Confused Scorpio on Capri man h

So I've just recently discovered this site and am in real need of advice. I've known this Capri since august of 2011 and 2014 is in 2 days... The first time we met it was like I couldn't not go after him and he noticed me first too, and we literally hit it of right there and then. It's been an off and on thing since and it's always me doing the heart breaking but he never seemed to stop loving me and was always there when I want him as only a friend through all my selfish desires all my secretive feelings and he's managed to peel back all the layers of me and I him. When ever we break up or are apart we always remain close friends then fall in love again. Our last relationship ended by me again was because he was distant and it hurt a lot but he'd always say all he wanted was to make me happy and tried really hard to spend time call or txt me but I later felt he didn't want me anymore like he just wanted to get away from me and I still feel it's somewhat true but when I first asked about breaking up he flipped out saying he didn't want to lose me but later with me losing control of my emotions and calling 30+ times and leaving wierd txt he got fed up and we stopped talking for 12 months she shut me out completely. Slowly I tried talking to him and slowly he would start convos with me, now we talk like once a month of 3weeks or so but we talk, he initiated contact first which hasn't happened him years but he did wishing me a happy thanksgiving and starting up a convo with it then he initiative contact again on a sat (when he works) at like 8am (he wakes up at 12 usually) telling me he's going to learn a song for me for christmas and this just made me happy beyond anything. I felt so happy and rewarded that my falling back and leaving him alone payed off then on Christmas Day we talked and had a convo and I pressed him on a question and I find out he has feelings for someone but the person doesn't share the same feelings. This made my heart sink but I was supportive and acted nicely but it still hurt, he's going to leave me a New Years voice mail too and like idk what I should do should I stay true because I still I don't know he's my I don't know how to explain it but he used to say he just knew I was the one a long time ago without an explanation and now I kind of feel the same way like I don't know what he is to me but I don't ever want to lose him again ever. We used to plan out life together and everything and I ruined it.i know I could never let him go

I may need some clarification. From what I gather, you all have been broken up for a year and he just got back in contact with one another. During this time he started seeing someone else and is now heartbroken over this person. For him to express his feelings to this person, he must have been in love. Well from my experience, capricorns rarely fall truly and deeply In love. When we do fall, we sometimes never really fall out. In an essence we love for life. I have had several partners that I have genuinely showed love to, but I only been in love once in my life. Why am I saying all of this? You have to be careful getting back into a relationship with this man, so you won't get hurt and vice versa. I would be there for him as a VERY good friend.

Don't expect it to just start back where y'all left it over a year ago. A lot has changed since then. Be careful with his heart, he's probably still vulnerable.

No communication for almost a year yeah but no he's not in any relationship just told me recently he has feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way he doesn't seem heartbroken he just said iits wierd

Thank you so much for replying, you're right falling in love for him was a long process but never stopped with me and I the same. It's like the best friend partner, we've been everything from pals to bffs to dating to him proposing once to friends with benefits to just friends to everything. It's a really deep connection that's why I'm really sentimental. He didn't confess to the person he has feelings for they just know but don't feel the same way. And it's surprising he told me this too but I am truly here for him a good friend it don't want to hurt him ever again though that's what seems to always happen, after years of knowing and getting to know him and him letting me in on such vulnerable and deep past emotions etc I know just how vulnerable and fragile he can really be. Should I not give up on him though? Because I'm very happy he's able to even develope feelings now but still I feel we're going to..be? Idk how to explain it

Well it's good he didn't get into deep with the other person 😉 You say him telling you about this other person made your heart sink and now you have doubts? He wasn't in contact with you for a whole year and I guess your disappointed when he moved on. People do have to live their lives you know. If you really like this guy, try not to let jealousy get in the way, especially since the woman he is disappointed over is not even interested in him.

