The Need For Self Identity For Attraction

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

I got this idea from responding to this guy on her constantly writing about his Gemini woman. She seems distant but he checks in with her regularly. I state here clearly that a relationship NEEDS to be two separate lives combined at a point. The more a person sheds the mystery of the day to day the more boring that person becomes. Agree or disagree and why—

Absolutely.

However, you will change when in a relationship...just how much... and, towards what end?

The composite chart will answer that question.

I labsolutely love who I am single. I miss her sometimes. Although, in the composite chart with my husband, my placements are still quite visible. So, a little bit of change for me... Quite a bit more for him.

That's why I'm fine with or without a relationship...I luvs who I am alone and don't really want to change none...but, that's illogical, irrational, or maybe even impractical to not exoect to change some.

That's why when people see yoh truly loving yourself...to the point where you are truly living your life (not as a result of having to learn to do so but naturally) they are attracted to you.
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Posted by GemCurioThe1

I got this idea from responding to this guy on her constantly writing about his Gemini woman. She seems distant but he checks in with her regularly. I state here clearly that a relationship NEEDS to be two separate lives combined at a point. The more a person sheds the mystery of the day to day the more boring that person becomes. Agree or disagree and why—


I disagree. If your partner becomes a mystery, you could say goodbye to your “separate” life. Your thoughts and actions will start revolving around what the fuck is he hiding, why is he drifting away, why are his actions not matching his words, is he still in love with you, does he even like you or has the grass grown greener elsewhere, is he cheating, planing to leave you, what else….?!

It is the way some deranged people make others insecure, and practically enslave them to their moods….look how pathetic that Sag has become. I’m sorry, but that’s not the opposite of boring. These people are not having the time of their life, but are trapped in a personal hell. Every bit of normality they experience comes as a huge relief from stress, and is perceived as something special, even if it looks piss poorly compared to the special moments experienced by others in a loving and committed relationship.
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“Mystery” is something positive only at the beginning of dating, not in an established relationship. I believe you need to be already attracted to someone to perceive them as a mystery to be solved. To others, the same mystery person may be simply invisible or -god forbid- boring.

I'm definitely boring if you don't like me then there is no mystery to it, I pretty much do the same shit day in and day out, I think the same thoughts I've thought for as long as I can remember, have the same likes and dislikes, my life is exactly the same since day one. Lol!
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I find you a bit vague...like a little bird that is omnipresent in your garden, but it moves so quickly that it almost becomes invisible.
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“Mystery” is something positive only at the beginning of dating, not in an established relationship. I believe you need to be already attracted to someone to perceive them as a mystery to be solved. To others, the same mystery person may be simply invisible or -god forbid- boring.

I'm definitely boring if you don't like me then there is no mystery to it, I pretty much do the same shit day in and day out, I think the same thoughts I've thought for as long as I can remember, have the same likes and dislikes, my life is exactly the same since day one. Lol!

I find you a bit vague...like a little bird that is omnipresent in your garden, but it moves so quickly that it almost becomes invisible.

What do you mean by vague because I'm pretty shared my entire life story here 😃
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Not very deep and steady......ADHD, perhaps? Unless you are are a Gemini....
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“Mystery” is something positive only at the beginning of dating, not in an established relationship. I believe you need to be already attracted to someone to perceive them as a mystery to be solved. To others, the same mystery person may be simply invisible or -god forbid- boring.

I'm definitely boring if you don't like me then there is no mystery to it, I pretty much do the same shit day in and day out, I think the same thoughts I've thought for as long as I can remember, have the same likes and dislikes, my life is exactly the same since day one. Lol!

I find you a bit vague...like a little bird that is omnipresent in your garden, but it moves so quickly that it almost becomes invisible.

What do you mean by vague because I'm pretty shared my entire life story here 😃

Not very deep and steady......ADHD, perhaps? Unless you are are a Gemini....

Ah no mental issues here I've steadily gone to uni and grad school. Actually I am very deep and steady is my middle name.
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Hmmm....maybe it's just the way I perceived you, then. What is your sign?