Being there for others VS them being there for you

When you're there for someone.. Let's say a friend or someone close, or someone you're with is going through a rough patch in life, and you provide them with everything they need.
May it be, just listen or give advices, or lend them money. Or let them use your car for a while, or.. Invite them to sleep on your couch for as long as they need.

Do you expect them to be there for you when you go through a hard time?
What will you think if they don't return the favors?
Will it change how you view your friendship or relationship with that person if they're not there for you or will you understand?

you will understand if they are not there due to a valid reason, but otherwise they simply do not care about you as you care about them, and it hurts. they are being selfish and you take a step back even if you don't want to, because you don't want to come across as a fool who is there no matter what. i know many will say you should not be there for someone with the expectation that they be there for you. but honestly, if they don't give a fig about you, your being there for them also is not important for them. you feel like you are just imposing yourself on them. best is do unto others as they do unto you. of course if you have genuine feelings initally you are there many times, but eventually a one way street only makes you feel unimportant. better be there for yourself as you are only going to be there for yourself.

I'm always there for people in my life and even those I don't even consider close. However, I've learned not to expect anyone to be there for me; therefore I'm never let down. I've always wished to have a friend like me. I may not talk to you everyday and hang out a lot but when you need me I'm there. No one--not even my family is ever there for me. I stay prayed up is how I cope...

I never expect anything back. Giving is giving... that is all... and something given is a gift.

The funny thing... is that one always get more back anyway... it may not be from a friend, lover, or family member... but from somewhere, anywhere, or everywhere else... whether it be people, places, things, et cetera. If one's nature is that of truly giving... everything is theirs without ever having to ask.

When you're there for someone.. Let's say a friend or someone close, or someone you're with is going through a rough patch in life, and you provide them with everything they need.
May it be, just listen or give advices, or lend them money. Or let them use your car for a while, or.. Invite them to sleep on your couch for as long as they need...
...talk them in off the ledge when they threaten to commit suicide at 2am etc



Do you expect them to be there for you when you go through a hard time?
I DID

What will you think if they don't return the favors?
I THINK HE IS A TWO FACED PRICK WITH A SHORT MEMORY

Will it change how you view your friendship or relationship with that person if they're not there for you or will you understand?
I NEVER SPEAK TO HIM

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
When you're there for someone.. Let's say a friend or someone close, or someone you're with is going through a rough patch in life, and you provide them with everything they need.
May it be, just listen or give advices, or lend them money. Or let them use your car for a while, or.. Invite them to sleep on your couch for as long as they need...
...talk them in off the ledge when they threaten to commit suicide at 2am etc



Do you expect them to be there for you when you go through a hard time?
I DID

What will you think if they don't return the favors?
I THINK HE IS A TWO FACED PRICK WITH A SHORT MEMORY

Will it change how you view your friendship or relationship with that person if they're not there for you or will you understand?
I NEVER SPEAK TO HIM

REALLY NICE... ARIES PERSON ! 😉

Treat people how they treat you.