Mebs
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Am I overreacting?
fuck no. you are not overreacting, mofo lied. with that said. you guys talked, you love him, try to make it work. i mean he said he stopped and thats all you have to go on, his word.
its easy for me to tell u to fuck hi, break up. but u know thats not what u want.
its easy for me to tell u to fuck hi, break up. but u know thats not what u want.
now, u watch him like a hawk
Yeah girl you're right. That's why I'm pissed. If he'd said in the beginning his stuff was messy, I wouldn't have even started. Now that I'm all involved and crap it's difficult . Shoot. That's why his butt lied.
And I was super pissed becaused I apologized for biting his head off, then he tells me that crap. I wanted to yell, "Give back my apology!!!!". Smh.
And I was super pissed becaused I apologized for biting his head off, then he tells me that crap. I wanted to yell, "Give back my apology!!!!". Smh.
Mebs ,
I vaguely recall ,you mentioned somewhere his ex was a aquahahaha sun?
I dont think you'r over reacting btw .
Sun opposition moon .Your sun opposes his moon .Theres also a square formed between his sun and your moon .
Friction in such relationships is an inevitable part of the many highs it may have .
So from a functional perspective, his sentiments are exactly the same as yours .Communication is the key ,frank communication .
If at the beginning ,he lied to you and was evasive about it ,its suggests he didnt open up to you .Scorps dont open up that easy .
But ,you say he later(after the argument) confessed about it .Look at the bright side .Hes making amends by opening up more .What did he eject from the evasive mode?
That being said, keep an eye out for jittery moments when you discuss such matters .Its all in the eyes ,eyes never lie no matter how smoothly we'd like to conduct ourselves .Scorps are not gods ,you'll find umpteen number of assholes .You also mentioned he only had one previous marriage .So i think hes one of the stable ones 🙂
Look at both the sides when you'r in such scenarios and what i mean by that is pay attention to deeds rather than words . ultimately look after yourself and go after wgat suits you best .Patience ...patience...take a long breathe .. 🙂
I vaguely recall ,you mentioned somewhere his ex was a aquahahaha sun?
I dont think you'r over reacting btw .
Sun opposition moon .Your sun opposes his moon .Theres also a square formed between his sun and your moon .
Friction in such relationships is an inevitable part of the many highs it may have .
So from a functional perspective, his sentiments are exactly the same as yours .Communication is the key ,frank communication .
If at the beginning ,he lied to you and was evasive about it ,its suggests he didnt open up to you .Scorps dont open up that easy .
But ,you say he later(after the argument) confessed about it .Look at the bright side .Hes making amends by opening up more .What did he eject from the evasive mode?
That being said, keep an eye out for jittery moments when you discuss such matters .Its all in the eyes ,eyes never lie no matter how smoothly we'd like to conduct ourselves .Scorps are not gods ,you'll find umpteen number of assholes .You also mentioned he only had one previous marriage .So i think hes one of the stable ones 🙂
Look at both the sides when you'r in such scenarios and what i mean by that is pay attention to deeds rather than words . ultimately look after yourself and go after wgat suits you best .Patience ...patience...take a long breathe .. 🙂
Posted by Mebs
Yeah girl you're right. That's why I'm pissed. If he'd said in the beginning his stuff was messy, I wouldn't have even started. Now that I'm all involved and crap it's difficult . Shoot. That's why his butt lied.
And I was super pissed becaused I apologized for biting his head off, then he tells me that crap. I wanted to yell, "Give back my apology!!!!". Smh.
i know the feeling about wanting your apology back. men and their baby mamas are so touchy. one of the reasons why i dont dat emen with kids. you just never know.
but i do believe him when he said that he stopped. he probably started to feel guilty because his feelings were developing for you, have u ever met her?
Posted by DMVPosted by Mebs
Yeah girl you're right. That's why I'm pissed. If he'd said in the beginning his stuff was messy, I wouldn't have even started. Now that I'm all involved and crap it's difficult . Shoot. That's why his butt lied.
And I was super pissed becaused I apologized for biting his head off, then he tells me that crap. I wanted to yell, "Give back my apology!!!!". Smh.
i know the feeling about wanting your apology back. men and their baby mamas are so touchy. one of the reasons why i dont dat emen with kids. you just never know.
but i do believe him when he said that he stopped. he probably started to feel guilty because his feelings were developing for you, have u ever met her?click to expand
No I never met her. And I never asked. One thing I know can be irritating for men is the fact that I'm very protective of my daughter and my home. No men come around her or my house. I do not plan on introducing her to anyone until there is serious talk of marriage, moving in etc. So I never push me meeting her, or his son for that matter because I feel it would be hypocritical on my part.