You say that you broke up some times before, have broken his heart, been best friends and got back together. What is with the off and on? There is a reason behind that. Before you make any decisions moving forward, you should evaluate the situation between you and him to gain more clarity on exactly what it is you want from this guy and what you are willing to offer him as a lover/ friend etc. Sometimes we get lonely and will take whatever is convenient for us. Do you really want him? You said you hurt him in the past. Are you planning to string him along until something better comes your way?

String him along no way. I've planned my future being with him like all the things we talked about with two kids and dogs and we even gave them names and yeah it's no game playing thing for when I'm bored. I used to be someone who didn't want love because of my past and he's the one I decided to fully love completely after doing the on and off thing for so long I just believed this is it the one who is willing to stay. The recent break up was because I got vulnerable and couldn't control my feelings and as a scorp girl this drove me insane and I got clingy and all the things I hate. I like my independence but in the end I want him to be who I come home to. And it was the same for him.

Posted by Sugarprincess1 It's been an off and on thing since and it's always me doing the heart breaking but he never seemed to stop loving me and was always there when I want him as only a friend through all my selfish desires

Our last relationship ended by me again was because he was distant and it hurt a lot

I pressed him on a question and I find out he has feelings for someone but the person doesn't share the same feelings. This made my heart sink but I was supportive and acted nicely but it still hurt,

I still I don't know he's my I don't know how to explain it but he used to say he just knew I was the one a long time ago without an explanation and now I kind of feel the same way like I don't know what he is to me but I don't ever want to lose him again ever.

I'm probably not the only one reading this reading between the lines, seeing what you've done and hoping this other woman IS madly in love with him and they live happily every after. You know why? Because he deserves to be happy and with a woman who knows what the hell she wants. Not some woman who needs to put a man in storage after repeatedly splitting his heart wide open while she's out there testing the other "goods" only to return to the poor sap whose sitting there like an abandoned puppy dog.

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I'm sure he's had plenty of alone time while you were out prancing to figure this out and I absolutely LOVE, that for a change, he's calling the shots. So if you have any decency even a small ounce of it, do this man a favor, move on as you do so well, and keep your nose out of his business...just as he did for you each and every time you dumped his ass. Suck it up, and yea, this time he may be letting you go for a change. GOOD FOR HIM!

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String him along no way. I've planned my future being with him like all the things we talked about with two kids and dogs and we even gave them names and yeah it's no game playing thing for when I'm bored. I used to be someone who didn't want love because of my past and he's the one I decided to fully love completely after doing the on and off thing for so long I just believed this is it the one who is willing to stay. The recent break up was because I got vulnerable and couldn't control my feelings and as a scorp girl this drove me insane and I got clingy and all the things I hate. I like my independence but in the end I want him to be who I come home to. And it was the same for him.

What do you mean "I've PLANNED MY FUTURE being with him? Control much? You led him to believe he had a future with you naming kids and dogs just to keep him in that cool storage when you knew you were going to run off and wander again. That's manipulation at it's finest.

You got vulnerable? Do you actually know what vulnerability feels like? You can't have your cake and eat it too. The only reason you want him now is because he lost interest in you and has someone else he's interested in. Don't be one of those women who manipulates more to destroy that too. Trust me, if you do..the word friend will no longer exist either. Cut your losses, leave him alone.

Okay thanks

Yep..you betcha.

Need a sweater? Did I strip it down a little to close to honesty?

I gotta stop doing that. Especially in the winter😢

I really wish you would ask for more clarification. I don't know how to fully express the situation right now but just jumping to a conclusion on the story kinda sucks, I'm not some minipulative devil woman seeking someone to suck the life of. He is moving on because I showed him I did too. He has feelings for a guy he just met(bi). He told me about it freely I didn't force him and if I did he wouldn't have told me anyways. Please don't point fingers I'm a human being not someone trying to use someone

"I really don't care" Came across loud and clear..got it. Not asking for you to further explain either..there's no need.

I don't badger..I just tapped into the heart of the matter here and I think you realize that. He allowed you to walk away many times. You owe him the same in return without controversy or games. That's the bottom line here.

