Wud u date sm1 who txs like dis?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by truecap on Friday, December 19, 2014 and has 34 replies.

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@truecap
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Maybe it's my age, but for me, it would be a no. I mean it would look silly 40-50 year old successful man/woman to type like that. It looks immature, lazy and illiterate. I don't mind a u for you or a 2 instead of two, or an occasional abbreviated phrase like ttyl. But, if every word was abbreviated, it would be a no for me. I'd be like come on, make some effort to show your intelligent!

I guess it's common for the gen Y's, though. They probably would think it's silly to spell it all out. lol!!

I don't mean it to sound judgemental, it's just a personal preference for me.

Generation Gap 101, I suppose.

🙂

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Posted by truecap
Maybe it's my age, but for me, it would be a no. I mean it would look silly 40-50 year old successful man/woman to type like that. It looks immature, lazy and illiterate. I don't mind a u for you or a 2 instead of two, or an occasional abbreviated phrase like ttyl. But, if every word was abbreviated, it would be a no for me. I'd be like come on, make some effort to show your intelligent!

I guess it's common for the gen Y's, though. They probably would think it's silly to spell it all out. lol!!

I don't mean it to sound judgemental, it's just a personal preference for me.

Generation Gap 101, I suppose.

🙂

I agree with you, and I'm 18 so it's not a generational gap thing 😛

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@warmwaters
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i always text obnoxiously well not always.. Probably not for work related stuff...

I often text shit like WATER U DOING?
mainly because texting is no way close to a real conversation so why not make it silly?
Plus being obnoxious with emojiis are a must lol

My mom texts like this luv u swty b home tmmrw k

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@wagtail
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I always feel at a loss to match those sort of texts, to be honest.
I have no idea how to text back... Leaves me stumped, highly likely you'll just get an 'ok' or smiley face reply here.

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@Scenic
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I had an ex who texted poorly, though not as bad as what's mentioned here. I wouldn't think I would date someone like that, but I've been proven wrong. Some people are surprisingly mature, or at least not as bad as I'd expect, despite typing or texting this way. I can look past it.

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@sweethearts
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Some pay 25 cents a text and only 160 characters per text before it is counted as 2 texts.

Depending on whether you have a plan or a pre-paid and can only afford to drop 1 text at a time, I can understand why a lot resort to abbreviation.

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

Posted by djbuck1
No, words in any form are the verbal representation of oneself.

Anyone who thinks that they are not judged by the way they speak and write is living in a fantasy world.

Those of you who are trying- consciously or not- to drag literally everything down to the lowest common denominator by invoking lack of meaning (or total relativism) are only marginalizing yourselves.

Do you really think that standards are all relative because you say so? Do you really think that you aren't judged every day? If you do, you're a fool or a tool-- a useful idiot to those who want to promote illiteracy and lack of standards for their own ends.

Look at yourselves! A pack of self-absorbed little hedonists who think you have all the answers when you clearly haven't a clue about what is being done with you, by whom, and why. You just play right into their hands, willingly dumbing yourselves down and abandoning even the pretense of standards.

There was a thread this week wondering where you will all be in 60-70 years. You'll be utterly lost, having tried to erect a new world for yourselves that has no foundation stronger than your own puffed up egos.

Aries Moon moment.

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

I take pride in my Virgo placements. I may use short versions for words but I cannot stand to see grammar errors.

I'm a total grammar nazi in my own language. I find it sad that a large population that has English as native language manage to make so many mistakes. No one is asking you to master another language yet you cannot even learn the difference between "You're" and "your". How lazy can one get?

I know the topic isn't about grammar. Struck a nerve I guess.

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@Montgomery
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Posted by Blue18
Posted by truecap
Maybe it's my age, but for me, it would be a no. I mean it would look silly 40-50 year old successful man/woman to type like that. It looks immature, lazy and illiterate. I don't mind a u for you or a 2 instead of two, or an occasional abbreviated phrase like ttyl. But, if every word was abbreviated, it would be a no for me. I'd be like come on, make some effort to show your intelligent!

I guess it's common for the gen Y's, though. They probably would think it's silly to spell it all out. lol!!

