Agree or Disagree

I POSTED THIS ON THE SCORP BOARD THOUGH I WOULD POST IT HERE TOO 🙂

Msg: "There's no such thing as the perfect soulmate". If you meet someone and you think they're perfect, you better run in the other direction Cos your soulmate is the person that pushes all your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis, and makes you face your shit".



I mean of course you don't want to be with someone who pisses you off everyday, but for the most part I find this to be true, my sagg was saying how I have a smart mouth and he doesn't like a lot of the things I say and he get pissed when I say certain things and I feel the same way with him sometimes. Like I told him a relationship is about communication and compromise and if I pissed you off or upset you let me know cause that might be something I can change and work on and I would like the same with you. I like for a man to make me face my shit and not let me run over them because in my past if you give me an inch I will talke mile so I think in relationship you need someone who will not be a door mat and who will let each other know the error of their ways.


Funny thing I txt this message to him this afternoon becuase like I said we just talked about this and he replied

"You are always trying to be right"
True I like to be right and proved my point but when I am wrong I acknowledge that.

He also said " There is some truth to that, but I will never tell you"
He know it makes sense but he doesn't want to give me the pleasure of being right Lol.

Posted by Reason
I believe it's individual

I do realize a perfect match is an abstraction but on the other hand I, personally, do not need any pitfalls in my home life, one can get much further with a soft approach to me. Likewise or even more so, I can't stand causing pain to people I'm close with

So, I'd rather disagree, a formal relationship is not the only way to keep in touch with a person you care for, why deprive yourself of happiness and peace if you can't get along for some reason?

I always opt for harmonious solutions, they are out there if you really are willing to find one

That's me I try to be harmonious and keep the harmony between us I hate to argue and have tension, How I talk to him and other people I love I give a soft touch things I say can come harsh without me meaning to so I try to think before I speak to consider other feelings.

With him however when he comes at me in his sagg way not meaning harm but speaking his mind I do the same and at that point we butt heads why should I change me or how I communicate when you say you want me to be me so this is me either you can deal with it or you can't I have accepted things about him that I particular don't like so why can't you except how I am.

Posted by PurpleDiamond
Yes acceptance swings both ways and if its not a BALANCED union then its not a soulmate or a healthy relationship period. Should couples agree on everything all the time? Of course not but it shouldn't be 1 partner accepting all the butter. There needs to be compromise and if I'm not important enough to you to scale back your ego a bit so that we can meet in the middle and I'm not the only one making the sacrifices, then the relationship would be doing me a disservice.

EXACTLY..........

Posted by PurpleDiamond
I just looked at your profile and your Rising is in Sag so yeah its going to constantly be a power struggle between you too. With him always having the upper hand and when you go against him having the upper hands, is when when problems will occur. So either stop trying to fight against him and let him be the leader or find someone else who you won't have this power struggle with. With his Sun being in Sag and your rising being in Sag, you feed off of his energy which is why his approval is very important to you. However to him you're making a big deal out of nothing because whatever you say or do is not going to change the fact that he has the power and he will continue to have it. So you're fighting a loosing battle trying to get him to relinquish control to you. Not happening.

You hit the nail right on the head, he always say's I make a big deal out of nothing I understand he wants to be the leader and that's okay with me I want a man who can take control but at the same time I want him to be fair.

Posted by PurpleDiamond
Unfortantly its not going to be fair to YOU. What YOU think is fair, to him is speaking french. He won't understand this "fairness" you're speaking of. This relationship will always be one sided so its up to you if that's something you can deal with but its not going to change. So if you want to stay in the relationship, stay because its what you want to do and you're ok with the dynamics of this relationship. However do not stay in this relationship if you're waiting for things to turn around and operate in your favor because months, years, on down the line you're going to hate yourself for the time you waisted when you finally realize change is not coming.

Great advice and I have to consider all the good and Bad, I can say he is trying harder to work on our relationship and he is communicating more and time will tell if that will be enough.

i would have to think about what a soulmate means to me...

im thinking...

**sidenote, i f'n love Meryl Streep

Posted by PurpleDiamond
I just looked at your profile and your Rising is in Sag so yeah its going to constantly be a power struggle between you too. With him always having the upper hand and when you go against him having the upper hands, is when when problems will occur. So either stop trying to fight against him and let him be the leader or find someone else who you won't have this power struggle with. With his Sun being in Sag and your rising being in Sag, you feed off of his energy which is why his approval is very important to you. However to him you're making a big deal out of nothing because whatever you say or do is not going to change the fact that he has the power and he will continue to have it. So you're fighting a loosing battle trying to get him to relinquish control to you. Not happening.

I hate to go O/T but is that how it works? Sun match rising = Sun has upper hand? I was seeing Sag too but my Sun is his rising (Virgo). Can post somewhere else if I'm outta line here but I didnt know this. Interested.

@miasangria, maybe this will help

1. Deep and enduring Conjugal Compatibility: The Sun of one of the partners on the other person??s Moon is the most powerful indication of compatibility that exists: many long-lasting couples have this excellent configuration. The Sun symbolizes will, activity, radiance and the Moon, adaptation, receptivity and permeability. Your partner??s Moon on your Sun: you are the driving force; Your partner??s Sun on your Moon: you are the receptive pole.

