Which way works best?

Dating multiple people at the same time & then eventually picking 1 out of the bunch?
OR
Dating 1 person at a time?

From your own experiences, which way landed you the best/longest-lasting relationship?

I get why people date more than 1 person at a time. It's so-called 'not putting all your eggs in 1 basket'

BUT

On the other hand, how can you truly get to know them all or know whose the best if you're constantly dividing all of your attention b/w them all?

You might miss red flags OR miss the good things all b/c on Tuesday & Friday you're courting & focusing on someone else!

My 1 male friend calls dating multiple women at the same time, "insurance."

My thing is, IF you've got good instincts & know how to pick em from the door, why do you need to date all those extra people that you probably know deep down aren't what you're looking for?

Eventually you're gonna have to focus on just that 1 person AND be ok with only being with 1 person so why not start practicing it from the beginning?

What do you truly have to lose?

When I was single, I had no problem or fear dating 1 guy at a time. I knew how to pick em plus I was realistic in knowing that everybody won't be a prince.

Shoooot it saved me lots of time, phone calls, money & gas that I didn't have to waste on 5 other guys all b/c I didn't have faith in my own abilities to know how to pick em!

Guys, I'm sure juggling all those women gets exhausting!!!!

I love the way you think!

I think it's easier for guys to juggle the opposite sex moreso than it is for us chicks.

We're just not wired that way whereas guys are taught that the more the better (the whole 'variety' thing)

1 thing's for sure...if you start out dating lots of people at once, that's cool BUT eventually you've gotta narrow stuff down.

It makes no sense to just NOW be cutting off all the extra dead weight the day you get into a relationship!

By the time you make it official with someone you should've BEEN cut the extras off!

If anything, I'd be afraid to commit to someone unless I've had enough time to have 1-on-1 with them.

I can't truly make a logical decision about whether someone is right for me if they don't at some point have my undivided attention!

how about you just keep it to 1 person so you dont become a slut. both for men and woman. also, take a real nice look at the people who are 'not putting all their eggs in 1 basket'. chances are those are the type of people that you DONT want to be like.

Or the Chatroulette- style dating. Just back-to-back in short bursts until you get to one you really like. Fast, efficient, easy, fun😄

I suppose it depends on the person. Casually dating one man/woman at a time gives way to learn more about the person on a more personal/intimate level. You can learn what you have in common and who you click with. The flip side to that is that if one becomes more attached than you, it can make it harder to break it off w/o things becoming messy.

From my experiences, I found that casually dating more than one at a time, keeps things "light" and more on a friendship/NSA level. I can usually tell who I'm going to click with and and who I'm not. I can better gage who I want to give more of my time to when there is a bit of distance involved so, when the time comes to "take it to the next level" there is already a foundation there and makes the transition from friend to more than friend smoother.

I would say just do what works for you 🙂

I can't do this, not wired that way. If I belong, that is it, that is all. Not to mention, I should think one man and all his roller coaster rides is more than sufficient *cheeky lil' grin* ..who wants to juggle more than one? I don't. And he bettah feel the same way bout me too, or I'll dot his 'i'. 😄

I "talk" to multiple people at a time. When I do find one that tickles my fancy, I cut off ties with the rest. I don't like dating more than one person at once, as it makes me feel like I am "cheating" on the others, even if we aren't exclusive.

Who really can handle more than one at a time anyway? lol