How often do you fall in love......

Just curious since I have a few friends & family members I seem to always be consoling.....They are beautiful girls inside and out but are on the constant prowl for love...online,clubs,bar...it doesn't matter they are always looking for it and when they "think" they've found it I'm the one they want to share "all the details" with. At least twice a month they have fallen in love with someone new...obsess over this person, introduce them to their family & their children and when it don't work out wonder why? Until next week when they meet the new love of their life! I don't get it? Do I hold my standards too high? I have been seeing the same person for a couple of yrs now...and although we don't have a commited relationship at the moment he's the one that has managed to capture my heart. I come across some very professional,attractive,financially set men and I pick them apart...I find something that turns me off and shut down...I'm not desperate for love & believe it happens when you least expect it...I don't quite understand how people I am close with are always falling in & out of love...I don't get the perception? I'm not easily impressed and just know it when I'm in it "love" your heart don't lie..do theirs deceive them?? What's your take on this?

@PH...I totally get it...the person I am seeing we met on total accident, he wasn't even suppose to be there that day had he not been covering someone elses beat..it was magical from the moment our eyes met..it was soo brief..a mater of 2min or less but I just knew! I left saddened by the thought of never seeing him again 😢 he ran out after me shy as he was it was "magical" the only word that comes to mind =) I meet men who are extremely attractive & all my friends are like what is wrong with you?! If you don't want him we will take him! I'm sooo picky, everyone I even give the chance to tells me I shoot them down before I even give them a chance..its not about a look per say..although I am always attraacted to eye candy of course initially a lot more has to be taken into consideration....its more about approach,mannerisms,personality, how one carries theirself & more so how I feel when I am with them. I just know me and cannot even phathom falling in love at a drop of a dime...its not how I was built so sometimes have a hard time understanding.....?

I know we can sometimes have our guard up but I just don't take something as fragile as "love" so lightly....I don't fall in & out and when I do fall it for the long term of it...I just don't understand how some hearts can fall so easily in & out of something so complicated, beautiful & fragile? I don't get it...the whole perception? I'm just lost..yet I'm the one they always confide in??I am not on the same page so do not feel as if I can give sound advice except guard your heart & take things slow...the same people...they never listen so I always get the obsessive beginnins and the always sad endings....😢

Haha! Sometimes more than twice a month..depending the month!haha!@Elle at least your honest! I should have titled the thread "How often do you fall in lust!" That's my next thread!

I've never fallen in love.


I've fallen in infatuation several times ... and fall in lust all the time


And relationship wise .. I don't fall, I submit to the experience and ride the rush as long as it lasts .. sometimes, it fizzles out, other times it lasts decades. But, never have I fallen, I'm always standing quite firm.

Mm, if they "fall in love" twice a month it probably isn't love. It's probably just the initial excitement of a new relationship that has their pleasure hormones shooting off emotional fireworks. I'd say in my lifetime I have thought I was in love, was I? Possibly, I don't think love discriminates by age, after all it did last a year before it turned to absolute hatred. I think there's a difference between falling in passion and falling in love. Passion can feel like love, it's nearly the same thing but it is not unconditional and ever lasting. It can trick us into thinking we feel love until one day it doesn't last forever and we're surprised. I knew this woman named Patti, most amazing human being I have ever met..she died of brain cancer this year..😭. My mom and I were taking care of her because her entire family lived in New York, my mother knew her before she was diagnosed with the rare kind of brain cancer..so it was hard. I remember as Patti's health declined the only thing she worried about was everyone else, her son, her mother, me, my little sister, her brothers and sisters, anyone she knew. When her mother was sitting next to her (this was after Patti lost her ability to respond and in general speak), she mustered out one thing..and that was "I'm sorry mommy." She wasn't sorry for herself that she was suffering, but sorry for her mother because she had to see her daughter that way. In my opinion Patti had -love- for everyone, real love, the kind that everyone strives for but no one finds because people are too selfish to feel it. It wasn't fiery romantic love, but it was indubitably pure and true...I totally agree! Of course its not love butwomen I am referring to think its full blown love to the fullest degree...introducing them to their family & children even...I will admit..even I have been infatuated maybe once or twice at most...but I knew it was infatuation..I wasn't intoducing to my children & family two days later claiming he's the one...if anything I'm excellent & picking apart...I'm too selective but then we should be. About Patti...great/sad story...thx for sharing...not many people these days have the gift she had to share..=)

well me persoannly can only be in love with one person at a time but that can change daily for me haha. I have a list of 3 people that I may be in and out of love with who knows?! I fall in lust very very quickly but it takes a long time for me to fully give my heart to someone. The possible three guys that I may have been in love with put in years of effort to get me to feel that way.

Falling in love doesn't necessarily take years or several months. Sometimes it just happens.

However, it's very hard to believe that someone can easily fall in & out of love over & over again.

Love at 1st sight one time? Cool. But if someone keeps swearing it's love at 1st sight every single time they find someone new, they have issues & need to remeasure what they consider "love" to be.

I've only been in love twice. Yes, I've met more than 2 great & worthy men, BUT falling in love isn't the hard part. It's STAYING in love that's the challenge & the true measure for which it was even considered love to begin with anyways

I doubt I have ever been in love but my brain chemicals tell me different 😛

Take a look at this thread ......

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/Aries-man-told-me-to-get-out-of-his-life-!-2618047.asp

That ^^^^ is what happens when people (usually women) fall ... and 99% of the time, it's not even love .... it's more like falling for any person who happens to look in their direction.

Below comes from that thread ... where the woman admits that the guy is horrible for her .. but, by God she wants him so bad that the thread is 8 pages long where she's desperate to get someone to tell her how to get this man to treat her the way she wants him to. They are a perfect match according to her.

Look at how he makes her feel .....

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... he is bringing the worst out of me... i dont like it.... I dont want to be like this.... I feel bad that I let myself go and got done by ...as in let myself get so angry etc...

...... and by god, she wants this man, she has fallen for this man.


And this is what most you women fall for .. and call it love.

I call it ... you're fucking idiots.

I love cats........I really love cats.......when I see a cat I just have to pet it....>sniff< it makes me sad cos theres so many cats out there and i just want to cuddle them all but I cant!

Every fucking time...

dont even mention staring at Scorpios. Damn that lust.

this would probably be the reason why i keep looking at the floor or something.

Starlover...great attitude....you live & you learn and you walk away more experienced. Harsh experiences in love are not always the little dramas that mark your memory...its also the some big lessons learned....

Kudos to lessons learned! She strikes again! "The friend" she's in love "again" she meets someone and let's herself become totally enraptured in him..she gets lost...she puts her life on hold for him..regardless of red flags she makes excuses for them, she makes herself totally avail and then poof they're gone and I will get the call to console her until the next time...sometimes I wish I could be this resilient in matters of the heart...its not in my nature & regardless of the effect it has on me...I'm glad =)