Jerrod1357
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Scorpio guy wanting taurus girl back--------------
And if you need any more info let me know.
Thank you.
Thank you.
I agree, you already out it out there. You have to let it be now. Pretend you never had that phone call and keep doing what you were before.
** you already put it out there **
Ahh! I agree with the let it go part. I'm normally on board with Elle but I have to disagree with her on this: All you can do is be the prize that you are and make sure she knows you are available to her.... at least the second half of it. You already made yourself available and she said no. Don't keep chasing. If you haven't been hanging out with her since the break up, don't start now. It'll make you look desperate for her and that won't help you no matter how it ends up.
You cannot make someone come back but you can definitely make them run further.
Ahh! I agree with the let it go part. I'm normally on board with Elle but I have to disagree with her on this: All you can do is be the prize that you are and make sure she knows you are available to her.... at least the second half of it. You already made yourself available and she said no. Don't keep chasing. If you haven't been hanging out with her since the break up, don't start now. It'll make you look desperate for her and that won't help you no matter how it ends up.
You cannot make someone come back but you can definitely make them run further.
Oh I know it ain't easy to let go, but it's best if you can. Just because I ain't strong enough to do it doesn't mean it's not how I think it should be done 😛
Also, not answering a question... is it's own answer.
You asked her if it was 100% over between you. There are TWO possible answers.
1. Absolutely not, we can make this work. Let's do it.
or
2. Anything else (including silence or an "I don't know")
Also, not answering a question... is it's own answer.
You asked her if it was 100% over between you. There are TWO possible answers.
1. Absolutely not, we can make this work. Let's do it.
or
2. Anything else (including silence or an "I don't know")
i'm gonna try and play it cool. But i do think of her alot. I guess i just need to do stuff to take my mind off her.
Waiting and not knowing whats going to happen really sucks.
Based on what i heard her new relationship is moving kinda fast. They became bf and gf faster than we did. So i'm thinking it was rushed and deffinently not buiult on a strong foundation like ours was. I kinda wish i knew what sign he was, but it would be pretty odd of me to ask her "hey, whats your mans birthday?" lol. And believe me, If she does come back (which i hope she does), i am never letting go again!
Waiting and not knowing whats going to happen really sucks.
Based on what i heard her new relationship is moving kinda fast. They became bf and gf faster than we did. So i'm thinking it was rushed and deffinently not buiult on a strong foundation like ours was. I kinda wish i knew what sign he was, but it would be pretty odd of me to ask her "hey, whats your mans birthday?" lol. And believe me, If she does come back (which i hope she does), i am never letting go again!
Thanks everyone! appreciate the advice it really helps.
I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a Taurus and I agree with the other comments. Just let it be, don't push, pressure or keep asking questions.. it will just push her away even more. I am not sure about your taurus, but my ex needed time to think EVERYTHING through. She needed plenty of space to be alone and mull the situation over in her head. If you rush her about it, she will just retreat further and further away from you. If she says she doesn't know, then take it for what it is and give her time. Taurus females are very deep and she will be thinking whether or not you fit in her future, despite the fact you guys had a solid past. They don't like to go back because they fear getting hurt again and nothing you say will change that. It is something she will have to work on alone and she will decide on her own. If a Taurus female feels that a situation will only hurt them again, no matter if they love you, they will walk away. Well, I am of course speaking based on my situation and the Taurus ppl I know. They have this crazy ability to separate their heart/emotions from their mind and go with what their mind is telling them to do.
Either way, you don't want to make yourself available for her, like you are sitting around waiting on her. She won't respect that and if anything it will make her feel she can go out, date around, get to know if her & her current bf will work out, because she figures you will always be there waiting on her if she decides to come back. If she thinks there is a chance she will lose you forever, she may come around sooner because a lot of times that sense of loss is greater than gaining something new. That is what happened with my ex, I was pressuring her and asking her to make a decision, because she kept saying she love me, has such a strong desire to protect & care for me and we still made love... yet she was still indecisive. As soon as I walked away she came running....
But at that point, I didn't trust her. So... after all that LOL.. yeah, like the above posters said.. give her space and do YOU!!