2. Sexual, Sensual and Erotic Compatibility: The Venus-Mars duet in a tight conjunction is one of the strongest existing indications of physical compatibility. Mars symbolizes action, desire and warmth and Venus, sensuality, charm and sexual pleasure. Your partner??s Venus on your Mars: you are the driving force; Your partner??s Mars on your Venus: you are the receptive pole.

3. Affective Compatibility: With this very happy configuration, both partners feel very close to each other and they warmly demonstrate all their mutual affection. The Sun and Venus offer initiatives and enthusiasm to each other. Your partner??s Venus on your Sun: you are the driving force; Your partner??s Sun on your Venus: you are the receptive pole.

4. Instinctive and Emotional Compatibility: This configuration involves instinct and emotions and brings about instant physical closeness between the partners. The Ascendant is more physical and instinctive, and the Moon, more emotional, although instinctive also. This is a very interesting configuration of closeness. Your partner??s Moon on your Ascendant: you are the driving force; Your partner??s Ascendant on your Moon: you are the receptive pole.

5. Passionate and Erotic Compatibility: A powerful attraction prevails between you. However, there may be some degree of violence and passion. Pluto works in-depth, instinctively and somehow, retains a predator nature, whereas Venus is very sensitive and often favours such situations, similarly to the way she behaves with Mars. If the Venus partner does not feel too much attacked, this configuration offers the potential for??_ love-passion and eroticism at the highest level. At least, it contains as many promises as the Venus-Mars configuration, but in an even more passionate and instinctive way, although perhaps less enduring. Your partner??s Venus on your Pluto: you are the driving force; Your partner??s Pluto on your Venus: you are the receptive pole.

6. Intuitive and Intellectual Compatibility: This excellent configuration is very peculiar. The partner having Mercury on the other person??s Moon instinctively pick up the Moon person??s moods and can communicate with amazing ease, as if the former were able to mastermind the latter. The sensation of being understood is so powerful that the Moon person feels very close to the Mercury person, almost in some sort of osmosis. Your partner??s Moon on your Mercury: you are the driving force; Your partner??s Mercury on your Moon: you are the receptive pole.

7. Emotive and Physical Compatibility (potential danger for the receptive pole): Warning of danger! Nevertheless, if nothing in both charts attacks this conjunction, it is likely that the couple can enjoy a most interesting instinctive and sexual closeness. As the driving force, the Mars person is enterprising, and the other person is the adaptive pole. It is a make or break configuration. Your partner??s Moon on your Mars: you are the driving force; Your partner??s Mars on your Moon: you are the receptive pole.

8. Idealization of your partner (from your point of view)

8.a You are the ideal person, worthy of admiration, in your partner??s eyes. Your partner??s Midheaven on your Sun: you are the idealization of the Leader. If you are a male, you symbolize the lover, the guide or the ideal husband. Your partner??s Midheaven on your Venus: you are idealized on the Affective plane. If you are a female, you symbolize the ideal mistress. Your partner??s Midheaven on your Moon: you are idealized on the Emotional plane. If you are a female, you symbolize the ideal wife or woman.

8.b Your partner seems ideal to you and you admire him/her. Your partner??s Sun on your Midheaven: you idealize your partner. If he is a male, he symbolizes the lover, the guide or the ideal husband. Your partner??s Venus on your Midheaven: you idealize your partner on the Affective plane. If she is a female, she symbolizes the ideal mistress. Your partner??s Moon on your Midheaven: you idealize your partner on the Emotional plane. If she is a female, she symbolizes the ideal wife or woman.

9. Karmic and Affective Encounters — according to some Traditions

9.a It is very likely that you are meant to experience something significant together. Your partner??s Venus on your North Node: you irresistibly attract your partner. Your partner??s North Node on your Venus: you are irresistibly attracted by your partner.

9.b It is likely that in a past life, you had a special affective experience together and now you recognize each other unconsciously. Your partner??s Venus on your North Node: you irresistibly attract your partner. Your partner??s North Node on your Venus: you are irresistibly attracted by your partner.

ooooo...thanks so much for posting that! cant wait to study it more later (tired now)..explains why me and Cancer didnt work b/c I thought we would (w/ our aspects) but apparently I was in the 'lead' in several ways and didnt know it! ehhh..he's still sorta around and I dont think I've totally lost the Sag for good either 'less he really was a dirty playa.
Thanks again!!! 😄

Personally, I dont study and live by astrology but I like to see if/when/how it plays out in real life. I sometimes use it to 'explain' why some people may act the way that they do and many times its on the money.

Posted by Reason
Oh, thank you, DMV, it's really interesting .. but I didn't understand much 😢

It was interesting but like you I still have an issues understanding astrology it confusng me
but I do like to read about people to kinda figure them out but their upbringing and past relationships I think play a big part.

Posted by MzSagittarius
I disagree. To ME a soul mate doesn't have to be someone you're romantically involved with. I think soul mates are here to learn from one another or at least one party learns. After you've learned what you needed to, the simply move one (death, end of a relationship, etc.)

i agree.