Quick romance/engagement

Hey guys and gals...this is just out of interest to see your opinions.

My ex (and no Im not hooked on him coz he's a lying cheating Gemini and I am now in a somewhat new r/ship with somebody else but him and I are still friends) and I broke up late July (my choice as I couldn't take his lies, yada yada yada) but 2 weeks later he hooked up with a new girl he had only just met and they recently became engaged....2 months into the relationship. In those 2 weeks though, we hooked up one last time (for my b/day *sigh*...silly move)

ok well:

1. Basically she would be the rebound girl yeah? Even though I did the breaking up, I was pretty distraught and didn't even wanna know about another r/ship...sheesh!!!
2. Doesnt it take approx 6 months to get to know the REAL person and the infatuation, etc wears off?
3. She looks remarkably similar to myself - has he just replaced me with another look alike?


Don't get me wrong...I would be extremely happy if I thought they were really happy but Im just wondering what you all think here.....it just seems very quick to be getting engaged and talking about getting married within the next couple of months and NO she isn't pregnant LOL.

You would think that after 6 years in a long term r/ship he'd be a little more careful to be jumping in straight away....or am I strange in thinking that?

It only occurred to me to ask this today....but having said all of this and no matter what your answers will be...I am deleriously happy in the new r/ship I now have with a new guy although he is giving me serious headspin...librans!!!! LOL

Ok will be interesting to see how this topic goes *smiles*

Hi Chatz-

My ex (Gem.) did the same thing - when we divorced, he immediately was in another relationship. There are some men that do not like being alone - they NEED a partner or they feel weirded out (ego at work here). My ex married this Lady...are they happy? not according to my boys - when he told me of his engagement I was very happy for him and wished him the best. I have met her, spoke with her (she reminds me of his mother) and she seems to be very nice.

Personally, I think when some men have been "let go" they are deeply hurt or rather their ego is hurt and they need a band-aid (a new woman) to feel better.

Just keep focusing on you and your happiness - it all works out in the end....always.

I can top this story. Not sure if I shared this yet, but the Taurus ex of mine met someone less than 2 weeks ago and today they're getting married! This is the same guy that went with me to the concert last week. He was dating someone at the time that he met this other woman, broke it off with her, and proposed to this other woman. He called me Christmas Day and said "I'm getting married on Thursday".

I believe in love at first sight to a degree, but that doesn't mean you should get married right away. He's in for a rough awakening. I told him that it's probably a good thing they're getting married so quickly before his wife-to-be found out who he really is.

"There are some men that do not like being alone - they NEED a partner "

True. This same Taurus ex went from me to another woman whom he dated for 18 months, then tried to come back to me, then went to another woman for 6 months, then suddenly breaks it off with that woman and is now engaged.

I told him SEVERAL times that he needs a grieving period, but that he is either scared to be alone or just doesn't know how.

Wow.. and to think I was going to comment on this topic w/ some "advice"..HELLS NAH!!



*sneaks out the back-door*

lol a4 gemini!!! Its safe...promise 😉

Hmmmm you might be right about the needing to be with somebody....he did say that he can't stand his own company and needed that fresh start with somebody new....at the end of the day though, I just hope he's happy and that she isn't miserably hurt or misled by perhaps being that rebound girl or whatever....but one thing I do know is that she will find out about his lies one day....sad, sad, sad.

Wow HP that does top my story - sheesh!!! Ya see, I just couldn't do that....I take a LONG time to get over somebody and I guess that's why I gave myself those few months before I found that LIbra I've been on about.....and again, Im totally hooked and if he ends up walking away from us (which I hope not) it would probably take another 3 months to get over....I have to give myself that healing time.

they recently became engaged....2 months into the relationship.

ya its possible... i met my guy like 4 months ago and we're engaged for 3 months now 😛... so it took us a month to decide...

i dont belive u need to spend years and years to decide whose right for ya and whose not... usally the relationships that take longer are coz u KNOW deep inside the ohter person aint right for ya... whn the right one comes... u just dont waste time... thats my opinion though... u guys might not agree 😛

IMO ur EX thinks shes the right one and so didnt want to waste his precious time 😛

Usually guys who have to move from one "serious" relationship to another are just deperately needy. Chatz - his choice is no reflection on you or the relationship that the 2 of you shared.

Like Freebird said: "keep focusing on your own happiness."

yeah, my ex is a gemini and he started dating a girl prob. within a week after i broke up with him...and they worked together, so they had known each other for a while..but still, 1 week!!! and then a couple months later he called me to tell me that she was pregnant with his baby...now, 3 years later...they are married and have 2 kids.
i am happy for him. that is what he wanted and i wasn't able to give him that when we were together...but yeah, some guys just can't be alone...he is one of them!

hmmm ok thanks - I was just interested in seeing what others thought 🙂

leo/virgo75 thank you - that was a nice comment, and something he actually said too - in fact, he was embarassed for me to find out he'd moved on that quickly....there I was thinking he'd be distraught LOL.....but again, everybody is happy now and we have both moved on....that's the main thing 🙂

Thanks guys and girls

archer but I have moved on....I am happy for him and I am happy for me - we were, what I see, a mismatch. I am totally devoted to somebody else, however, I am also still friends with my ex so there is no trouble 🙂.....ignore this post and I do like that old proverb 😉