Ex - Sag Contacted Me Last Night

I haven't spoken to him since he broke up with me. We had a hot and heavy and FAST relationship that lasted about 2 months when he aburptly ended it citing "I don't know" as his reason.

He wanted to remain friends at the time, but I didn't feel I could see him and not want to be with him.

Now, it's been several months, and he sent me a message asking if I could hook him up with a "deal" on some green stuff some people take enjoyment out of.

I was really pissed off about the request, after months of silence. I told him "No go. I'm out of that business."

No word back from him but a mutual friend said he was in a terrible mood.

Any thoughts? I think his request was f'd up but part me wants to think it could have meant more. That dumb part that still misses him. It's probably not making a lot of sense, what do you think?

Aw. I think he misses you.

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winterborn?

I had this odd feeling earlier in the week that he was thinking about me. I couldn't get him out of my mind all day, something that hasn't happened for awhile now. Then he texts.

I am more like you winterborn...my outlook is not too optimistic. But he figured out a reason to get back in contact with me...I just didn't like his reason. I still don't because it's too open. Like, is it an excuse to say hi and be friends, or an excuse to see me again? Both? Confusing...

I am thinking of giving it a couple of weeks and inviting him out for coffee as I was feeling I could be a kind of friend again. We have one mutual friend, it would be good to be on good terms...

sorry you are depressed, wb

I meant more like I think he misses you...in a general kind of way.
Rather that means he wants to get back together or not, I have no clue?

I just know I've missed an ex before in a totally non-romantic way, like I wanted them back or anything.
But rather I just missed them as a person/missed their friendship.


You should just ask. Find out. 🙂

My advice...

Don't call him, don't make excuses for him... ie. "Any thoughts? I think his request was f'd up but part me wants to think it could have meant more."

If he's into you and misses you, you would know it, TRUST ME!!! Guys are simple creatures, they either like you or they don't there should be no guessing (maybe in the beginning).

I don't think that call was anymore than it is... he was just calling hoping to get "hooked up" in that department.

We as women tend to (when we really like a guy) dissect every little thing they say and hope it means more than it really does. He's already broke it off with you once, why would you want to be with a guy who didn't want you?? You deserve better than that.

I know this saying is very trite but There are plenty of fishes in the sea. Live your own life and forget about this loser.

"If he's into you and misses you, you would know it, TRUST ME!!! Guys are simple creatures, they either like you or they don't there should be no guessing (maybe in the beginning). "

I completely agree. Which is why I responded to him the way I did, and haven't responded in any other way since. Nice thing is, I am over him. I miss him sometimes but wouldn't go back with him even if that was why he contacted me. That part of my life is over, his chance with me is gone.

And I agree with Brianna and Archer that he is missing me as a person, probably not romantically.

I maybe could be friends with him. Unfortunately, I'm kind of mad all over again at him for contacting me like that..FOR that without laying some groundwork first. Feels like being used for something.

Sex with HIM as a friend wouldn't happen. He told me he loved me and then broke it off very shortly thereafter. No trust in that direction whatsoever. I can have sex without emotion, but not with this guy.

I wish we could have you sags comments on another thread. Wouldn't that be interesting ... to see what was going on from his perspective during the same 2 months and after? More DXPer's should date ... so we can see both sides.