how to get over it

I haven't posted a thread in a while so here it goes...

I'm not completely over this guy, it did not work out for various reasons, but all in all I'm still attracted... and it sucks. I try to avoid his as much as I can and I have not spoken to him nor seen him since I got back to school.

But what makes it even hard to completely detach myself from him is the fact that we had such an awesome time together and then *BAM* he just moves on, doesn't call etc 😢 ,and then he randomly askes my friend tons of info about me and just the other day another friend told me he asked about me and so forth... He seemed really interested and still does but for some reason things are not going anywhere.

So far I've kept my guard up even though it never got serious... My conclusion is that he's "playing the field" but the bad part about it is that I still like him...

He's a taurus btw.

uugh I feel like such an ass...

We had an attraction for each other for months, but never said anything until I recieved this "secret admirer" card from him (I later found out it was him), then we hung out another night which was great, but I never called him because I expected he would call me----- he didn't, yet he askes about me 24/7... wtf?

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We had an attraction for each other for months, but never said anything until I recieved this "secret admirer" card from him (I later found out it was him), then we hung out another night which was great, but I never called him because I expected he would call me----- he didn't, yet he askes about me 24/7... wtf?

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fieryearth .. I'm going to be frank with you .. you wouldn't expect any less from me.

An attraction was in place for months in which you didn't act until he initiated first with contact about being a secret admirer

Then you two had a night together in which you could really have a great time

You never contact him, for you are believing he should do all this work, eventhough he is the one who actually approached first.

You are sitting back confused .... and yet, he did indeed make first contact and it's up to you to reciprocate/respond .. yet you don't.

Think about this from the other side .... what if you made first contact with a man to whom both of you knew there was an attraction, then he never called you back? Wouldn't you be left feeling rejected?

He still likes you because he's inquiring about you. You've heard us non-Virgo's go on and on about the infamous MIA of the Virgo, right? They pull away once feelings are involved.

You have pulled away from him, FE .. not the other way around. He initiated, he showed his interest, he paid you attention .. then you pulled away from him.

The reason why he's asking these questions about you is because he is still interested .... but, you have given him mixed signals .. you have confused him about your intentions of feeling him for real, much like we talk about on the Virgo board often.

If a person is really into another .. they don't pull away. This is what has happened and he's confused on whether you are real and honest, or not ... or whether you are playing with his head because once he made the first move ... you froze up.

"but I never called him because I expected he would call me"


He already made the first move ... it's your turn now.

You end saying wtf? That's probably what he's thinking .. wtf?

It's your turn, FE .. he showed interest, you are suppose to reciprocate if you are interested. If you don't show interest back, he will eventually write you off/move on.

"we had such an awesome time together and then *BAM* he just moves on, doesn't call etc"


There's no *BAM* .. he hasn't moved on .. he's still inquiring about you .. you've confused the hell out him, much like we bitch about on the Virgo board about you guys confusing us.

If you're interested in him .. SHOW him, FE .. that is what he is waiting for ..

.. he's waiting for you.

Oh Fieryearth, I totally understand where you are coming from re: the Taurus guy. I had an experience (I am a Virgal btw) with a Taurus guy and it confused the heck out of me. We used to drink in the same part of town and he would never communicate to me at all about his feelings. Instead he would ask all my friends about me , tell all his friends how he felt about me. It got so bad that anywhere I went everyone was asking about him, yet he hadn't yet made his feelings clear. Until I eventually blew up and put him on the spot and said if you want me tell me, cos I can't read minds LOL!

PS. Sometimes as a Virgo I need to be 90% sure that a guy is interested in me before making a move, I am willing to admit that I don't rejection & risk well LOL

How to get over it ? just put it down to experience, analyze any lessons you may need to learn and as they say in London "Jog On". Keep dating, pamper yourself etc because if you can't communicate clearly now , sometimes it won't improve or just talk to him xx

You are so right P-A. It's just hard to, I don't know where to start now since all this happened...

"You end saying wtf? That's probably what he's thinking .. wtf?"

lmao...

The reason why I am scared to give in is because I don't want to get hurt (when it comes down to it)...

"Sometimes as a Virgo I need to be 90% sure that a guy is interested in me before making a move, I am willing to admit that I don't rejection & risk well LOL"---- so true MsMarsInScorp, I think this i the main reason for me not making a move.