Sunflower3
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12 Years
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No love
How old are you guys? Just wondering...I'm pretty young and I don't know if that's the reason why, but I don't see myself telling someone I love them. That would probably take me a really long time.
I personally fall in love quite quickly and would expect similar...so I'd definitely struggle with your scenario after 8 months.
You have to decide for yourself whether you think you are being lead on or wasting your time. Do you feel he is falling in love with you? Actions speak louder than words and you should be able to feel it.
You have to decide for yourself whether you think you are being lead on or wasting your time. Do you feel he is falling in love with you? Actions speak louder than words and you should be able to feel it.
It takes some of us longer to fall in love. Sometimes even if we feel it, we're not sure whether its real love or infatuation.
Be proud he was honest! That's an amazing foundation to be able to be that honest. I hope you took it well and didn't make him feel bad. If you took it well, then he'll feel more comfortable being honest with you in the future.
What is his sign, by the way? Capricorn? Virgo? Aquarius? Taurus?
Be proud he was honest! That's an amazing foundation to be able to be that honest. I hope you took it well and didn't make him feel bad. If you took it well, then he'll feel more comfortable being honest with you in the future.
What is his sign, by the way? Capricorn? Virgo? Aquarius? Taurus?
I suggest continuing to build the relationship and don't bring it up again.
I wouldn't worry that much...if his actions are showing you he cares for you and enjoys you then let it come natural. He was honest and it hasnt been a year, you have time, and even if it didnt work out it wont be a waste just because he didnt say he loved you.
Yes be weary of the guy who can't seem to fall in love with anyone after a long time BUT also be weary of the guy who falls in love too quickly too
Falling in love isn't always about the other person. Understand that.
Falling in love is when you completely surrender yourself and your heart to that person. It's when you've allowed yourself to get past a certain point of vulnerability that you otherwise wouldn't have allowed if you didn't atleast like or somewhat love that person
When you look at it from that point, the fact that he's not technically 'in love' with you just yet may not be such a bad thing
If you guys have had a lot of problems with communication, intimacy or vulnerability already then there's a chance that he hasn't fully allowed you into his heart fully yet. The reason he hasn't may not be you, it may be him and inner issues he's had with that in the past
So don't be so quick to kick this guy out of your heart just yet
Remember that if there was a question of "When do you know you're in love?" Everybody's answer would be DIFFERENT!
Some people, b/c of extreme fear or past hurts they haven't forgiven or gotten over yet, may take a little bit longer to completely submit their heart to another person. Doesn't make them wrong or someone who is not worth holding onto
If anything, the people that are patient with giving their heart away fully are those who tend to understand AND appreciate the value of love a lot more than the people who fall in love quickly with any and everybody
Just offering a different perspective
Falling in love isn't always about the other person. Understand that.
Falling in love is when you completely surrender yourself and your heart to that person. It's when you've allowed yourself to get past a certain point of vulnerability that you otherwise wouldn't have allowed if you didn't atleast like or somewhat love that person
When you look at it from that point, the fact that he's not technically 'in love' with you just yet may not be such a bad thing
If you guys have had a lot of problems with communication, intimacy or vulnerability already then there's a chance that he hasn't fully allowed you into his heart fully yet. The reason he hasn't may not be you, it may be him and inner issues he's had with that in the past
So don't be so quick to kick this guy out of your heart just yet
Remember that if there was a question of "When do you know you're in love?" Everybody's answer would be DIFFERENT!
Some people, b/c of extreme fear or past hurts they haven't forgiven or gotten over yet, may take a little bit longer to completely submit their heart to another person. Doesn't make them wrong or someone who is not worth holding onto
If anything, the people that are patient with giving their heart away fully are those who tend to understand AND appreciate the value of love a lot more than the people who fall in love quickly with any and everybody
Just offering a different perspective
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