I don't mean it to sound judgemental, it's just a personal preference for me.

Generation Gap 101, I suppose.

🙂

I agree with you, and I'm 18 so it's not a generational gap thing 😛

click to expand

Truth.

Early 20's Aqua texted me last week--

"Hey, Montgomery. Can you tell me if... "

Sign off: "Okay, thank you 🙂"

Proper punctuation throughout.

Once I got over the shock, I was impressed-- not by

her grasp of basic punctuation-- but by the courtesy.

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@aquasnoz
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There was this one time...

I really hate using my phone in the car and I HAD to send this message off to head office.

"car drvn b 10min l8 soz"

Honestly I wouldn't mind. Maybe I'm use to it? I slot right in the gap of that traditional going onto the hey iPad everything. I'll never understand why kids these days have to talk like that though. I mean they all have full keyboard phones anyway. I remember when I actually did use to abbreviate a lot more given the way old texting system worked. Past certain characters it automatically charges you for another text.

As most have said already, the way people text isn't necessarily a reflection of their character. If I know the person I can look past it.

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I always find it amusing people just can't write "fucking" is there something inherently wrong with the word fuck? Does the word fuck really make people fucking uncomfortable? Should I give a fuck when I say fuck all the time?

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@DwellingOnMove
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"No, in fact, I wouldn't date a person at all who contacts me through texts."

this is soooooo me.

I met a man at an old-year-party. He was Leo Sun with Gemini Mars. We exchanged numbers. He wrote me first. But I noticed he texted too much. In a place where we could meet or talk on the phone. I decided that I dislike him. We met once but it was dead on both sides. one more text out of politeness and that was it. finished. My guess is that he took numbers of other gilrs at the same party and was trying to manage it all at once.

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@justagirl
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Posted by djbuck1
No, words in any form are the verbal representation of oneself.

Anyone who thinks that they are not judged by the way they speak and write is living in a fantasy world.

Those of you who are trying- consciously or not- to drag literally everything down to the lowest common denominator by invoking lack of meaning (or total relativism) are only marginalizing yourselves.

Do you really think that standards are all relative because you say so? Do you really think that you aren't judged every day? If you do, you're a fool or a tool-- a useful idiot to those who want to promote illiteracy and lack of standards for their own ends.

Look at yourselves! A pack of self-absorbed little hedonists who think you have all the answers when you clearly haven't a clue about what is being done with you, by whom, and why. You just play right into their hands, willingly dumbing yourselves down and abandoning even the pretense of standards.

There was a thread this week wondering where you will all be in 60-70 years. You'll be utterly lost, having tried to erect a new world for yourselves that has no foundation stronger than your own puffed up egos.

+1

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@justagirl
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someone that types the way Truecap used in the title of this post? heck no. I deal with dyslexia... so that just messes with my head even more! How hard is it to type out words?

I understand if you are on a limited data plan, call instead! There is a difference between someone that struggles with typing, especially if they are not really a "texter" vs. plain lazy, which I classify TrueCaps example as lazy...

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
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I have seen alot of online profiles that say specifically they want their partner to not text like that and will not answer you. Grammar important, and it has alot to do with your upbringing. Especially the ones who have a really great educational background..I don't like texting short cuts.. but I have said omg, lol..

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
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Oh and yes I have met people that have profiles that text like that..and on dxp..it is confusing..Especially long paragraphs.. can be frustrating cause I want to understand you better. So I can give you an honest answer.

I even know people who are very punctual in vocabulary...if you dont know the difference between. To, two, or too..a person will dismiss your grammar ways and won't even bother with physical attraction. It's a turn off.

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@BoomShakalakaBoom
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To answer the OP:

"Wud u date sm1 who txs like dis?" is quite an exaggerated example to get your point across..

To be fair, the last time I remember someone texting like that was when I was a teenager, so no, I would not date a teenager right now since Im 31 years old. However I dont see anything wrong for a teenager who texts "normally" to date another teenager who texts like this. There is so much more to a person than they way they text

Having said that, I dont feel any better than someone who texts like that. Just because that person texts like that doesnt mean I should look down on him/her. Which I suspect the OP indirectly does, being a Cap and all 😛