password on cell

What is your opinion on your significant other having a password on cell phone.

And keeping it hidden

Everyone is entitled to privacy whether they're in a relationship or not. If you trust your significant other, then you shouldn't even be worried about their phone, and if you don't trust him/her then you shouldn't be together.

Yes. I don't think you should be worried over it. I have a coworker who I WANT to have put a password on his phone because he wants to surprise his girlfriend with stuff but she always looks at whatever he's gotten her via his ebay application!! >_>

Suspicion

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish

Posted by Impulsv
It was a sign if the end after 8 year marriage when all of a sudden he got a pass code on his cell. I didn't make a deal of it but it was a sign nevertheless that I won't ignore again. In 6 months he asked for divorce

Yeah if the password wasn't there from the beginning I would be a little suspicious. Trust those spidey senses, woman's intuition is often right.

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Agreed...I had complete trust until after the fact...

I have a password on it because I dont want people knowing everything about me

Posted by cappy129
Everyone is entitled to privacy whether they're in a relationship or not. If you trust your significant other, then you shouldn't even be worried about their phone, and if you don't trust him/her then you shouldn't be together.

Agreed.

I have a password on my cell, just in case it gets lost or stolen.

I have, however, been in relationships where by coincidence or convenience we have had each others' passwords. But not for the purpose of checking up on one another.

Honestly, I probably wouldn't even know if he had a password on his phone or noticed if he suddenly added one. I value space and privacy and prefer to trust. If I get burned, I would still hold the same views. Personal privacy is just that important to me.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
He has to give me the password or else I take it that he is a cheater and he will get treated as such.
I learned the hard way. My ex had password on his computer, his phone, his email and I didn't know any of them. So he was cheating on me behind my back.
I no longer believe in privacy and if a partner asks me for some then I take it as a sign that he doesn't want to come closer to me.
What's the point of being private with your significant other? I know that my partner will bitch about me behind my back. That's normal. I don't like him to have secrets. I will not keep secrets from him anyway. Why should he?
He either accepts that or we are not together. We are just having sex and pretending to be together.
I want something real.

Well dayum.

I value my privacy entirely too much and reciprocate the same courtesy to my partner.

We are adults. I am not my man's mother and he is not my father. I want my man to be my man and I am surely not interested in parenting any children other than the ones that come from loins.

With that being said, there is something about requiring passwords that not only indicates a lack of trust, but also, insecurity, and that we are in some way "parenting" or in control of one another.

That is not the kind of relationship **I** want to have. I am all for stroking my man's ego and behaving in a manner, that never leads him to doubt my love, commitment, and loyalty to him. Consequently, I expect the same in return. However, that **to me**, does not translate into passwords. Because at the end of the day, if a person REALLY wants to cheat, we can THINK we have every password of theirs under the sun, and they will still find a way to cheat.

Game recognizes game.

In other words, one monkey does not stop a show. It just perpetuates insecurity and insanity within one's own self. I'd rather live free.

But that's just me. Everyone has a right to handle their scandal as they wish. That's what makes the world a beautiful place! Lol.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
@natural25
I would never demand the password but if he doesn't give it or has passwords everywhere I wouldn't trust him.
It is true that if someone wants to cheat they will however I like to do some testing.
I did test my cheating ex too that was doing whatever he could to cheat as much as he wanted.
He even reached the point on Valentine's day to want to have an excuse to leave. I threw an ultimatum he stayed with me and the other woman was texting like mad.. So I proceeded with the break up in an indirect way..
Best thing I ever did in my life.

But who wants to live their life testing people!?

Is life not already hard enough as it is without running tests and creating all these formalized checks and balances?

If I feel the need to run tests on a man, **to me**, we already have a problem. I am not sure where the problem lies, but someone please call 911, because Houston we have a problem.

Girl, I can't be bothered with all that. Lol. Maybe, my attention span or patience is too low. Lol.

Either I can trust a man at his word, or I cant. But I cant live my life running test like he's some kind of lab rat and I am the **cute** mad scientist. LOL.

But like I said, everyone has their own journey. My hat's off to you.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
LOL! I don't know. To me it comes natural.. I do it because it is in my personality.
It goes undetected but that's who I am . Maybe I am a nightmare.
lol... I don't think I am a dream girl.

We all have our own ways of maneuvering love and life. As long as it works for you. 🙂

I don't mind it to be honest. If it is lost, stolen or unattended then no one will have access to your information. Also I have a right to some privacy. My phone has all of my shopping purchases on it. I don't want him to know that, he would probably have a fit. Or send me to that STUPID shopaholics meeting he tricked me into last month. Man I was on fire when he did that.

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Posted by natural25
I value my privacy entirely too much and reciprocate the same courtesy to my partner.

We are adults. I am not my man's mother and he is not my father. I want my man to be my man and I am surely not interested in parenting any children other than the ones that come from loins.

With that being said, there is something about requiring passwords that not only indicates a lack of trust, but also, insecurity, and that we are in some way "parenting" or in control of one another.

That is not the kind of relationship **I** want to have. I am all for stroking my man's ego and behaving in a manner, that never leads him to doubt my love, commitment, and loyalty to him. Consequently, I expect the same in return. However, that **to me**, does not translate into passwords. Because at the end of the day, if a person REALLY wants to cheat, we can THINK we have every password of theirs under the sun, and they will still find a way to cheat.

Game recognizes game.

In other words, one monkey does not stop a show. It just perpetuates insecurity and insanity within one's own self. I'd rather live free.

But that's just me. Everyone has a right to handle their scandal as they wish. That's what makes the world a beautiful place! Lol.

The thread should've ended here.

You all got shutdown.

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You are too funny. Lol, ijs.

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by natural25
I value my privacy entirely too much and reciprocate the same courtesy to my partner.

We are adults. I am not my man's mother and he is not my father. I want my man to be my man and I am surely not interested in parenting any children other than the ones that come from loins.

With that being said, there is something about requiring passwords that not only indicates a lack of trust, but also, insecurity, and that we are in some way "parenting" or in control of one another.

That is not the kind of relationship **I** want to have. I am all for stroking my man's ego and behaving in a manner, that never leads him to doubt my love, commitment, and loyalty to him. Consequently, I expect the same in return. However, that **to me**, does not translate into passwords. Because at the end of the day, if a person REALLY wants to cheat, we can THINK we have every password of theirs under the sun, and they will still find a way to cheat.

Game recognizes game.

In other words, one monkey does not stop a show. It just perpetuates insecurity and insanity within one's own self. I'd rather live free.

But that's just me. Everyone has a right to handle their scandal as they wish. That's what makes the world a beautiful place! Lol.

It there really any point discussing this any further, after such an excellent post?

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Awww gee thanks!

Thanks guys....

Cunninglinguist... Love the name. Lol

My guy has a password on his phone, has since before we dated. He holds his phone right out in front of me when he types it in, not hiding anything. If I paid attention, I could easily watch and get his password, but I really don't care enough about having the password to pay attention.

Posted by ellessque
If I knew someone was going to snoop through my phone....I'd put some crazy shit on there for them to find 😈.

+100 😈