him in the morning you might mistakenly gaze longingly into his eyes whilst him being asleep, then you??ll want to do something nice for him like make breakfast or —clean up?? so you can clear a space in your drawer for his things.
The only nice thing you should be doing for a booty call is google-mapping how he can take his ass home when you??re done.
All this said, if you still can't tell the difference, JUST ASK!
Posted by busyeyes88
@caia. Nice. I looked up on my own 'boo' and 'booty call' itineraries and I am glad to announce they are right up there with yours girl!!! Lol I'm in the right programme! no confusion here!!! But as we can see there are many women out there aren't..!! Thanks for drawing our attention to it....
LOL@ the boo and booty call itineraries
Posted by thinktoomuch
Yo, I get the point of this, but I was dating someone for 9 months, exclusively, who did all the thing you list as "boo", and he still said, he wasn't ready for a relationship.
It doesn't work this way.
I think most of the women here are questioning this booty call or boo because men are not always as ruthless, as we would have them be; they will also talk and kindly interact with a person they have no interest in ever being in a relationship with.
Men are not as logic in that sense as women are: I don't date someone for really long, unless I am seriously interested in them. Men will do that, and get surprised when the women doesn't get it and/or get hurt.
If a man treated women like the way you describe boo, ain't nobody would be in doubt of what it is that he wanted. Men are confusing creatures. ... And women too, because some of us believe we will make love out of sex (like you write), meaning we??ll sleep with someone and think they??ll love us for it. All the while the men are just sitting there thinking: hey, this girl/woman is cool enough and sweet, and she wants to suck me of and fuq me! Bonus!!!!!! Plus she feels the same way about me!!! But we don't.
Everyone just needs to be more clear and honest about their intentions. Some girls should say: I date to find true love. Some men should say: I date to get laid. Nothing to be ashamed of either way. And women need to stop having sex, if what they want is love.
I know what you mean. Things are never that black and white...there are always crazy shades of grey.
Sometimes men refuse to be upfront and honest cos they don't wanna lose the great sex...but it's totally unfair.
*le sigh*
Posted by clooneyyears
are you a baby momma? or a momma's boy?
You should start that as a new topic!
This list is stupid and misleading.
I've had the "booty" call dudes who did a lot of what you consider a "boo" status.
As someone else mentioned, pay attention to the obvious things- like him saying he doesn't want a relationship. Sure, he'll glean the perks of a fwb/booty call scenario but it doesn't mean he wants you in a relationship.
All the perks without the commitment is what a lot of tard guys are into nowadays- mostly because women allow it to happen. ...which is fine if they're aware of this, but apparently, a lot of silly bitches are delusional.
I've had the "booty" call dudes who did a lot of what you consider a "boo" status.
As someone else mentioned, pay attention to the obvious things- like him saying he doesn't want a relationship. Sure, he'll glean the perks of a fwb/booty call scenario but it doesn't mean he wants you in a relationship.
All the perks without the commitment is what a lot of tard guys are into nowadays- mostly because women allow it to happen. ...which is fine if they're aware of this, but apparently, a lot of silly bitches are delusional.
Posted by thinktoomuch
Yo, I get the point of this, but I was dating someone for 9 months, exclusively, who did all the thing you list as "boo", and he still said, he wasn't ready for a relationship.
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Then it was a booty call with an element of friendship.
Some of those guys have honest intentions. Just be careful you don't scare those off as well.
Posted by truecapPosted by thinktoomuch
Yo, I get the point of this, but I was dating someone for 9 months, exclusively, who did all the thing you list as "boo", and he still said, he wasn't ready for a relationship.
.
Then it was a booty call with an element of friendship.click to expand
Ahahaha...
Posted by thinktoomuch
... I think I'm actually gonna start saying to guys, that come up to me with one thing on their mind, that I appreciate it, but I am looking for love and not sex. 😄
About one or two years ago, a guy came up to me while I was out drinking and started the whole chat-up thing. I straight up told him "I just had my heart broken" and smiled at him. He totally got it right away and let me be. Very effective actually😄
What also works is if you're out with a female friend and then a guy starts hitting on you, just say...I'm with her...like really with her!
