Commitment, flirting and naked pics

I never realized there was more to this forum than Astrology subforums until a couple days ago. I decided to post about a question I have to get more general comments about it here.

We started being close a couple years ago and went through ups and downs a lot. But the past two years have been for us the time we were the closest.
At first I was independent, even bitchy to him, because he hurt me in the past but because he's a good man despite his layers of problems, I decided to give him another chance.
We've been in a friendlationship since. We do everything a couple do, except, we do not call each other a couple because he's scared of commitment. And because my freedom is important for me as well, I'm fine with it.
We go on dates, cute ones and friendly ones. We have sex and we make love. We are best friends who share a lot of the same interests, and we are there for each other. I'm the first person he talks to in the morning, and the one he last speak to at night. I know everything about him, he trust me with everything he owns and me the same with him. That kind of relationship.

Everything I do with him, the sex, being close, acting like a girlfriend, is because he told me I'm the only one he's doing it with.

Now, he's into flirting a lot. I don't mind it. Flirting with the barista at Starbucks or someone he knows in RL is fine. I do it too. It's always friendly for me anyways, but he talks to girl he knows on Facebook and flirt big time. He asks for naked pics. And sending naked pics of him.
He also say he's fully single to those girls.

We had a fight about this, because I always told him that I'm with him and him only, and only am because he said that the naked pics was for me only and it ended up in him telling me I was trying to ruin his female friendships.
I explained that it's not what I'm doing at all, that he can talk to whoever he wants, except, not say he's single and acting like he is.
He said he understood, but he's doing it again.
Last night a girl posted on his wall, calling him cutie and saying she's happy he is fully single.....

So, my question.

Am I right to be upset? Am I overreacting?
Is he wrong to do what he's doing?

What do you all think?

I feel sad, because we try to justify these types of "relationhips". Its like some sick addiction, and you are truly not getting what you deserve from him. Even though what you have is nice, and cute, ultimately, it becomes destructive. Worse, no matter what advice you get, you will continue, until it starts to eat away at your pride, confidence and mind. If you can get out, I suggest that you do. If he cant face up to committment, dont make it easy for him. I have had been in that situation before, and all i will say is that you will be soooo happy when you get your ass out, and into a happier place 🙂

"We've been in a friendlationship since. We do everything a couple do, except, we do not call each other a couple because he's scared of commitment. And because my freedom is important for me as well, I'm fine with it"

Friendlationship.... damn I guess you learn something every day lol 😉

Maybe you were fine with it but now you are not, you can continue to talk about it but he doesn't seem to care, I would walk away ASAP and get myself a real relationship with someone that would be proud to call me his girl

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO
SAY ABOUT MEN :

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in rel

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says... You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts... ??_

I didn't see anything negative or any man bashing in the Oprah quote, she is trying to empower women to make them understand that there is no magic behavior to make a guy love you...

She is basically saying what women should do, she is not saying men are all dogs, is not up to us to change a man, we are responsible and the only thing that we can control is the way we respond to a man's behavior.

If you are not getting what you want, you walk away knowing your value and that you deserve and will find someone that do appreciates you, there are GOOD GUYS out there LOTS OF THEM but we tend to stay in bad relationships out of fear, we should never based decisions on fear of losing anybody... Yo want the guy, you don't need him

well to "follow" Oprah's advice is ONE thing....but not actually doing it (ACTIONS) is another. It all sounds all hey great, she's a good representative of it (although she's not a family woman, she's a BUSINESS woman) and then.........
no one really follows her advice anyway.

I'm not saying follow it, but sometimes these reminders can be the trigger for change. YOu start to remember how it should be without trying to justify what it isn't.

Posted by Sola

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO
SAY ABOUT MEN :

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle.

Oprah dropped ALOOOOT of gems in that post.. I'll be sharing with friends & PRINTING!!!

@Robyn, its not so much of a "Negative view" or "bashing" of men.. its just a Clear, cut, valid list of "reminders" as to the mistakes we women make BECAUSE we don't keep these very things in mind. or.

OR.Maybe I just went through too much in life, So I MAKE it a point to keep watch for the negative Patterns and pitfalls.

#1 person to look out for is YOURSELF.

Haven't you posted about this before?