Aloha

to the kids, I am uncle J. Their mama had to correct them a couple of times the 1st day, but now I am their uncle ... lol, it's an asian thing I guess.

My sag's mom was a great sport ... especially since my sag never told her I was coming. She just introduced me by my name as she brought me in. It's all good because no one liked the husband. The next day the mom just said straight up that she will be happy as long as I take good care of her daughter and babies (the grand kids).

Funniest story: B-day party for her youngest son, I'm out grilling with the rest of the uncles ... lol, the real ones (maybe). One of the older guys leans over to me and he says, you know she's married ... as if he were breaking the news to me. Then he went on and on about how he was worried about her and how her husband might get a gun and be waiting for her when she goes home. He was like, I know how white people think, one sided brain, if he can't have her he'll just want to end it all for everyone ... then he started making shooting noises, pew pew pew and then pew ... he'll finish himself off too. He says if I love her I'll get her to forget about her stuff and just take her and kids straight to my home.

my poor sag is having a hard time. It's crunch time and she's in a fragile place. her family puts a lot of expectations on her too.

I have a question. how come she hasnt left her husband?

this all did come up quick since we met up a few weeks ago. originally, she said she was going to leave him in about a year. Within days of the two of us being apart, we got the idea that summer was best time to make the move. So, ever since then we've both been doing what we need to do to make that happen ... although, she's going to be in Hawaii a lot longer than we planned at 1st (long story). The plan is for her to pack her stuff as soon as she gets back. He's already been saying he is going to fight for custody of kids etc. ... but, I really don't think he has the means to care for them so I don't know what's going to come of all that. He might be able to make it hard for her to leave the state with them.

I think that other uncle gave you some foreshadowing. As soon as he said gun, id be outtie

Man, I wonder how karma will play out in this scenario

Welcome back! Everything seems to be going smoothly which is good for you! Why didn't your girlfriend introduce you as a friend or something? Don't you think it would be weird if you two were to get married? The kids would be thinking that their mom just married her brother. Anyway, glad everything's good! Keep us updated!

Lol, BS74 ... i think it is karma, the husband is pretty selfish a-hole ... yells at his kids all the time ... i've seen video my sag has shot of "family time", he doesn't act caring, just yelling. The kids have barely mentioned him the whole time i've been here so far.

Aries16 .. i swear the uncle thing is an asian thing. I write about an aries friend/(ex-crush) of mine too, and she grew up with a "tall uncle" as much as with her dad. It was pretty confusing to her. Her mom never confessed what was the nature of that relationship 😛 My sag calls her step-dad and her mom's current BF "uncle" too. It's funny, if a guy marries an asian girl, and suddenly there is a new "uncle" in the family ... time to step up or step aside.

Meanwhile, sag and I are re-assured everyday that we finally found our soulmate. It's freaking awesome!