Worked like a charm for me. Never seen a man duck so fast.
Posted by thinktoomuch
... I think I'm actually gonna start saying to guys, that come up to me with one thing on their mind, that I appreciate it, but I am looking for love and not sex. 😄
About one or two years ago, a guy came up to me while I was out drinking and started the whole chat-up thing. I straight up told him "I just had my heart broken" and smiled at him. He totally got it right away and let me be. Very effective actually😄
I had a friend who told a guy immediately that she didn't put out on the first date or something to that extent. He promptly walked away haha.
Posted by Caia
Know their hopes and dreams? Boo. They never ask about you? Booty call.
Review all of the conversations you??ve had with your booty call — what were they about? Were they deep conversations about life, love and the pursuit of happiness? Boo. Or were they more along the lines of the next time he was going to eat? Booty call!... Eff your dreams.
😆!!!
Posted by thinktoomuch
... I think I'm actually gonna start saying to guys, that come up to me with one thing on their mind, that I appreciate it, but I am looking for love and not sex. 😄
About one or two years ago, a guy came up to me while I was out drinking and started the whole chat-up thing. I straight up told him "I just had my heart broken" and smiled at him. He totally got it right away and let me be. Very effective actually😄
Lol. This is as effective as kneeing a man in the ball if you're hoping to find love. That's the point right? Weed out the Frogs from the Prince Charmings? People understand emotional baggage. They don't understand why it needs to be the first thing out of your mouth. I think a simple "thanks you, I'm flattered but I'm not interested" is sufficient and will come off a lot less dramatic.
*plays fav song by Oasis*
Posted by thinktoomuch
And don't laugh at my non-relationship. Don't know if that's what you??re doing, but calling all that a booty call with friendship..... Which is like a friend with benefits... No.. It def. wasn't that either.
Then what was it?
Actually FWB is when two people are only friends (real friends) but just happen to sleep together. He wouldn't admit to a relationship, so what else can you call it?
Dating? Did you go on actual dates?
Posted by thinktoomuch
And don't laugh at my non-relationship. Don't know if that's what you??re doing, but calling all that a booty call with friendship..... Which is like a friend with benefits... No.. It def. wasn't that either.
No laughing at you, just laughing at truecap's one liner.
It's pretty funny.
^^^ that should say not laughing at you.
Posted by thinktoomuch
What do you mean "an actual date"? I don't live i america, and I don't do the whole dating thing.
But we saw each other several times of the week, went to the movies, went to visit his friends, went to a party at my sisters, went to where he grew up and fed the ducks, rode our bikes around town, cocked for each other, ordered in, ate out, went ice skating once.
I would call it seeing each other or dating yes.
I know English isn't your primary language, but omg "COOKED" not "cocked!"
*pictures a circle jerk of sorts* :/
Stupid html.
A TV show? Is this the extent of your experience and the basis of your information on a lot of these matters?
Posted by thinktoomuch But yes, it's a very good way to get a guy to stop talking to ya. - Unless they see it as a challenge to bang you, JUST BECAUSE you said you don't do it on the first date. I saw a guy doing that on a TV show... Ofcours! Girl probably said it just to get him to try hard, maybe she always puts out on first dates😄 Well played.
A TV show? Is this the extent of your experience and the basis of your information on a lot of these matters?
Reality shows aren't all that real, hate to break it to you haha.
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To help get you out of the confused zone, here's a handy list that might help.
Checks in throughout the day? Boo. Texts you only at night? Booty call.
Is the typical message, —what you doing, sexy— or —what are you wearing— Well, boo, it's a booty call. Someone who genuinely cares about you will check in throughout the day, even if it's a quick —how are you.?? Better yet, that person will actually call you! See the difference?