Advice on a first date with Sag man

Hi everyone!
Well, to begin with, my only experience with a Sag man is my ex husband over two decades ago..and to put that into perspective, we met at a party, hit off, spent the night together..and were a couple from that point on. He was very blunt, which I liked (I'm a Libra October 21 on the cusp of Scorpio). The chemistry between us was great..we were friends right off the bat, I gave him his freedom, and somehow we just melded as a couple. I never even asked about marriage because our life together was so good and fun..he was the one who proposed a few years later!

So, I've met a man who is a Dec. 20 Sag (does that put him on the cusp of Cappy?) It's obvious from our interactions so far that the chemistry is through the roof (we haven't met in person yet). He reminds me a lot of my ex husband...blunt..to the point..and obviously VERY sexual (which I don't mind with that type of personality). He doesn't want kids (he has one from previous marriage doesn't want more)..I can't have kids...he is a year older (I'm 43) and so far, all signs point to their being some amazing physical chemistry.

I'm at the point in my life where honestly, I'd rather do something I enjoy than putting expectations on things..so in anticipation of the first date (this week) I'm starting to think that this may escalate to more than a date (and he's alluded to it too). But...I know that I don't want a one-nighter if that makes sense...No, I'm not saying it has to be a forever thing..but for me to get into it, there needs to be some form of chemistry and at least some semblance of respect if that makes sense.

So, I'd be curious..how does a Sag guy feel about sex on the first date? do they lose respect for the woman? I've read on some sites that the way to a Sag's heart is to have sex with him...how do you keep it from being friends with benefits? Part of me, though, is just thinking who cares..go with it..I haven't had a good passionate encounter in a while..but, on the other hand, if it could be FUN and something more steady, then best of all worlds?

good question. i always wondered how people felt about that.

as a sag, i wanna get down to business. emotions come later. sex on the first date is whatever. i wouldnt look at anyone differently.

Posted by DMV
good question. i always wondered how people felt about that.

as a sag, i wanna get down to business. emotions come later. sex on the first date is whatever. i wouldnt look at anyone differently.

Interesting perspective! That was kinda the way my ex husband was too. The physical was great, and the emotional came in time. I was fine with it, because honestly it was so easy to enjoy the physical with him..and we had a great friendship to boot.

I'm at the age where honestly I don't know that I care how it's perceived. Part of me is liking the anticipation, so I almost think in my head I'm ready to just go for it, regardless hehe

So, since you are a Sag...if you did get down to business right away, did that ever prevent you from feeling later on? Or, did it actually make it easier to do it again? hehe

So, since you are a Sag...if you did get down to business right away, did that ever prevent you from feeling later on? Or, did it actually make it easier to do it again? hehe

well, it depends on the partner honestly.

Dang we need a man on here to chime in.

My gut however says, 99% of men regardless of sun sign, drop you down a notch respect wise when you give up the drawers right away. I think they want to stalk, hunt, tackle, fight,then kill their prey. If they get the kill straight off the bat, it's like *yawn* lol.

IMO.

Posted by Mebs
Dang we need a man on here to chime in.

My gut however says, 99% of men regardless of sun sign, drop you down a notch respect wise when you give up the drawers right away. I think they want to stalk, hunt, tackle, fight,then kill their prey. If they get the kill straight off the bat, it's like *yawn* lol.

IMO.

Well, that is usually my own take on things, too...but Sag from what I've read (and experienced) are different. I've read that Sag men can be players, but at the same time, if they find something they like...they stick with it. I asked my ex-husband once if he felt less respect for me since we met at the party and slept together that same night and he told me that no, he actually LIKED me for being adventurous, and because we had such a great experience that night, he just wanted to keep seeing me. He was a flirt and charmer, but he never strayed, and we had a great sex life and friendship.

I tend to think it all depends on the chemistry and the friendship. With my husband, we had a lot in common, I didn't need or want to crowd him, and I enjoyed being with him physically, so it was easy for us to be in a relationship. For me, like I said, I'm at the age where I'm not looking for a white picket fence or any permanence so part of me is feeling like to heck with it..if the chemistry is there, then I may just go with it.

everyone different I think they could go either way