Skype

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by krysrenee7 on Tuesday, April 19, 2011 and has 13 replies.

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@krysrenee7
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Would you feel a tad bit disrespected, upset, concerned or skeptical if your S/O was always skying the opposite sex?

I get that texting/conversating with platonic friends of the opposite sex is harmless, but I must admit...there's something a little "weird" about your partner talking via webcam to women/men they either don't know that well OR could just as easily communicate with in other ways...

My 1 male friend swears he's in a committed relationship & that his girlfriend is all he needs. Yet, they've been having alot of arguments lately. Every time she catches him on skype, he's got a wife beater on, is trying a little "too" hard to look sexy & turns on his sexy voice. She's concerned b/c it's obvious that he's trying to look attractive while talking via web cam to other females that are supposedly "just friends." She can't seem to figure out why him looking so attractive on webcam is important to him IF the women he's talking to are "just friends."

Guys, keep it real...if you saw your girlfriend skyping a guy (friend or not) with just a tanktop on, hair & makeup perfectly in place & her clearly trying to look attractive (we can all tell when someone is hoping you'll consider them attractive), would you feel a tad bit weird about it?

I'm 50/50 on this. When my husband is talking to his friends (male or female) he could care less about how he looks, especially if he's at home & in his own atmosphere. He's not too concerned about wearing certain shirts that show off his muscles or tidying up in the bathroom before a skype session with someone b/c he doesn't have to impress someone whose "just a friend."

So if I were to see my husband getting all dolled up just to have a skype session with some chick, I can't lie, I'd feel a little weird about it.

Which brings me to my MAIN question: Of course we all like to still look attractive to the opposite sex EVEN IF/AFTER we're taken, BUT where is the cut off line? Is it technically wrong to still be doing/wearing things that are solely for the purposes of attracting the opposite sex EVEN THOUGH you're already taken? Is it wrong to be so dedicated to "impressing" the opposite sex once you're taken?

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To answer: Depends on the context of said Skyping. If he was bagging round in gym shorts, sweats, normal clothing and having a regular conversation with a friend, who cares? If he was dolling up, flexing like 'The Thinker' in the bathroom ( LOL I so thought of every social site with that..that bathroom shot ) or speaking to someone with romantic intent... there would be a problem. What I'd be more mindful of however would be if it were not within earshot ( meaning nothing going on..who cares..juss talking..if it were, same as a phone call to a mate ) and windows were slammed down as soon as the other entered a room. That would be emotional affair, I don't care what nervous high pitched laughter is associated with it. If there's nothing to be ashamed of, there's not. If there is..huge flag.