Alright though I don't see how you can get to the heart of it without knowing what it's really about. I have done that allowed him to walk away multiple times. He's never done it.

Posted by Sugarprincess1
Alright though I don't see how you can get to the heart of it without knowing what it's really about.

This is how. I read everything you had to say TWICE. What I wrote is exactly how I saw it & responded. Then I did some research after you responded to me. Below is advice you gave to someone and well, it confirms my initial instinct. You have a coldness within you and a heart that lacks empathy to get what you want out of life. But here's the advice you gave a person and telling her to "act" like she doesn't give a shit.

Posted by Sugarprincess1
I'd say he came onto you because you left him alone for some time. That drew him in but you being persistent is making him back off?? I mean you should just try and make things seem casual and maybe go on a date but keep it casual and act like you're not commited to or worried wether or not he's there

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This is a very immature game many females like you play who in the end usually end up losing big time.

I don't know what your past with women has led you to be so bitter, I gave that response because that seemed like the most logical option?? I really don't know why you're still trying to do this? Thank you for your insight in making me readdress how bad of a person I am thank you. Please stop responding.

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I don't know what your past with women has led you to be so bitter, I gave that response because that seemed like the most logical option?? I really don't know why you're still trying to do this? Thank you for your insight in making me readdress how bad of a person I am thank you. Please stop responding.

I'm a female 😕 I'm not bitter and I'm not "trying" to do anything but open your eyes to reality and how this guy sees you by being on the receiving end. I'm sure we got the softer side, and can imagine how this guy felt each time you up and left him or went out of your way to show him you didn't care. Ever hear the saying "Those who love the least in a relationship controls the relationship?" The fact that he finally removed his blinders and refuses to be your puppet because someone else is in the picture to re-remind him what caring is, would be where the bitterness comes in on your part. Doesn't make you a bad person, I'm hoping it makes you a better person in the future. Live, learn and move on.

Right yes i toyed with him for the longest expecting him to beg for me back and now that he doesn't I want him back that's clearly it. Thank you

Irscorp ofcourse I didn't have strength of chracter I know that and knew that since the beginning we broke up the first time because of it because I wanted him to find someone who knew what they wanted and wouldn't just use him. But hey that's me man player of the year that's why I always come back to him no matter how cold he is to me. But I geuss you guys don't care about since I'm the cold and controlling one

We've "broken up" a total of 3 times in about 3-4 years. Yeah countless of my trying to grow up and him remaining. Yeah great someone warm is in his life. Because he didn't used to be cold with me? I don't even see this as seriously anymore like jeez other people get both sides of the spectrum but hey thanks though I apreciate the insight of what I already know

I just said I'm trying to grow up. I have seen what drove him away he even told me what drove him away, I also just said I'm working on myself. I'm fully aware and try to work on myself. I'm not searching for love I've already had it.

What he said drove him away was me coming on to strongly, me loving him more than before and showing it. He actually preferred me when I was "cold" and no so attached. I've never kept him in a storage waiting on me, he's had feelings for others before. I tend to make myself seem like the victim when I talk about us and that's why I wrote jut blaming myself. I am also taking this time being alone to figure myself out and learn from dumb mistakes. I don't want to be with him because it's convenient or I'm lonely I don't want to date at all or talk to any guys. For goodness sakes we broke up when I was in 9th grade and summer before 10th grade. I use to beat myself up at night constantly thinking of how a terrible person I was for hurting him and was reminded by friends that I'm not a bad person because making mistakes when were young happens

Yes I got on defensive and I'm sorry. I just want insight on someone I consider I soulmate. Someone who considered me there's no matter what. The reason I'm so unsure? All the past relationships I had before him I was the one thrown away or left and had never hurt a single one of them. I've been thrown away and made feel like nothing in the past. I decided to be smart with him and not let emotions get me and stay cold because I didn't want to et hurt yeah I admit I was cold. But so was he because that's the type of person he is.but he never have up through all my indecisiveness my coldness all of it he stayed, obediently no. He's no puppy that's for sure. He really disliked me for the longest time when I broke his heart. Me he stayed, of his own free will he chose to stay. He chose to love me again he chose to care about me through anything.

