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Drama. Why are men so sensitive? just wondering?
What did you do.. Accidentally flirt with someone?
Posted by AybLynk
What did you do.. Accidentally flirt with someone?
lol no I don't flirt. He just takes some of my actions to heart.
Lol I see.. Well, I'll stay out of this one for now.
Every guy has a kewl down time...
But yeah fuck stroking egos all day...
let him give you a sign that he wants to squash it after he's settled a bit.
Posted by Lobo
Every guy has a kewl down time...But yeah fuck stroking egos all day...
let him give you a sign that he wants to squash it after he's settled a bit.
THANK YOU!! I miss dating a Virgo, so much clear logic.
I think he has too much pride and wont admit that I hurt his feelings. He thinks he's superman (that's actually his nickname lol😛). Honestly I care about him and I'd listen without judgement if he told me how he felt, but...ugh he's given me a headache, I'm off.
a little ego stroking never did anyone any harm
How else are you gonna get your girl to pay attention? Polls show that domestic violence is not very popular anymore. Pouting is a guy's last resort these days.
If I'm pouting it means you haven't been listening. You know, that little thing that belongs on top of the list of the things you should be doing when in a comitted relationship. So it's not always about ego strokes, but admittingly there are serious and then there are some less serious stuff you can pout about.
Posted by iceredrobot
You make one little mistake and they're pouting for days. I can't be stoking egos all day, I have things to do. Sometimes I just jump ship and let him deal with it himself. I thought guys were supposed to be tougher? At least when I'm upset I get it out of my system and move on. But nooo, they have to drag it out. So much unnecessary drama.
Yeah and I'll just dump your ass if you don't pay close enough attention, how's that for tough? Remember you implied that YOU made the little mistake, so why shouldn't he be upset? Shit, women these days would get away with murder and it'd still be the guy's fault.
Someone should ship you off to a time when men were still "men", see how you'd like that... There would be no tiptoeing around the little princess, I can tell you that.
I deadass hate when females "ego-stroke". Especially when they think I dont know when they doing it.
That's the kinda shxt that gets to me.
Posted by iceredrobot
You make one little mistake and they're pouting for days.I can't be stoking egos all day, I have things to do. Sometimes I just jump ship and let him deal with it himself. I thought guys were supposed to be tougher? At least when I'm upset I get it out of my system and move on. But nooo, they have to drag it out. So much unnecessary drama.
In his defense, you did drink his last beer.
But seriously, just get him one of these for his car.
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Posted by AybLynk
I deadass hate when females "ego-stroke". Especially when they think I dont know when they doing it.
That's the kinda shxt that gets to me.
There there *strokes your hair*
Posted by piranhaparadiise
mine too !!! but he's a pisces and pisces moon...so you can imagine...he's been pouting for a couple of days all because I said I wouldn't see him on the weekend lol...
I get over stuff in like 30 mins ...an hour at tops...but him days lol...
lol!! Exactly! wth is with the pouting??
Posted by enfant_terrible
How else are you gonna get your girl to pay attention? Polls show that domestic violence is not very popular anymore. Pouting is a guy's last resort these days.If I'm pouting it means you haven't been listening. You know, that little thing that belongs on top of the list of the things you should be doing when in a comitted relationship. So it's not always about ego strokes, but admittingly there are serious and then there are some less serious stuff you can pout about.
Posted by iceredrobot
You make one little mistake and they're pouting for days. I can't be stoking egos all day, I have things to do. Sometimes I just jump ship and let him deal with it himself. I thought guys were supposed to be tougher? At least when I'm upset I get it out of my system and move on. But nooo, they have to drag it out. So much unnecessary drama.Yeah and I'll just dump your ass if you don't pay close enough attention, how's that for tough? Remember you implied that YOU made the little mistake, so why shouldn't he be upset? Shit, women these days would get away with murder and it'd still be the guy's fault.
Someone should ship you off to a time when men were still "men", see how you'd like that... There would be no tiptoeing around the little princess, I can tell you that.
I'm a very good listener!! So it can't be that. It's little things like when I'm tired and moody and snap at him. lol@ ship me off
In his defense, you did drink his last beer.
But seriously, just get him one of these for his car.
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hahaha!!
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
a little ego stroking never did anyone any harm—?
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well I can be nice SOMETIMES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think men are def. alot more sensitive than women. Will they admit it? No. But their actions speak louder than words.
Sounds like your guy needs to grow up. He needs to learn to pick his battles. Sounds like he wants you to cater to his insecurities/fears & when you don't, it brings out the man-trums even harder.
If that's the case, I don't think it's so much of him being a human male that's the issue, but moreso that he's immature & perhaps more sensitive than you'd like for your man to be.