Either way, you don't want to make yourself available for her, like you are sitting around waiting on her. She won't respect that and if anything it will make her feel she can go out, date around, get to know if her & her current bf will work out, because she figures you will always be there waiting on her if she decides to come back. If she thinks there is a chance she will lose you forever, she may come around sooner because a lot of times that sense of loss is greater than gaining something new. That is what happened with my ex, I was pressuring her and asking her to make a decision, because she kept saying she love me, has such a strong desire to protect & care for me and we still made love... yet she was still indecisive. As soon as I walked away she came running....
But at that point, I didn't trust her. So... after all that LOL.. yeah, like the above posters said.. give her space and do YOU!!
"If she says she doesn't know, then take it for what it is and give her time. Taurus females are very deep and she will be thinking whether or not you fit in her future, despite the fact you guys had a solid past. They don't like to go back because they fear getting hurt again and nothing you say will change that. It is something she will have to work on alone and she will decide on her own. If a Taurus female feels that a situation will only hurt them again, no matter if they love you, they will walk away."
Oh yes.
Oh yes.
u Jerrod1357. For expressing yourself here. Breakups are hard, and I'm sorry for your breakup. However, there is always a reason for them.
Now, I don't know if you are just going to back off and slowly get on with your life, or if you want to examine the relationship so you can understand what happened and if something doesn't change, it will happen again. Or if you understand enough to know that you may truly need to move on for now or forever.
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Well i met this girl in college And everything was perfect. We went through ups and downs in the relationship, but it just made our love for eachother even stronger. We had both had previous relationships but were eachothers first TURE love. We were dating for almost 3 years. Well up until september, we were arguing more than usual and we didnt know what to do. So we decided to stop talking abruptly(Maybe there was a lack of communication?).
Why were you arguing so much?
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So we decided to stop talking abruptly(Maybe there was a lack of communication?).
If you stop talking ... = lack of communication.
I think you both needed some time away from each other to think. Maybe not months away from each other, maybe a few days, though. It would have been good if during the first couple of days one of you would have text the other to let the other know that you just needed some time to get yourself together, so that the other would know it was not a breakup.
It doesn't seem like it was an official breakup since you two "just stopped talking abruptly". But she evidently took it to another level and got somebody else. She's either needy (high maintenance and needs attention) or she was just biding her time with you for the opportunity to leave. I mean seriously, could she really get serious about someone else in less than two months after being with you for over three years? If so, she may have ended the relationship emotionally with you far earlier than you think.
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... She was more hurt in the break up than i was.click to expand
How do you know?
To pathfinder:
what i meant was around september we were arguing more than usual. And it wasnt even over serious stuff now to think about it. Alot of it revolved around our schedules and stress put on us from sources outside the relationship.
And i know she was hurt more in the breakup because of her texts after contact was made again. She was saying how she still had anger towards the situation and felt alone. Amd comparing her feelings to mine i know she was the more hurt one.
And yea she does like attention and likes when a guy makes her feel special in a relationship. I know for sure it wasnt that she was biding her time.
But yea, i think i have to just give her space and let her figure things out.
inluvgem: Yea shes the type that needs time to think everything over too.
Taurus dreamer: What do you mean the rest of her chart?
what i meant was around september we were arguing more than usual. And it wasnt even over serious stuff now to think about it. Alot of it revolved around our schedules and stress put on us from sources outside the relationship.
And i know she was hurt more in the breakup because of her texts after contact was made again. She was saying how she still had anger towards the situation and felt alone. Amd comparing her feelings to mine i know she was the more hurt one.
And yea she does like attention and likes when a guy makes her feel special in a relationship. I know for sure it wasnt that she was biding her time.
But yea, i think i have to just give her space and let her figure things out.
inluvgem: Yea shes the type that needs time to think everything over too.
Taurus dreamer: What do you mean the rest of her chart?
TaurusDreamer, I basically meant what you said. Let her know you love her, but don't beat her over the head with it. She already knows so it's no point to harrass her with it, or send love text and all that. If you rush her, she will just make a decision that you dont like. So I agree with TD, you already told her how you feel now leave her alone about it. Don't walk around moping, or trying to make her jealous with other females. Just hang with friends and do the usual, not anything that will make it easier to get over you like making out with someone or something like that.
Much luck you you!! you will need it with a Taurus!
Much luck you you!! you will need it with a Taurus!
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To pathfinder:
what i meant was around september we were arguing more than usual. And it wasnt even over serious stuff now to think about it. Alot of it revolved around our schedules and stress put on us from sources outside the relationship.
