Completely Baffled

I was —friends?? with this girl at work (Sagittarius). We even went so far as to meet up outside of work and hang out with our significant others. She was always overly friendly and would constantly talk to me and compliment me at work which my direct co-worked always found odd. She would constantly check my facebook account and recollect all of my events and what I wore, how nice I looked, and how fabulous my fianc? and I look together. I was engaged in September of last year and she teared and put on this whole show about how happy she was for me. Prior to this she would tell me intimate details of her and her boyfriend (how she caught him cheating on her)??_she would talk about getting engaged??_but I never commented much on my life??_I am pretty private??_

Fast forward to about a month after my engagement??_a girl at my job was making the comment that she needed to find a man who would get her a ring like mine??_and my so called —friend?? made the comment —oh please, it took her long enough to get that thing??_—?_I found that very surprising and it caught me off guard??_I initially tried to diffuse the comment by jokingly saying, don't be jealous??_which she retaliated and said oh honey, trust me I am not??_

I couldn't believe where all of this was coming from??_later on I told her that what she had said was unnecessary and she immediately apologized but then continued to say that if her boyfriend didn't propose until 4 years into their relationship she would no longer be with him...so she pretty much confirmed that her statement was spoken with meaning, and not as a joke??_she sent me an email too saying that she would never say anything to hurt me??_blah blah blah??_

I pretty much kept my distance all week??_and then it was starting to feel a bit awkward??_so the Pisces that I am actually talked to her and told her that I know she had apologized but that I had needed some time to distance myself from the situation but that we had been friends and I didn't want things to be uncomfortable at work??_and that we should just leave everything behind us??_she hugged me??_and then the next day when I went to say hello to her??_she barely replied and pretty much stopped speaking to me from there on??_

I know logically it is for the best and I don't want someone like that in my life??_but I can't help but be completely baffled??_so now we completely ignore each other and don't so much as look at each other??_and I am amaze

Wait, what did she do that you didn't like?

About a month after my engagement??_a girl at my job was making the comment that she needed to find a man who would get her a ring like mine??_and my so called —friend?? (the Sag) made the comment —oh please, it took her long enough to get that thing??_??

??_I found that very surprising and it caught me off guard??_I initially tried to diffuse the comment by jokingly saying, don't be jealous??_which she retaliated and said oh honey, trust me I am not??_

That's sag's "mouth in foot" syndrome. Her jealousy came out. Of course she'll deny she's jealous - but that's the bottome line. Plain and simple.

I have had so many Sag friends who I all genuinely loved...I even dated a Sag for 9 years...and although I am very well aware of their foot in mouth syndrome...I have never known any of them to be jealous...

I guess there is always a first for everything...

I am definitely better off...that is one quality I find disgusting...I am all for celebrating other's successes no matter where you may be in life...

I wish her the best far from my life...

It gets me when people say "they don't get jealous"...my OPINION on this:

EVERYONE gets jealous - it's an emotion. That's like saying "I don't get happy" or "I don't get angry"....

THE KEY: It's what we do with the emotion when we feel it inside. Do we act on it? Understand it? Let it go? Discuss it in a logical manner, or, like a Sag can do AT TIME: be subject to their "foot in the mouth syndrome".

I dont think it is jealousy, she just said what she thought.

In my experience, sags are not very open with their negative feelings. I find them quite mysterious characters contrary to their open-ness.




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also you are over reacting, your sag friend clarified, apologized... wrote and explained to you.. what else do you want?? ... a letter written with blood or something.. something about you is minutely critic, a Virgo?? mercury/ sun??.

Posted by WinterBorn


Sags always think everybody likes them, until someone tells us they don't. 😢

HAHAHA ..

there is another problem, they have no idea who actually DOES like them, I am zooming In on a sag girl, very very strong sexy woman (a bit older, 6 years) and she asked me upfront, to my face, ''you dont really like me much, do you?" .. LOL .. talk about ignorance. 😉


she is very intriguing, and like a good book, I am in no hurry to turn the pages.

I get it...I was with a Sag for 9 years and was very aware of their foot in mouth syndrome...

But I also knew them to be aware that when it offended someone else to take responsibility for it...we were friends...and the fact that she stopped talking to me all together is what baffles me...let's say I was being an emotional Pisces and took her comment as hurtful...I was woman enough to confront her on it...and then I was also the one to approach her to patch things up...and then she ceased all communication all together...

It's none of her business if she thinks the engagement took too long or for her to tell me she wouldn't wait that long...I never asked her...and always made it clear I wasn't waiting for a ring...so her comment came out of the blue...and if she was joking she would have said it out loud so I could hear...she said it to our co-worker who then laughed and told me what she said...it was all said in poor taste...and could have been resolved after I approached her to discuss...but I guess it was easier for her to not deal with at all...which shows me that the friendship was never legit to begin with...

Ariessun you got it spot on! DRY WIT! That's it!

An example, i went out for non alcoholic drinks(i'm trying not to be the usual sag lush anymore) the other day i think monday and my mate kept coughing at the bar, i was like "can you stop coughing in my mouth?" of course she wasn't coughing in my mouth but then an hour later she says sorry for coughing in your mouth! i was like silly girl you didn't, what i meant was had you covered your mouth you wouldn't have spread any germs-then i realised she was getting offended and made it even worse when i tried to explain that it's the same thing as like when i told her to move her fat arse that it wasn't fat but normal sized and she was like when did you say that?? I realised i must have said it to someone else, no apologies needed