He told me about 2 months ago, he had a dream where he was on the street and I casually said hi to him and go into my car. He said his son's mom came up to me saying, "Hey let me clean your car for you."and started cleaning the bumper. He said he felt like she was trying to let him know that she knew I'm the woman he's with now. I asked why that came into his head and he said he had no idea.
Thanks Piro 🙂 I am definitely doing a woosah. I don't know what her sign is. He's so private, I really don't pry. I'm baffled as to how he has the nerve to be mad at me after all of this. We were supposed to talk today and of course in his typical spiteful fashion, he never called.
I've been getting on him lately, and he's been more open lately. He confessed to the things he does just to get a rise out of me. He told me how he's having his son's mother's aunt evicted from his property because she hasn't been paying and is telling lies about damage in the apartment to get him in trouble. I'd offer to pay for dinner because I never treated him on his b-day. He told me he wouldn't have it, as no one has ever done for me what I did on his b-day in his life.He also told me he thinks I'm starting trouble with him because I want to leave, but I don't want to come out and say it. I told him that was the dumbest thing he ever said, and nothing could be urther from the truth.
So maybe, he really believes I'm looking elsewhere and is trying to placate me with being more open? I must say, he really has addressed my complaints as well. It just seems I really feel for him more and more. And in response I get more and more fearful and analyze every little thing he does. Not cool 😢
I've been getting on him lately, and he's been more open lately. He confessed to the things he does just to get a rise out of me. He told me how he's having his son's mother's aunt evicted from his property because she hasn't been paying and is telling lies about damage in the apartment to get him in trouble. I'd offer to pay for dinner because I never treated him on his b-day. He told me he wouldn't have it, as no one has ever done for me what I did on his b-day in his life.He also told me he thinks I'm starting trouble with him because I want to leave, but I don't want to come out and say it. I told him that was the dumbest thing he ever said, and nothing could be urther from the truth.
So maybe, he really believes I'm looking elsewhere and is trying to placate me with being more open? I must say, he really has addressed my complaints as well. It just seems I really feel for him more and more. And in response I get more and more fearful and analyze every little thing he does. Not cool 😢
i think its a good idea for him to not be his baby mothers landlord. too messy.
Then this muthatrucka reveals this lie confirming my need to be paranoid and analyze every crumb!! AHA! Lol. I had to laugh a little...
Posted by DMV
i think its a good idea for him to not be his baby mothers landlord. too messy.
Yeah. Lol. His son's mother's AUNT. Either way, the less ties the better. He said he faults her for the problems, because the lady has mental issues, and she never told him.
Posted by MebsPosted by DMV
i think its a good idea for him to not be his baby mothers landlord. too messy.
Yeah. Lol. His son's mother's AUNT. Either way, the less ties the better. He said he faults her for the problems, because the lady has mental issues, and she never told him.click to expand
surprised he didnt pick up on it.
hopefully this will be the end of his secrets. i mean how would he feel if you were still having a sexual relationship with your childs
father? hed be pissed off.
did he tell you exactly when he stopped?
father? hed be pissed off.
did he tell you exactly when he stopped?
He said a couple of months after we started going out. We didn't have sex until after 3 months so maybe then?
But I'll tell you when I think he stopped, if indeed he's telling the truth. About halfway into January, he stopped seeing me. He would occasionally call. But wouldn't answer my calls too often, and we never went out. We only saw each other in passing at work. I asked him repeatedly what was up, if he wanted to stop seeing me. He said no, he was having issues with his kid's mom. Then after that, he said her brother was sick and she had to go to D.C. every weekend to see him in a cancer clinic, so he had to keep his son every weekend. After a while I said this is some bull and cut off all contact.There were no calls exchanged for 3 weeks. Then he text me hi, and I didn't reply. A few nights later, he text me 5 times and called me about 7 times asking why I wasn't answering. When I answered, he said he missed me and wanted to be with me. He came on super strong. I was leery, but ended up seeing him the next week. He promised that would never happen again and apologized, still maintaing his story.
Besides our regular nonsense, there haven't been any more incidents like that since. I think that time period might've been when he ended it, if indeed he did.
