pissed off

im not sure how to start but, i do know how i feel. CONFUSED,BETRAYED,PISSED THE FUCK OFF,HURT AND OVERWHELEMED. Most recently i recived from who i thought was my commited boyfriend and onetruelove my clothes mailed to me in a box. keys mailed. Prior to that he said that his life was in turmoil and turned upside down/ there were alot of things that he needed to finally face/ he wasnt happy not even relationship/ i didnt do anything he says/ he checked himself into mental health for appts/he would explain all soon/ all in a text/.

He's mental and you're angry

I'm sure it hurts like hell that your guy is dealing with his mental issues instead of ignoring them ... but, as far as your stuff, I guess it's better he sends them to you rather than leaving your stuff back at the sane appartment building.

appts/not apt/ yes i have my own/ im not done/ my phone calls are restricted/he realizes that he wants to be w/ someone else/ he has mental issuses trying to over come/ i told he was a coward,decietfuland spiteful/ he aggreed/ he is only person who matters/ this is a long one because i have to backwards w/ all events. going yo work catch up later tonite.

Posted by hurtlover

he realizes that he wants to be w/ someone else/ he has mental issuses trying to over come/ i told he was a coward,decietfuland spiteful/ he aggreed/ he is only person who matters/ this is a long one because i have to backwards w/ all events. going yo work catch up later tonite.

right, I think


So, are you saying he's the only person who matters, or is he saying he's the only person who matters?

Posted by hurtlover
im not sure how to start but, i do know how i feel. CONFUSED,BETRAYED,PISSED THE FUCK OFF,HURT AND OVERWHELEMED. Most recently i recived from who i thought was my commited boyfriend and onetruelove my clothes mailed to me in a box. keys mailed. Prior to that he said that his life was in turmoil and turned upside down/ there were alot of things that he needed to finally face/ he wasnt happy not even relationship/ i didnt do anything he says/ he checked himself into mental health for appts/he would explain all soon/ all in a text/.

he states, he is only person that matters

Posted by hurtlover

Posted by hurtlover
im not sure how to start but, i do know how i feel. CONFUSED,BETRAYED,PISSED THE FUCK OFF,HURT AND OVERWHELEMED. Most recently i recived from who i thought was my commited boyfriend and onetruelove my clothes mailed to me in a box. keys mailed. Prior to that he said that his life was in turmoil and turned upside down/ there were alot of things that he needed to finally face/ he wasnt happy not even relationship/ i didnt do anything he says/ he checked himself into mental health for appts/he would explain all soon/ all in a text/.

he states, he is only person that matters

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He's right. And you should be the only person that matters to you.

He's doing what he needs to to be well and happy. You should do the same for yourself.

If we don't do this for ourselves no one else can.

hurtlover will wait with baited-breath for him to come to her ... women always do, no matter how they act otherwise.

p-angel your right about the waiting

Posted by hurtlover

... i thought was my commited boyfriend and onetruelove ...

Of course, I'm right, hurtlover ... because I speak from an impartial standpoint, while everyone else lets situations remind them of their lives in situations which were similar, and then comment on how it felt to them. So, to them, they make it personal.


The quote above is the only thing in this whole situation, as much of it as you've described here .... the only thing you need to realize.

What he does, what he says, who he is talking to, where he goes .... isn't important because it puts all purpose of the relatinship on him and what you will accept or tolerate of him. He has all power in this relationship, and you would let him have all your power if your concern is primarily him and what he wants.


You weren't in a commited relatinship, nor was he the one true love ... you need to realize the difference. He didn't think it was a commited relationship, nor did he think you were the one true love of his life .... so, what you need to take from this experience is the wisdom to know that just because you believe it to be so because your heart wants it to be so .. doesn't mean it is in reality.

There are signs all over the place when people are trying to get to know each other ... people should read them and interpret them, instead of just blowing past them and thinking they can change the other person.

He is out of his mind.
you have left him a message
Let it be.

thank you, this is far from easy, im exhausted and would like to stop from hurting.

Well if this guy isn't in his right mind right now, why are you complaining that you did the RIGHT thing by leaving you alone & only allowing his baggage/issues to torture him?

He could've been selfish & brought you & all his baggage down with him. Then you'd be pissed off even more, & swearing that you deserve better.

It sucks that he left in the way that he did, but logically & looking at the bigger picture, he did you a favor. If he's not even sane, how can he possibly be a good man/boyfriend for you? There's NO point of the relationship if neither of you are your best selves; if you're at your worst, the worst is about the only thing you can offer another person. And that's not fair, is it?

It sucks that the breakup happened over these pretenses but seriously, him being dead serious & honest about why he does NOT deserve you oughta be something you're grateful for. It's not every day where the average man has enough courage to strip himself of benefits/the woman he doesn't deserve.

Let him go. You deserve better. I'm not saying that you should act like this situation doesn't hurt, or that you should suppress your feelings. Def. get it all out b/c that's vital in helping you heal & eventually move on. BUT always focus on the bigger picture & the bigger pic. is that he's NOT right for you.

Hey, atleast you got your stuff back. He could've been "spiteful" like you called him & like he admitted and kept all your shxt, but he didn't. Seems like he's trying to be selfish & self-LESS all at the same time

thanks, im going to retire my msg and move on. I have had enough