How do you control your emotions and sensitivity?

I have noticed that I have a hard time controlling my emotions and feelings; I always feel I have to express or explain my feelings into depth in order to be understood. I often wish that I can sit back and not let things bother me, perhaps have the ability to have a nochalant attitude at times. I think if I could just sit back and chill and not react to everything that goes wrong in my life and just take it for what it is I honestly believe things would be much better. Most of all I would be much more relaxed and comfortable. People often tell me that I am too sensitive, too nice, and express to much and you know what? They're right. I am cancer and we are known to be the most sensitive zodiac; although we are great people I hate being so damn sensitive. What would you suggest?

Thanks in advance guys.

i completely understand where you are coming from...and i know, it sucks sometimes.
and, my boyfriend is an aqua so he is the complete opposite of me...very nonchalant, non-confrontational, not a worrier, and doesn't diplay his emotions often...
so that makes it even more difficult for me!!!

i was actually talking to my bf the other night and telling him how i was upset b/c my good friend was visiting and she left without ever saying goodbye or even calling to say "thank you" for staying at my house while she was in town...and he didn't think it was a big deal. and then i said, "maybe it's just me, maybe i am too sensitive"...and his response was "YEP"!!!

i'm very emotional too, it happens with the people i'm close to, if something is bothering me i let whoever it concerns know. i don't like to keep things bottled up inside. water signs are the most sensitive and it's hard sometimes to contain certain emotions. then again i have my moon in aqua so when i do get a bit tooo sensitive my aqua side will come out and tell me to suck it up.

It is hard to control your emotions and sensitivity. I try and try. But then when I do get them under control. I come across as being cold or a drill sergeant.

Emotions are rough...Because when I get hurt. All I see is red.

I am just so tired of hearing that I am too sensitive, too emotional and express to much. People make me look like this bad person because of this, and overall I am a good person but I get this way when I feel misunderstood or when I am not getting what I deserve. I wish I could be cold and distant because I have seen how others react to those type of people, it's like others cling to cold and distant individuals; Those who are sensitive and emotional like me tend to push others away. I just hate being this way.

Honestly right now I am staying to myself at the moment because I feel a bit embarassed for crying yesterday and expressing my feelings as the new year came in. It just seem like the little things I ask for from my S.O. (significant other) I cannot get, but it's always expected of me to do things right and make him happy putting a smile on his face; I was also thinking about what I had been through throughout the year, but now I just wish I would have just sat back and just relax and not expressed any bit of emotion. He feels that I am really that bad, and it makes him wonder sometimes whether or not if he wants to be with me. So right now I would rather be by myself and avoid all of the criticism.

You aren't bad. Being sensitive doesn't make you bad.
You need someone more sensitive, understanding and appreciative. Don't beat yourself up over it, especially over what someone else thinks of you. I know I can say that you shouldn't care what he thinks, but I know it's hard because you care about him.. what it boils down to is that you should love yourself more. Because one person doesn't like a and b about you doesn't make you what they see you as, it doesn't make you unlovable either. That man needs to grow up.. he's taking you for granted.

I'm somewhat emotional myself. If anything, I've learned that bottling negative emotions does no one any good but it is also good to practice healthy ways of dealing with them.
It's about stepping back and really putting things into perspective. Ask yourself questions and answer yourself honestly. Half the time you realize how unimportant something really is.
Find distractions, so as to not dwell in your pool of sadness, anger, frustration etc. Crawl yourself into your closet if you have to, dress yourself up and go out... anything that will turn your attention away from the situation. It really helps to get your head on straight.
You need that logic, remember that others don't feel the same way you do. Get to the point in as few words as you can and *realize* that the point of having a conversation is to find that ground between the two, compromise or just get a message across. IT IS NOT a counseling session. Expressing ALL of your deep emotions might just shut the other off... may be as simple as not understanding WHY you feel that way. It is also draining to others.
You need to CREATE the situation that will keep you happy and for freaks sake, SANE! If you can do that, you won't have to worry about feeling emotional and frustrated all the time.
You need to use your words and actions in a manner to achieve this. If it doesn't work, one or the two are unwilling it is your responsability to get yourself out of a relationship or situation that has you perpetually unhappy.
You are in control of yourself.

Everyone has given really good advice but I wanna point out to the last two posts -the one by RainingPeanuts and SimplyMe -please consider their advice
i agree you need to distract yourself - for some ppl writing a journal helps but like SimplyMe said - it can do more bad than good for some - in my case writing in a journal doesn't help

what i do is listen to upbeat music (no sad songs), i go out with friends, i clean out my junk (i feel it somehow clears my head by throwing out stuff that have piled up), i also pray, and i find taking a shower helps actually just being in water - feeling the water on my head and body soothes me - i just stand there close my eyes and focus on breathing and nothing else - just focus on every single detail of ur breathing (how ur belly moves when u breath, imagine the air moving from ur nose down ur airway to ur lungs)

i was VERY emotional and shy as a child - but i also realised that because i was so sensitive and shy it held me back from what i wanted to do - so i questioned ME - as to why i felt sad, why i felt happy, did it make sense to be so angry - i pretty much got insanely honest with myself with things ppl never own up to - honest about things ppl would be embarrassed about - i became responsible for my feelings.

now don't get it all wrong - i am still emtional sometimes and sometimes it does knock me down but i get back up and walk on it no matter how much it hurts (and even that is hard sometimes)- u gotta peptalk urself - u gotta love you