But I'll tell you when I think he stopped, if indeed he's telling the truth. About halfway into January, he stopped seeing me. He would occasionally call. But wouldn't answer my calls too often, and we never went out. We only saw each other in passing at work. I asked him repeatedly what was up, if he wanted to stop seeing me. He said no, he was having issues with his kid's mom. Then after that, he said her brother was sick and she had to go to D.C. every weekend to see him in a cancer clinic, so he had to keep his son every weekend. After a while I said this is some bull and cut off all contact.There were no calls exchanged for 3 weeks. Then he text me hi, and I didn't reply. A few nights later, he text me 5 times and called me about 7 times asking why I wasn't answering. When I answered, he said he missed me and wanted to be with me. He came on super strong. I was leery, but ended up seeing him the next week. He promised that would never happen again and apologized, still maintaing his story.
Besides our regular nonsense, there haven't been any more incidents like that since. I think that time period might've been when he ended it, if indeed he did.
Posted by DazedScorp
A Saggy overreacting?
It can't be true!
Lol! I'm very open to acknowledging my faults, and trying to make them better. I know I'm a firecracker. I really do try...
Posted by Mebs
He said a couple of months after we started going out. We didn't have sex until after 3 months so maybe then?
But I'll tell you when I think he stopped, if indeed he's telling the truth. About halfway into January, he stopped seeing me. He would occasionally call. But wouldn't answer my calls too often, and we never went out. We only saw each other in passing at work. I asked him repeatedly what was up, if he wanted to stop seeing me. He said no, he was having issues with his kid's mom. Then after that, he said her brother was sick and she had to go to D.C. every weekend to see him in a cancer clinic, so he had to keep his son every weekend. After a while I said this is some bull and cut off all contact.There were no calls exchanged for 3 weeks. Then he text me hi, and I didn't reply. A few nights later, he text me 5 times and called me about 7 times asking why I wasn't answering. When I answered, he said he missed me and wanted to be with me. He came on super strong. I was leery, but ended up seeing him the next week. He promised that would never happen again and apologized, still maintaing his story.
Besides our regular nonsense, there haven't been any more incidents like that since. I think that time period might've been when he ended it, if indeed he did.
very observant. i said it b4 and i'll say it again. when they get distant like that, its because there is another woman involved.
i just reread what you wrote and im second guessing myself...
so he really never planned on telling you about him and her? and he only stopped because it wasnt helping their situation?
1.)what exactly is their situation?
2.)he stopped sleeping with her because of their situation, NOT your relationship with him...u see the difference?
so he really never planned on telling you about him and her? and he only stopped because it wasnt helping their situation?
1.)what exactly is their situation?
2.)he stopped sleeping with her because of their situation, NOT your relationship with him...u see the difference?
Posted by DMV
i just reread what you wrote and im second guessing myself...
so he really never planned on telling you about him and her? and he only stopped because it wasnt helping their situation?
1.)what exactly is their situation?
2.)he stopped sleeping with her because of their situation, NOT your relationship with him...u see the difference?
I definitely see the difference. He says he likes having access to his son freely, and she usually allows that. He said problems arose when she began busting chops about who the baby was around, and where he was going to spend the holidays.
I am watching him closely, but 2 things I'll say. First, he was very mad at me, and probably wanted to tell me to fuck off, but couldn't bring himself to do it. He wasn't feeling benevolent lol.
Secondly, he said from the beginning he wanted no relationship and no kids. Period. Around a month ago, out of the blue, he says "I don't want another kid...well at least not now. We'll see how things go.". When I asked him about his b-day, he said "I honestly don't give a fuck. I don't like anyone to do anything.". Yet he still talks about what I gave him, and apologized for saying that the other day. So all in all, I don't think I had anything to do with it back then. I think I'm growing on him against his will lol.
^^^ Meaning where the baby would spend the holidays I meant.
I see both points of view when I first met my sagg I was still messing with my baby father's and he asked if I was single and I told him yes which I was. I only mess with the baby daddy on a sexual level because I had already been there and done that so when I got in the mood I always had him, Scorps we feel when we first meet someone we don't tell you everything even though maybe we should and with something like that he probably felt is not a relationship just sex with someone he has a child with no big deal when things get serious if it goes anywhere I will cut off the baby mom.
