Advice--Me: Aries - Him: Sag.

Sag and I split. He couldn't keep up with me wondering if he was still invested. I, as an Aries, do a lot of mirroring. You call me, I call you. You wait 3 days to text me, I wait 3 days to text you. I figured him, being a Sag, would actually enjoy the space. He did — but he didn't like that I wasn't putting in any natural effort and I didn't like thinking he could go 3 days without talking to me. It wasn't about insecurity—it was about not even knowing what the —relationship?? was at some points that made me wonder. We were a great—nice—developed—mature unit. Massive amount of chemistry on every spectrum. A genuine caring and solidarity between us.

He said it hurt him to know he was hurting me. So, I told him he had two options to fix that. He didn't understand, but in my mind—it's either: leave or make changes.

He was packing up his things he had when we would stay over and I was making snarky comments. Like, —do you want to take the poster you gave me too— He asked me why I was being mean and why I didn't fight for us 10 minutes earlier, and had to wait until he started grabbing his minor belongings to do it. I said that it apparently wouldn't have mattered or made much difference.

And as he was putting his coat on, I told him I didn't like what he was doing.

He started to cry and then sob. I asked why he was crying when this was his decision. He said sometimes what's right doesn't always feel good. I let my guard down, and began crying, too.

He came over to me still sobbing, hugged me hard and said I don't want to continue holding you back. And left.


I sent him a message to come back and he asked if I was going to be mean or kill him. HA.

I told him I needed him for only 10 minutes to help me get through this. Being an Aries, we are a strong and wielding force, but it helps to have someone there to get through it.

He came back.

Held me as I cried and as tight as he could and kissed my forehead and told me he could stay for more than 10 minutes.

Anyway—we had sex, and then he eventually left.


I sent him a message after telling him that: —for what it's worth I do love and care for you. I held me back, not you. Thank you for everything.?? Simple and short—he didn't respond, and I didn't expect him too. Being a fire sign, we tend to move and not look back.


But, I'm wondering—what next? Is this really it? It's been a few days, but I miss hi

You two will be back together soon. There was genuine love there and worth salvaging. Get past your egos(you and him) and go from the heart.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
You two will be back together soon. There was genuine love there and worth salvaging. Get past your egos(you and him) and go from the heart.

Totally agree. Had a similar story with my sag...though about something different. I contacted him telling him how I felt about him, and could we get over this. We are back on track stronger than ever. They seem to hate the idea they are making you unhappy in anyway

Posted by beautifulsoul74
You two will be back together soon. There was genuine love there and worth salvaging. Get past your egos(you and him) and go from the heart.

Thank you both.

I decided to text him good morning today. He responded with the same immediately.
I figure I'll just do what I want to now...be natural instead of mirroring or matching.
I just don't want to end up pushing him away in any way.

Just be yourself. That's all he wants.

*fingers crossed this works out*

I really hope me and sag get back together soon,we are so similar and like the exact same things and fight over the same things which i know if this chance comes im going to change what we argue about. everything we did we had fun it,talking,traveling,going out or staying in. Everything thing is so natural between us.
i love her good and her not so good qualities and i even told her that. She has nothing bad to say about the relationship neither do i. but we broke up I need to get us back on track .

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
You two will be back together soon. There was genuine love there and worth salvaging. Get past your egos(you and him) and go from the heart.

Totally agree. Had a similar story with my sag...though about something different. I contacted him telling him how I felt about him, and could we get over this. We are back on track stronger than ever. They seem to hate the idea they are making you unhappy in anyway

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That's true.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
You two will be back together soon. There was genuine love there and worth salvaging. Get past your egos(you and him) and go from the heart.

Thank you both.

I decided to text him good morning today. He responded with the same immediately.
I figure I'll just do what I want to now...be natural instead of mirroring or matching.
I just don't want to end up pushing him away in any way.

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You definitely have a chance since he responded so quickly. Once our passions(not anger) subside and we've thought about it, we get over it quickly and as if the argument never happened. Suggest that you two meet up and talk.

So, I sent him a message again this morning. Saying I miss you, he responded back, one minute later, I miss you too.
I do want to suggest us to talk, but I can see him arguing that missing is a natural part of this process...so, I doubt he'd give credence to it.
I'm torn.

My sag still texts me nearly every night that he misses me and wants to get back together. Then two days later he will be angry and tell me he is having the woman he cheated on me with move in, goes into detail how perfect she is and how happy he is. I don't respond. Next night back to I love you, what we had was true love. Whenever we are in each other presence he can barely talk to me without crying. It's the worst emotional experience.

I've caved before but it's all cyclical. Unless you BOTH address the problem and BOTH EQUALLY work on it, Nothing will change and resentment will ensue. Sags are my fav in many levels- Good luck