It's the fact that he stayed that I don't want to fully let go. That's why I posted that's sloppy excuse for the story. I didn't say how whenever he is upset I'm there when he gives up on dreams I'm there to encourage hope or how he doesn't cry stall unless he's in bed at night or how I used to cry myself to sleep every night because I thought I lost him. Yeah before honestly it get through to me that losing him would hurt as much but it happened and it's something I never want to go through or remember again. He was the one calling the shots he was the one saying cold words and leaving me high a dry and it hurt so much and whenever a new hurt was brough on I cried even harder knowing he went trough the same with and I felt so much worse. Nights where I'd be curled up in a ball unable to cry telling myself this is what should of happened this is what I deserve he deserves someone better I'm so happy for him. So many nights and days I thought this over and over. But you know why I'm still here?

Because I love him. This is what made me realize I love this one man more than anything in the world.not because he makes me giggle when ever I talk to him or because he'd tell me about his day on the phone or because he'd learn to play songs for me on the piano or because he loves family and is the type willing to die for his country or because has the cuter laugh or because he's seen all of me all of my highs and lows and low lows and can still joke with me. But because it took me a really long time to decide this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with no matter what happens. That was the feeling he gave me about him that I was the woman he wanted to be with for the rest of his life no matter what happened. I wrote the post in four because wow he can even develope feelings for someone after what he's been through( and no I don't only mean me) my initial heat dropping thing was probably a reflex of doubt but honestly I'm truly happy for him I am so so happy for him all I've wanted was for him to be so so happy and it's what I prayed for everyday while I was in a miserable vulnerable state and yes I do know vulnerabity I showed it daily to a friend who would let me talk about him. Lately she keeps saying how glad she is I'm not a complete wreck anymore because of how that boy left you

Self respect is something I held onto and that's why I was cold. Selfies is something I didn't have and had realized in the past year no one can love someone unless they love thenselves. I don't want to be in a relationship with him that's not my objective or goal at all. I want to learn I want to grow by being bymyself until I realize what I need to. I just turned 17 and I'm so glad I am alone to really grow up. Ive made mistakes and have acknowledged them. And I know I'm not the only one. But still I have doubts. Not because my claim on him isn't strong please understand that. A relationship isn't about maintaining dominance, I dot control him and I never want to it's not right. I still expect to get ridiculed as manipulative and I'm not going to deny or dodge it,I know I can be minipulative it's a trait I have to work on to get rid of because I know it's not right but be rest assured I'm trying to change that. He wasn't in the blind about anything he knows how I can get more than I do, HE knows me more than I do I had no idea I could be like those things but he knew he knew how I'd get angry or jealous or upset easily. He knew before I even felt it. I just I found the person who knows me best and knows me more than I know myself and he makes me happy more than anyone and I was willing to let him go while begging god he be put in put in good hands but here I am still begging for him to hold my hands I know it makes no sense

one thing i kno about the capricorns is that we forgiving . i still have love for ez's an if its not workin wit a past 1 i would go bax 2 either 1 i had strong enuff feelings 4
i have this issue with a scorpio man so we are in opposite positions
he may have been tellin u he has feelins 4 some1 else but how do u kno hes not talkin bout u
cuz i throw subliminals all the time even tho im very blunt because i wanna see where sum1's head is at on me
my ex scorp came around on christmas he had been callin hittin my facebook an shit
then when he came i told him bout the new scorp i can tel he was bothered he got to talkin bout a chick he claim is his lil friend but i asked him about my present scorp and I situation he instead so he could be tellin truth bout the new found love and u just should stomp in and take bax whats rightfullly your if u really want him trust me if the other chick aint feelin the same then he's feelin ashamed or he was and is seekin affection and u can be the net t catch hi an do tell him what u told us u feel 4 him he'll respect that if he ever cared bout u then he still does