Dont ask me why but that's how we think or how I thought, I went through something similiar with my sagg I hide something like that from him and when he found after we were dating he was upset, I act like it wasn't nothing and he was like DAMN you act like it's nothing cause I kept avoiding the situation(which scorps are good at). At that point it was too late cause he had already fell for me but I felt really bad he knew or I hope he knew I was sorry so he look past it. Also another time when we had like a 1 month break from eachother I went on a date, so after the fact when we got back together I told him about it and he threw it in my face several times I mean he just now recently stop talking about it.
Dont ask me why but that's how we think or how I thought, I went through something similiar with my sagg I hide something like that from him and when he found after we were dating he was upset, I act like it wasn't nothing and he was like DAMN you act like it's nothing cause I kept avoiding the situation(which scorps are good at). At that point it was too late cause he had already fell for me but I felt really bad he knew or I hope he knew I was sorry so he look past it. Also another time when we had like a 1 month break from eachother I went on a date, so after the fact when we got back together I told him about it and he threw it in my face several times I mean he just now recently stop talking about it.
@ScorpDiva Thanks for the Scorp pov. That is something that angers me. I'm taking it like he only told me now because he knows I really care for him, and the chances of me cutting him off are slim. If he'd told me in the beginning, I would've passed on him. That is my big gripe with him. He has opened up significantly since then, but I feel like "What's the big deal for you to have hid that?". I don't know. Maybe he feels the same way, since he told me he loves me and I didnt say it back. I felt like I was going to have a panic attack, and maybe for him it wasnt a big deal. *shrugs*
And know he has the balls to be mad at me. I want to hit him with a slew of texts telling him about himself, but I won't do that. Right now at least 😛
And know he has the balls to be mad at me. I want to hit him with a slew of texts telling him about himself, but I won't do that. Right now at least 😛
Mebs, why don't you guys ever get together? It seems like that is both hard for you to commit?
Posted by Mebs
And know he has the balls to be mad at me. I want to hit him with a slew of texts telling him about himself, but I won't do that. Right now at least 😛
shit, have at it!
What do you mean sag 89?
Posted by DMVPosted by Mebs
And know he has the balls to be mad at me. I want to hit him with a slew of texts telling him about himself, but I won't do that. Right now at least 😛
shit, have at it!click to expand
Girl you don't have to tell me twice. Raaaaaawwwwwrrr!!!!
Like do you not want him to be your boyfriend? lol
they are together
Oh I definitely do! I hate dating. But he said in the beginning he didn't want a relationship.
The only thing is when we were arguing Friday I said, "Technically I shouldn't give a fuck because it's not like you're my man or anything.". He replied, "I'm not saying that. You are. ". But I just ignored him because I wasn't in the mood to inquire further.
I don't want to muscle him into a commitment, then he messes up. I really don't want to get hurt 😢
The only thing is when we were arguing Friday I said, "Technically I shouldn't give a fuck because it's not like you're my man or anything.". He replied, "I'm not saying that. You are. ". But I just ignored him because I wasn't in the mood to inquire further.
I don't want to muscle him into a commitment, then he messes up. I really don't want to get hurt 😢
Oh I see. So your like half together?
Posted by MebsPosted by DMV
they are together
Technically no. We never spelled anything outclick to expand
if it walks like a duck, talk likes a duck, its a duck...
had he ever slept over 3 nights in a row?
No. I don't let him in my house. And between my daughter and his son I've only stayed over one night. I know I'm messed up 😢
Posted by DazedScorpPosted by DMVPosted by MebsPosted by DMV
they are together
Technically no. We never spelled anything out
if it walks like a duck, talk likes a duck, its a duck...
You've obviously never met a midget with a high pitched squeaky voice...click to expand
lol
Mebs i donno exactly when your birthday is but i wanna wish you many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many HBD!
I hope you dont take the course of that other sag and despise me when things go downhill! 😢
Sincerely hope everything gets sorted out pretty soon .I wanna know how things work out on your bday and on new year eve .How he reciprocates on such days is an indication of where you stand .Please dont forget to give me details of what transpires on the above specified days .Dont be fooled ,he may be an airy moon but hes still a scorp .We dont forget our near and dear ones on special days .
If we'r stuck dueto busy scheduling on that day we'll acknowledge and make amends somehow ,later .Some other random day, we'll make it a special day,just like that .
I guess i never told you that bday bashes(mine) are not a special event(was late by 2 week when you opened the thread on scorp board about bdays) .From my perspective, youthful years are flowing down the drains and am getting older .
I'd also like to point out that during small squabbles , make full use of your sag comic timing to digress from the serious topic.Hes a gem moon ,moon rules emotions.Just take note to draw the LINES and do tell him about that frankly .He may not readily acknowledge them but in the long run you'll notice it in his deeds .
