When do you introduce kids when you are dating?

Ok heres two scenarios..

Your dating and your a single parent or you have a baby mama..you have kids initially you already talked about this and everything is cool between you..

When do you introduce your kids to your lover?

When do you introduce family to your lover?

Have you or would you take your kids with you on a date?

Are there standards? A timeline?

I don't have kids.. but would like to know how you guys react or feel in these situations..

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ok heres two scenarios..

Your dating and your a single parent or you have a baby mama..you have kids initially you already talked about this and everything is cool between you..

When do you introduce your kids to your lover?

When do you introduce family to your lover?

Have you or would you take your kids with you on a date?

Are there standards? A timeline?

I don't have kids.. but would like to know how you guys react or feel in these situations..

Never involve your children while dating unless:

You are 6+ months into a committed relationship and it's leading to a more serious level

Google the title of this thread and you will get DETAILED answers and knowledge as to WHY you don't get kids involved.

Hm I did it on here for gaining personal experiences..

Thanks cheeky- for the info it comes in handy..

And you could give an example on why you don't do this-letitb..

I don't need a detailed description, but facts and statistics you find in dxp is fascinating to me...

Posted by LetltB

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ok heres two scenarios..

Your dating and your a single parent or you have a baby mama..you have kids initially you already talked about this and everything is cool between you..

When do you introduce your kids to your lover?

When do you introduce family to your lover?

Have you or would you take your kids with you on a date?

I agree with LetItBe... its not fair your kids meet your partner and they get attached or if it doesn't work out add that to the list of bad memories of your mothers failed relationships as they get older. Also it can seem like your forcing your kids on your boyfriend if he hasn't asked or a commitment which may make him run.

Are there standards? A timeline?

I don't have kids.. but would like to know how you guys react or feel in these situations..

Never involve your children while dating unless:

You are 6+ months into a committed relationship and it's leading to a more serious level

Google the title of this thread and you will get DETAILED answers and knowledge as to WHY you don't get kids involved.

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I agree with LetItBe, reasons got muddled in the box above.

I'm a single mom and I try to be mindful of the fact that I don't want my child introduced to multiple people.

He's only 4 and the whole dad deal is confusing for him. His biological father isn't in the picture, period. Hasn't really been since I was pregnant. The only father figure he's know has been my recent ex who I was with for 3 years. Two years in, he started calling him "Daddy" on his own and we allowed it because we intended on being together long term. Things fell apart and I left though, so now I'm left dealing with the situation.

I agree with the 6 month rule. I had a guy who wanted to take my son and I to the zoo on the first date. That was a no go. Someone has to respect that I want things to be serious before involving my son.

The guy I've been interested in for the past few months has met my son twice, but they were random run in's with each other at the grocery store. He was introduced as a friend.

Family? I suppose a few months in if it's serious.

As far as involving a kid on a date or whatnot, that goes back to where it would be after we have established a serious committed relationship.

Thanks coco I exactly my point in this.. I would never do that if I had kids.. I mean perhaps years...

Thanks sing I am really glad you shared this coming from a parent that has a kid.. I don't have kids and I am not sure I want to either..

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ok heres two scenarios..

Your dating and your a single parent or you have a baby mama..you have kids initially you already talked about this and everything is cool between you..

When do you introduce your kids to your lover?

When do you introduce family to your lover?

Have you or would you take your kids with you on a date?

Are there standards? A timeline?

I don't have kids.. but would like to know how you guys react or feel in these situations..

As a single mom that have a very complicated baby daddy to a 5 year old.... I don't introduce after a 6 or 8th months relationship.

I introduce him first to friends then family last is my daughter.

I won't bring my kid to me and him time...

I will keep an eye on how he treats kids in general as see from there