Signs a man is afraid of committment

What are the signs a man is afraid of committment?

I met this guy a few months ago. We hit it off real well. I mean we hung out everyday. Recently he was relocated to another state. We still communicate but not as much. I noticed the communication stopped after he mention that I could apply for a position near him. I was really surprised he said that so I responded with that I always wanted to live in there area. After that the communication slowed down tremendously. So did he get scared or what?

Welp, him simply giving you job advice doesn't mean anything. Him doing so isn't what I'd consider, a hint that someone wants to be with you or want you closer to them. Anybody could've given you that advice. The mere fact that the communication stopped after you guys had that conversation, speaks volumes.

Maybe he's not that into you. Maybe he's only slightly interested in you BUT not enough to the point that he feels the desire to be consistent and/or keep up the communication with you. Make no mistake about it, when a person likes you or wants to get to know you, they'll put in the time/effort/energy to do so, no matter how busy they are.

You can usually spot a commitment phobe:
*When guys literally tell you they are afraid of commitment. You'd be surprised at how many are brutally honest with you about this. Their reasonings may not make sense to any of us, but in THEIR minds, it makes perfect sense..and it's very difficult to get a man out of that mindset until he's ready (which might be awhile)

*When guys spend alot of time talking to you about how badly they've been hurt by an ex or a specific situation that they associate with commitment. It's not to say that people who have been hurt won't want commitment again, BUT if their commitment to someone got them hurt in the 1st place, there's a big chance they'll try to avoid commitment again for awhile..atleast until they sort out their issues/baggage.

*When guys establish short mini-romances with multiple women but yet never seem to ever transition into the relationship stage with any of them. Some guys will cuddle with you, sex you, spend alot of time with you, & whisper sweet nothings in your ear at night, BUT these types of guys always come up short OR have a list of excuses when the topic of commitment comes up. These types will do everything men in relationships do, but the moment they can feel you OR themselves attaching/things getting serious, they'll disappear and/or find a reason to move on to someone else. This keeps them from ever having to commit.

*Some people give themselves away when they constantly down talk love. Ya know, the types that seem very pessimistic about love/romance/dating. They spend all their time categorizing women or thinking they're all the same. Alot of the men who seem to be a little TOO ok w/o love are generally commitment phobes. They have a pessimistic attitude about it, in which their attitude about it is usually a cover up and/or another form of saying, "I'm a commitment phobe." If they have 101 reasons why love/commitment sucks, they don't usually believe their own reasons; they just have to come up with SOMETHING so they don't have to verbally say, "I'm a commitment phobe."

...he's a Taurus.. LOL j.k.

krysrenee7 gave a very good list.
When my cancer broke up with me he basically said he wanted to have many short term relationships as opposed to a few long term ones. That pretty much summed it up for me.

Posted by zantetzuken
krysrenee7 gave a very good list.
When my cancer broke up with me he basically said he wanted to have many short term relationships as opposed to a few long term ones. That pretty much summed it up for me.

Yeah that's normally a tell-tale sign of a commitment-phobe. PST, and they say don't worry about a person's past! BULL, a person's past can tell you alot about who they currently are AND exactly where they're going. If a man has a past history/pattern of never really making it to relationship stage with alot of women, it's probably b/c somewhere a long the line, he's making it so that something conveinantly goes wrong around the time the topic of commitment is brought up. Oldest trick in the book.

It's 1 thing to see a guy who goes around dating the field alot. Him doing so might make him a whxre who just needs to "pick 1," BUT, I think it's all about intention.

I don't respect the men who around establishing short mini-romances with women knowing that IF AND WHEN (b/c it WILL happen eventually) feelings finally come into the equation, they'll come up short. You know, the guys who will cuddle with you, say everything you want to hear and/or basically invest their time/energy into you as if they were already your boyfriend, only to pull the disappearing act or "I'm not ready" line when the topic of commitment comes up.

It's amazing, people love to play house and/or engage in these FWB relations as if they were already in a relationship but yet they act like having that official "title" with someone will kill them. The title is the EASIEST part, not the hardest part. If anything investing all your time/energy into a person should be where people hesistate, but no, commitment phobes only start hesistating when it's time for the title b/c they know that having that title means that they're obligated to follow some boundaries. So sad

On the other hand though, I can always respect a commitment phobe b/c atleast they're not selfish enough to actually enter into a relationship with someone, especially after knowing good & damn well that they can't really give their all.

Pst! So many men/women will enter into relationships knowing that they don't have themselves all the way together. They'll be with someone even if they know they can't give the other person what they truly deserve.

That's why I can respect commitment phobes. They're actually doing us a FAVOR by sparing us from an unfulfilling, 1-sided relationship. I'd rather catch feelings for someone & end up leaving their azs for not commiting to me vs. spending 5 years of my life in a commitment with someone who was only there for me OR only committed even if they weren't ready for it. Both scenarios completely suck BUT I'd take a FWB anyday over a relationship with only 1 person plugged in!

virgo78, he could have been just saying that to see how much you wanted to be with him. Guys do that. When you were seemingly considering it, it answered his question. Since the communication has decreased after, I wouldn't contact him anymore until he contacts you. I don't care how much I missed him. Let him call you and try to keep up with you. After all, HE moved away, not you. Let him do the pursuing. You don't have to change a thing about yourself at this point with him, except YOUR availability.

Posted by Skykomish
...he's a Taurus.. LOL j.k.

LOL man oh man, that hit me hard.