You are well aware of the infamous scorp push pull saga .Dont appear clingy by any means ,he'll push you away .Sags are independent folks ,live up to that image ,he'll come running back to yoi .Identify each others boundaries for scorps can be independent as sags imo .
Relax its december ,the season of ho ho ho ,you know who . Have fun 🙂
I hope you dont take the course of that other sag and despise me when things go downhill! 😢
Sincerely hope everything gets sorted out pretty soon .I wanna know how things work out on your bday and on new year eve .How he reciprocates on such days is an indication of where you stand .Please dont forget to give me details of what transpires on the above specified days .Dont be fooled ,he may be an airy moon but hes still a scorp .We dont forget our near and dear ones on special days .
If we'r stuck dueto busy scheduling on that day we'll acknowledge and make amends somehow ,later .Some other random day, we'll make it a special day,just like that .
I guess i never told you that bday bashes(mine) are not a special event(was late by 2 week when you opened the thread on scorp board about bdays) .From my perspective, youthful years are flowing down the drains and am getting older .
I'd also like to point out that during small squabbles , make full use of your sag comic timing to digress from the serious topic.Hes a gem moon ,moon rules emotions.Just take note to draw the LINES and do tell him about that frankly .He may not readily acknowledge them but in the long run you'll notice it in his deeds .
You are well aware of the infamous scorp push pull saga .Dont appear clingy by any means ,he'll push you away .Sags are independent folks ,live up to that image ,he'll come running back to yoi .Identify each others boundaries for scorps can be independent as sags imo .
Relax its december ,the season of ho ho ho ,you know who . Have fun 🙂
Awww. Thank you so much Piro! I'll definitely keep you updated. And as always your advice is sincerely appreciated. I guess my Sag free spirit is good for this situation. Yay!
And no. I won't push you away no matter what this Scorp does. He is only one man, and cannot undo my affection for all of the nice Scorp sun/Gem mooners out there 🙂
And no. I won't push you away no matter what this Scorp does. He is only one man, and cannot undo my affection for all of the nice Scorp sun/Gem mooners out there 🙂
Happy birthday mebs? !!!!
Thanks Sag89! It's the 17th.
Posted by Mebs
Thanks Sag89! It's the 17th.
Ahhh two days after me! I thought it was cause what the person said but cool!
I think you're overreacting just a little.
The only thing that I'd worry about now is that you have an uneasy feeling. Those are never good and almost always reveal something bad is going on.
I only say you're overreacting because you could handle things a little better. Idk...that's just me tho...I try not to accuse people of things. Doing so means you are paranoid...which sounds like at this point you are. And at that point most people want to get to the bottom of things or they'll lose their mind, so I don't blame you. I still think it was an overreaction tho. Just sayin 😛
The only thing that I'd worry about now is that you have an uneasy feeling. Those are never good and almost always reveal something bad is going on.
I only say you're overreacting because you could handle things a little better. Idk...that's just me tho...I try not to accuse people of things. Doing so means you are paranoid...which sounds like at this point you are. And at that point most people want to get to the bottom of things or they'll lose their mind, so I don't blame you. I still think it was an overreaction tho. Just sayin 😛
Posted by Mebs
Oh I definitely do! I hate dating. But he said in the beginning he didn't want a relationship.
The only thing is when we were arguing Friday I said, "Technically I shouldn't give a fuck because it's not like you're my man or anything.". He replied, "I'm not saying that. You are. ". But I just ignored him because I wasn't in the mood to inquire further.
I don't want to muscle him into a commitment, then he messes up. I really don't want to get hurt 😢
He doesn't want a relationship? And you've been seeing him for 20 months?
Sounds to me like you want a relationship. Are you okay with not being in a relationship with him?
This whole situation just spells trouble. Trust me, I know from experience. You say you don't want to get hurt, but you're putting yourself into a situation where you could be hurt :/
@Happy Thanks those are very good points
i am definitely not a fan of non-relationships
drives me nuts to feel like i'm in limbo
i'm impressed by your patience
drives me nuts to feel like i'm in limbo
i'm impressed by your patience
also, i think it makes sense that you would want to know more about the situation....
all you can really do is try and feel it out and try and read his actions as i think was suggested by others here.
i hope it does work out for you.
all you can really do is try and feel it out and try and read his actions as i think was suggested by others here.
i hope it does work out for you.
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