So, you're saying the break down in communication wasn't even about the relationship? I wonder why, then, she is seeing someone else.
To Pathfinder: No it was about the relationship too. But the other things that were happening had an effect on us too. But i strongly believe lack of communication was the biggest issue in this relationship. The topic has come up more than once when we were together about talking things out and being more open.
CutieBullie.. I feel you all the way with what you said. The OP would be good to listen your advice.
TD.. No offense taken or anything... you came off perfectly well, I just wanted to let you know I am in agreement with you. My ex is the same as you as far as that is concerned. If you say something she expects you to mean it and if you go back on that she won't trust you. Taurus females are just difficult to understand and me being an air sign and flexible found I had to bend way too much than normal to please her. Maybe she just wasn't fully developed or matured in her emotions because the word "compromise" was foreign to her. I am not sure if all Tauruses expect to stay the same,not change, and expect the other person to conform to them and their needs.
TD.. No offense taken or anything... you came off perfectly well, I just wanted to let you know I am in agreement with you. My ex is the same as you as far as that is concerned. If you say something she expects you to mean it and if you go back on that she won't trust you. Taurus females are just difficult to understand and me being an air sign and flexible found I had to bend way too much than normal to please her. Maybe she just wasn't fully developed or matured in her emotions because the word "compromise" was foreign to her. I am not sure if all Tauruses expect to stay the same,not change, and expect the other person to conform to them and their needs.
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To Pathfinder: No it was about the relationship too. But the other things that were happening had an effect on us too. But i strongly believe lack of communication was the biggest issue in this relationship. The topic has come up more than once when we were together about talking things out and being more open.
"But i strongly believe lack of communication was the biggest issue in this relationship." ~ Jerrod1357
Try listening more. Communication is more than having one's "say".
Its not that i wouldnt listen to her or the other way around. Actually, I liked listening to what she had to say because being open was one of her issues as well as i mine in some situations. so when she opened up and expressed herself, I was all ears. But it would take her a little time to open up. Is that what you meant by listening more?
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Its not that i wouldnt listen to her or the other way around. Actually, I liked listening to what she had to say because being open was one of her issues as well as i mine in some situations. so when she opened up and expressed herself, I was all ears. But it would take her a little time to open up. Is that what you meant by listening more?
Jerrod, what I meant by listening was more of opening up your mind to actively "hear" what is being said like you are INTERESTED in what is being said....as it is when you are trying to learn something. Don't just listen until you hear something you don't agree with or until you feel like YOU must make a point. Listen to what is NOT being said as well. Keep your mind open. Respond when asked to respond, not before. Alot of times, when we are in conversation, we only hear bits and pieces because we are too focused on OUR responses to what ever the speaker is saying. I've found that if I actually clear my mind of all preconceived ideas of my own, I can "hear" the person better. It's no longer about who will be right or wrong, or who's POV will "win" but a true interest in and respect for the speaker. Being at peace with yourself will generally help you be more accepting of different points of view.
Sometimes it's best to withdraw when you know emotions get involved by simply saying "honey, I'll have to think about that before I answer. Will you give me some time to think?" This is not avoid the issue. Avoiding a conflict is actually a hallmark of a failing relationship. I don't know if one or both of you gets emotional when speaking, but perhaps things can be spoken in such a way as is easier to hear. It's possible that any couple can talk about any subject and not agree. There are ways to respond that can facilitate rather than increase the temperature.
ok i see. Thanks again.
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This might be a little long, but advice would be very appreciated.
Well i met this girl in college And everything was perfect. We went through ups and downs in the relationship, but it just made our love for eachother even stronger. We had both had previous relationships but were eachothers first TURE love. We were dating for almost 3 years. Well up until september, we were arguing more than usual and we didnt know what to do. So we decided to stop talking abruptly(Maybe there was a lack of communication?). She was more hurt in the break up than i was. And we still had feelings for eachother.
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I feel like this guy happened to be in the right place at the right time and hes kinda her "rebound". A way for her to cope with us not being together (we were so in love).
She said she still has some anger towards the breakup so i know that will take time to heal, But waiting is not easy for me. I dont want to talk to her too much and push her away, but at the same time i dont want to do nothing and watch her drift away. Everyone that knows both of us says we are made for eachother and we we will get back together.
I feel like me and this girl are destined to be together.
Any Advice?