People period need a certain amount of 'ego-stroking' but when it gets obsessive it's b/c they're insecure & need your constant catering to somehow fulfill that void.
Any every time you uneccessarily cater to that void, he's going to get worse b/c you're enabling him to continue doing it.
Sounds mean but hey, you teach people how to treat you. I bet if you stopped catering to his ego when unnecessary he'd stop asking you to!
He needs to man up! Sheeesh
Cook him a nice dinner, that should fix your problem.
i treat mine the same when he's pouting as when he's not. if he won't tell me what's going on, then how can i know? i just keep it moving
Aw, his little Pisces feelings are hurt. Say your piece, you can even apologize if its warranted - but then be done with it. Dont give it anymore attention than it deserves. He will get over it.
Of course I want you to 'cater my fears and insecurities', how else am I gonna "know"? Why is it so unacceptable for men to have "emotional baggage"? Shit, accept me for the way I am, is it so damn hard? Am I not always there for you?
Just read about the Cancer moon to get an alternative take on the "rubbing of the ego" and the "catering fears and insecurities". You might learn something about your fellow man. Some of you have way too high expectations of men.
I'm usually very demanding in the getting-to-know-you stage which for me sometimes can take up to two years or more, depending on how open you are with me! Many "friends" get cut off during this stage - rightfully or not I don't know - I just know I don't keep any part-time friends. Same goes for my relationships. Once I really know your inner workings my guard lets down and there is no more need for reassurance. I just "know". But if you're not good at corresponding your feelings then we're gonna have a problem...
Posted by Dreamer02
Dont give it anymore attention than it deserves. He will get over it.
I will remember that the next time a girlfriend needs reassurance, I'll just keep ignoring her till she "gets over it". That should do it.
NOT.
Posted by ellybd
Make him a sammich.
hahaha makes it snappy!😉
@ellybd: Yeah ok I sense I may be overreacting, most of you seem to be talking about more extreme cases, except for iceredrobot who wants a guy with the emotional life of a psychopath.. 😉 But no, spending night after night trying to ease paranoid jealousies is way over the top, lol!
I'm not gonna make excuses for needing reassurance, ego strokes and the occasional catering of fears and insecurities. Every human being needs these things more or less, some just hide it better than others. If you have a problem providing that sense of security then I'll just gonna have to find someone else who will. I wouldn't ask you to do anything for me that I wouldn't do for you.
Lets be real, he was being a little bitch and I snapped, so he went to the corner and cried. I'm not here to be his mother, and at 26 he needs to get it together
Posted by enfant_terrible
Of course I want you to 'cater my fears and insecurities', how else am I gonna "know"? Why is it so unacceptable for men to have "emotional baggage"? Shit, accept me for the way I am, is it so damn hard? Am I not always there for you?...
You're missing the point.
Catering to someone b/c they deserve it & b/c it helps bring 2 people closer is 1 thing & makes sense.
But if someone is a straight up cry baby who needs his back patted 24-7, it gets annoying & def. does NOT bring 2 people closer together.
Yes everybody has baggage, BUT not everybody wants to spend the entire relationship carrying it the whole time! And anyone who would expect me to cater to constant baggage that never goes away is selfish & perhaps should be single until they learn how to stop having tantrums
Someone who constantly whines & needs the validation like a child is annoying. Like with children, it's cute in the beginning but eventually it gets old.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Of course I want you to 'cater my fears and insecurities', how else am I gonna "know"? Why is it so unacceptable for men to have "emotional baggage"? Shit, accept me for the way I am, is it so damn hard? Am I not always there for you?...
You're missing the point.
Catering to someone b/c they deserve it & b/c it helps bring 2 people closer is 1 thing & makes sense.
But if someone is a straight up cry baby who needs his back patted 24-7, it gets annoying & def. does NOT bring 2 people closer together.
Yes everybody has baggage, BUT not everybody wants to spend the entire relationship carrying it the whole time! And anyone who would expect me to cater to constant baggage that never goes away is selfish & perhaps should be single until they learn how to stop having tantrums
Someone who constantly whines & needs the validation like a child is annoying. Like with children, it's cute in the beginning but eventually it gets old.
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Thanks Krysrenee..this is what I meant enfant...
Maybe he needs to grow up. Don't tell him that straight up.
Some men are over sensitive so you dance around them. It is a form of manipulation. Others have issues from childhood. Others are just weirdos. Talk to him and tell him to grow up and man up? In a nice and gentle way. 🙂
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You make one little mistake and they're pouting for days.
I can't be stoking egos all day, I have things to do. Sometimes I just jump ship and let him deal with it himself. I thought guys were supposed to be tougher? At least when I'm upset I get it out of my system and move on. But nooo, they have to drag it out. So much unnecessary drama.