Do cheaters change?

Yes or no?

In order for one to treat you right. They have to cheat...to make sure before they get tied down or to see if your even the right one. Right?

It depends of the person I think. Can cheaters change? Yes and No. It depends on the degree of cheater. That is, how many times it occurred or how many different people or situations. How long you went without telling them about it or if you just got caught. Personally I have cheated before. All excuses aside, it was my fault I cheated. It went on for about 2 months before I was finally honest and confessed to my bf. I ended up leaving my bf, broke his beautiful heart which still kills me inside to this day when I think about it. But I just have to push those regretful, sad thoughts down. I have to remind myself that it was all a learning process. I am stronger now from that. I will NEVER cheat again in life. If I ever feel tempted again I will just flat out tell my bf that I'm unhappy and this is what I think will make me happy. All future relationships will definitely have to 100% open, complete honesty (no matter what!) with each other. I am never going to hurt someone I love like that again.

"Once a cheater always a cheater"

Bs. I think that those who've never cheated are more likely candidates to slip than those who've been there once before. Like they say, experience is the best teacher. It just isn't as appealing (if it ever was) the second time around. Does not apply to serial cheaters, they're a whole different breed.

if two people are right for each other there is no reason for cheating in the relationship. cheaters is not naturally born... its a choice regardless of the sign

Yes it hurts to be cheated on by someone you love.
I have hope because I would never cheat on someone I care about.

Hm Ram explain what are the protocols for open relationship?
Yeah open relationship are for people who don't want to settle down..or have kids or get married
Is that the life—?I think they can change but when my ex aries bff did that shit. I swore I would not have kids or marriage. But now I hope to find some one compatible eventually..I don't want to be sidelined I want to be the only one..I trust you with everything.

then again I have never cheated or nor I would want to cheat. I would just break up..

I have been cheated on when I was about 17.I was young and naive and it hurt really bad. But I learnt a lot from that experience. I forgave my ex.

My current bf cheated on his ex with me. It went on for about 3 months. She never got to know and they broke up after a while. Now we are in a great relationship and he thinks its going fantastic. He is an amazing friend and lover. So I think cheaters can change and be in normal healthy relationships. My guy tells me he has learnt whatever he had to and now he knows what he does not want in a relationship. Well...we will see.

How come life is so curvy.. I mean why can we just get along with everyone, have kids and get married.. Who came up with compatibility anyways? Who said we can't be all compatibile with everyone cause we are not..Astrology? cause really Astrology is a guide. So who do you go to to get answers in relationship?

Do some of the people who had bad habits & strange ways end up changing later? Of course.

Do some people eventually get their lives together? Well of course.

Every amazing husband to his current wife might've been perceived as a complete azzhole to the ladies before her. The ex's wanna believe that he's probably always gonna be a cheater b/c saying that makes them feel better (the pain hurts more when he treats the next one like a queen unlike he did you). But the truth is that some of the best men used to be players or commitment-phobes (both things likely factors in cheaters).

When a man is in his 20's, he might cheat on 100 girls. Not b/c he's a bad guy. Not b/c he'll never eventually grow up. But b/c commitment and fidelity wasn't a top priority or a desire for him during that specific phase of his life. That very same man may go onto be an amazing father and faithful husband to the woman he loves in his 30's.

You may be the girl he changes for or you might not. You might have crossed paths with him around the time he was already ready to change, or you might meet a man when he's still in the 'variety' or 'cheating is the best solution to problems or horniness' phase which is why it only appears that he'll never change (the truth is that your love, sex, etc. wasn't enough to get him to stop being true to his inner desires behind closed doors, even though those desires were destructive to self and others)

Emotional maturity, experience, level of self-awareness, & a cause/effect understanding of what lead them to bad past decisions all play a factor in whether or not someone is likely to change, sooner than later. A person who is tired of cheating, or whom acknowledges that the problem is themselves is the person that is most likely to stop resorting to cheating in their relationships eventually or sooner rather than later.

Just like some women eventually get sick and tired of being a doormat, some men eventually get tired of hunting and hurting doormats.

It's not really accurate or fair to say that once a cheater, always a cheater. He may always be a cheater with YOU b/c you allow it or b/c he never fixed himself while he was with you. But that very same guy may be ready to change and actually change 2 or 10 years later. You might still swear to yourself that he'll probably treat the next girlfriend like he did you, but often times, that's actually not even true.

Some of the most honest & faithful folks weren't always saints. A lot of people change...they just may not change until before or after you.

Some of the girls who were once sl**ts, were easily swayed into another's arms or who had some nasty ways have gone onto be great mothers, faithful & devoted wives & changed/good people overall.

I don't think the question is DO they change. The question is moreso WHEN. Everybody changes. Some for the worst and some for the best. Most people eventually get tired though, and only a few from there actually put in the work to make necessary changes once they've acknowledged their own demons.

You just better hope that you meet someone at a time when they were already tired of 'that life' AND has shown over time that they no longer deserve other's defining or labeling them as cheaters by their past mistakes. You're better off anyways with someone who's already lived that life and gotten tired of it/changed vs. thinking that finding someone who's never hurt anyone guarantees that you'll never be hurt/played.

So is it true once a cheater, you're a cheater... and do you believe if you are a cheating type should you just be single and find fwb types..

yes I do believe we can change if you find the one you want...as time flies by you become older and lonely, and our ways are so different now than before cause now we have expectations and standards...

People subconsciously treat others how they want to be treated, so cheaters are in fact themselves kinda messed up.

I've only known cheaters put up with cheating.

And when someone 'changes', it's for the person or person who made them change, doesn't mean they won't do it again to someone they see beneath them. IMO

Posted by joon
I have been cheated on when I was about 17.I was young and naive and it hurt really bad. But I learnt a lot from that experience. I forgave my ex.

My current bf cheated on his ex with me. It went on for about 3 months. She never got to know and they broke up after a while. Now we are in a great relationship and he thinks its going fantastic. He is an amazing friend and lover. So I think cheaters can change and be in normal healthy relationships. My guy tells me he has learnt whatever he had to and now he knows what he does not want in a relationship. Well...we will see.

The fact that you knew he was in a relationship and still slept with him is a guarantee that he will eventually cheat on you if he isn't already..

you're a naive,trifling whore with low morale who deserves to get mistreated though.