What caused this breakup?

What was the main cause of this split? Please read the whole post before answering:

1) We dated for 4 months, got to know each other over the course of a year
2) We're teens (under 18)
3) His reason for dumping me was that he just wasn't ready for a relationship, but he said that we could still be friends
4) He seemed VERY INTO ME until one week prior to the break up, when he was a little less physically affectionate and didn't see me quite as often (but that could be because of parental intervention--see 9).
5) Up until MINUTES before the break up he texted me ALL throughout the day (as he always did after we started dating) asking about my opinions, interests, what I was up to, giving me updates about his life, saying good night, etc.
6) I was recovering from surgery... so maybe he just texted all the time because he felt bad for me? We discussed many other things beyond how I was recovering though
7) He bought me flowers about a week before the break up due to my injury
8) He always kept up with doing me little favors/being a gentleman
9) One of his parents (who he is VERY close to/who he allows to control nearly his ENTIRE life) made it clear they did not like him dating. They wouldn't allow us to be completely alone together.
10) He is very passive (conflict avoider) and aims to please his parents first and foremost
11) I was his first gf. As far as I know he hasn't dated in the months since.
12) I said I couldn't be friends for a while because I didn't trust him. He sent the last text saying he was sorry, and neither one of us has initiated contact since.
13) After, he didn't help me with my injury, but acted like a polite stranger up until last month. Now, he acts like I don't exist.
14) I've actively avoided him, making sure he was uninvited from a gathering of mutual friends.
15) When people ask his best friend what happened, he says it just "kind of faded"/"ran its course"

Did he lose attraction? Did his parent make him (is he embarrassed to say so)? Was he just not ready? Thank you!

Maybe he really wasn't ready for a relationship.


"I was his first gf. As far as I know

he hasn't dated in the months since."


"I said I couldn't be friends for a while

because I didn't trust him. He sent the last

text saying he was sorry, and neither one of

us has initiated contact since."


Soo... this one seems kind of self-explanatory,

unless there's something you're not telling us.

I wouldn't keep trying to figure it out. If he is telling everyone that it ran its course I'd accept that as the true reason for the split and I'd focus on having fun with my friends.

I say this because the publicly known reason will always be the true reason as far as anyone is concerned. So, to drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out is like chasing your self in a room full of mirrors. You'll be comfortable with one idea one minute, then be considering the other 3 or 4 the next and itll be never ending so don't do it hun just stop.

Forget him. He sounds a little weak and like he knows what the right things to do are, but still cannot stand up for himself or be consistent enough the right way.

Immaturity.

Every idiot can fuck or have a relationship. We are all animals, and there is nothing more natural than this.

Shouldn't you obsess about getting good degrees instead? This is the time to get an education. You have all the rest of your life to fuck and get fucked.

And btw...there are no answers to your questions. When this happens, we simple say "Bring on the next one...when the time is right".

Posted by Spelunker11
What was the main cause of this split? Please read the whole post before answering:

1) We dated for 4 months, got to know each other over the course of a year
2) We're teens (under 18)
3) His reason for dumping me was that he just wasn't ready for a relationship, but he said that we could still be friends
4) He seemed VERY INTO ME until one week prior to the break up, when he was a little less physically affectionate and didn't see me quite as often (but that could be because of parental intervention--see 9).
5) Up until MINUTES before the break up he texted me ALL throughout the day (as he always did after we started dating) asking about my opinions, interests, what I was up to, giving me updates about his life, saying good night, etc.
6) I was recovering from surgery... so maybe he just texted all the time because he felt bad for me? We discussed many other things beyond how I was recovering though
7) He bought me flowers about a week before the break up due to my injury
8) He always kept up with doing me little favors/being a gentleman
9) One of his parents (who he is VERY close to/who he allows to control nearly his ENTIRE life) made it clear they did not like him dating. They wouldn't allow us to be completely alone together.
10) He is very passive (conflict avoider) and aims to please his parents first and foremost
11) I was his first gf. As far as I know he hasn't dated in the months since.
12) I said I couldn't be friends for a while because I didn't trust him. He sent the last text saying he was sorry, and neither one of us has initiated contact since.
13) After, he didn't help me with my injury, but acted like a polite stranger up until last month. Now, he acts like I don't exist.
14) I've actively avoided him, making sure he was uninvited from a gathering of mutual friends.
15) When people ask his best friend what happened, he says it just "kind of faded"/"ran its course"

Did he lose attraction? Did his parent make him (is he embarrassed to say so)? Was he just not ready? Thank you!

The bolded portions are your answer.

Listen to Undine, we are all animals




that is all the more obvious when observing humans under the age of 18.

tsk ... jfc, I don't like teenagers, they're dumb as fuck

Girl, guys at this age aren't ready, he didn't lie about that.

Posted by Spelunker11
What was the main cause of this split? ...

9) One of his parents ... made it clear they did not like him dating...
10) He is very passive (conflict avoider) and aims to please his parents first and foremost

... Did he lose attraction? Did his parent make him (is he embarrassed to say so)? Was he just not ready? ...

My Impression: He got tired. Things got old. He felt his own weakness. The attraction is not gone but does not drive him to do more.

My first love went messy too. My mother wanted to protect me and was sarcastic about him. I could not fight for two people. I gave up on him.