Would you rather...

Have loved & lost OR to have never loved at all?

I think sometimes the pain of losing a loved one hurts just as much as it would persay you'd never found love at all...and vice versa...

So many people fear commitment b/c they're insecure and/or fear being hurt, rejection or getting betrayed. But at some point, being alone (not by choice, but b/c insecurity controls you) is more draining, hurtful & takes more out of you than actually taking that leap, committing to someone & taking the "risk" that they won't hurt you.

It takes twice the energy to avoid something as beautiful as love, than it does to take the risk & go for it. Some of us fear things that either don't exist or that weren't in the cards to happen to us anyways.

Insecurity & extreme fear can hurt the heart way more than getting hurt by someone you trusted can b/c harming self is twice as worse as someone else harming you. It's common to see 2 human beings hurting another...but it's even MORE dreadful to see someone putting themSELVES through hell, unnecessary pain, lack of respect/love. And yes, I'm a firm believer that you're cheating yourself out of alot if you avoid/walk away from love (real love).

I think it's better to have loved & lost than to have never loved at all. Everything won't last forever, nor is it meant to. Some people can't accept that; they either want love 100% of the way OR not at all b/c they can't imagine what/who'd they'd become if it were ever to be lost. So sad 😢

"....I'm a firm believer that you're cheating yourself out of alot if you avoid/walk away from love (real love)..."

so what is considered REAL LOVE—?



I would rather not have loved at all, but maybe I am cheating myself by walking away from what really is real love??
I see no point in loving if all it means is me getting hurt.

love and lost...but what a major PITA!

Love is overrated anyway! 😉

Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
Love is overrated anyway! 😉

Love is all there is. Most people who are decision makers mess things up for the rest of us. Look at it that way. As a matter of fact, look no further than dxp to get some perspective.

It is better to have loved & lost then to not have loved and allowed yourself to be loved at all. I am a firm believer that people cross our paths for specific reasons in life..there will be no regrets, just great experiences..yes, it can be a hurtful experience as well as a growing experience..to deprive oneself of love(true love)out of fear is to deprive yourself of the greatest gift of all..the gift of love!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Loved and won.
it was their loss.
and Y'all be y'all bein' sum pessimists all up in hee' yo !

I was going to say the same thing. 🙂